Afraid to stay alone at night?

[Nanabug02]

Hi,

Are there any other women who get scared staying alone at night? I know I must be a big scaredy cat, but every time my DH goes out of town for work, I freak smooth out having to stay by myself. I'm fine all day, but as soon as it gets dark and I have to go to sleep, I get scared.

I live in a nice, safe neighborhood. I have a big dog that sleeps on my bed with me, and I have a gun by the bed. But I STILL can't help being scared. I hate it. Anyone else out there understand?

 

[Cindy B]

No not at all.

 

[Pop Daddy]

just relax and rent a slasher movie

 

[CathrynRose]

Not scared like you are.... I'm scared of ghosts.

It's pathetic - I know this - but if I watch any sort of ghost show, before bed, I sleep with the light on.

 

[Bluestars]

My husband rarely has to work late at night, but when he does it is so hard for me the relax. I always think I hear noises. Luckily, we have an alarm system, but still it gets scary. There's something about my husband sleeping next to me that makes me feel safe.

One time I woke up because I heard music. i walked out into the hall and was trying to figure out where it was coming from when it just stopped. I never did figure it out. It was late at night and my husband was not home. It was creepy.

 

[hercamore]

Yep, I've been married 31 years, and I still worry when I'm alone at night.

I see you're in north Texas. My DD just moved to Abilene xmas week.

She likes it there. They're near the AFB.



herc.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

I would always feel like you do, but I never had a gun or dog, but then I had the 3 ds and it was worse, because not only did I worry about me, I worried about them.

Now they are grown and are 21,19 and 17 and still all live at home, and now dh is goiing away to california for a trip on Friday, I know my ds can take care of anyone who comes here univited!!

 

[CathrynRose]

One time I woke up because I heard music. i walked out into the hall and was trying to figure out where it was coming from when it just stopped. I never did figure it out. It was late at night and my husband was not home. It was creepy.

SEE??? That would have made all the light on the house come on, that night.

Im very cranky, like psycho cranky, if you wake me up.... perhaps thats why Im not scared. If someone broke in, and woke me up, it's *on*.

 

[Bluestars]

Cathryn, I read your post right after I posted mine. Yeah, I didn't sleep so well that night. Do do do do <<<<<twilight zone music

 

[freckles and boo]

No, I can't say that I do. My husband travels a LOT for work. I don't have a dog or a gun, but I do have a routine I follow before I go to bed that involves checking the doors and windows, etc. I just don't let the "what ifs" worry me.

 

[mnasmom3]

Petrified! My dh travels for work, too. I hate it. My fear stems back to childhood. I'll spare you the details as I'm certain they won't be helpful. Just wanted you to know that I totally get the fear.

 

[RitaE]

I always make the beagle get into bed with me when DH isn't there,
I have no idea why. What kind of psycho housebreaker intent on harm and mayhem would be scared of a beagle?

Still, he snores a little like DH, it is hard to sleep without some snoring.

 

[mykidsand_i]

I am...I hate it when DH travels for work. I don't have a big dog or a gun either- I don't think I ever will...but man, when he's gone I have to take sleeping pills to actually sleep...Dr. perscribed of course. I hate it. He travels a few times a year- sometimes just an over-night trip, then once a year he's gone for like two and a half to three weeks over sea's and that's horrible.

Last trip I actually got to the point of inviting my mom to come and stay for a week...it was fun, but not like having hubby home...I'm a super whimp.

 

[mom2rb]

When DH started traveling for his last job, I adopted large dog number three. I don't know why number three made such a difference, but now I could put out banner outside saying "Hey scary person, DH is out of town!"
I know it's twisted, but it makes me happy how scared everyone that comes to my door is.

 

[Ephany]

Not when I'm at home. There I have 2 large dogs and an alarm system. Nights like tonight however, when I'm alone in a strange hotel room that has a door that opens directly outside... I usually stay up too late watching tv so I'm utterly exhausted when I finally fall asleep. At least this time I brought my laptop so I can play online.

 

[Bluestars]

Not when I'm at home. There I have 2 large dogs and an alarm system. Nights like tonight however, when I'm alone in a strange hotel room that has a door that opens directly outside... I usually stay up too late watching tv so I'm utterly exhausted when I finally fall asleep. At least this time I brought my laptop so I can play online.

That's when a chair in front of the door is a little comforting.

 

[Nanabug02]

I'm glad to hear there are some others out there like me. Does everyone just stay up late, or try and make yourself fall asleep?

 

[Bluestars]

I'm glad to hear there are some others out there like me. Does everyone just stay up late, or try and make yourself fall asleep?

I watch TV until I am so tired that I have no problem falling asleep. If I don't get tired, I start looking for things to record on my DVR. For some reason it makes me sleepy when I click, click, click.

 

[Ephany]

That's when a chair in front of the door is a little comforting.

That never occurred to me. Great idea, thanks! I did lock every lock on the door though. At least this time I'm not on the bottom floor; that was a nerve-wracking night!

 

[mommasita]

I don't deal well at all. My DH was doing overnights for 8 months, 5pm to 5am, and I swear I did not sleep until he came home. I paced from the front door to the back all night. Thankfully he has changed shift.

Can you get an alarm system? It might make you more at ease.