I'd say go where you and your husband would feel most comfortable staying. If you're uncomfortable, you feelings may spread to your guests staying with you. Also, i imagine that they will like where ever you choose. Just the fact of being at disney i think would be a wow factor. Like others said, SSR offers a "cheery" feeling with the color scheme there. I feel the same way about the dark colors at AKV. I haven't been to OKW. I don't want to sway you either way, just giving you a few thoughts.
just thought too..... How about showing all involved the rooms on the virtual tour...see what everyone likes? But again, i think you need to feel comfortable with your decision, the others would follow suit.