Advice!?

[kdm31091]

Is it really true that someday I won't care what he does anymore? It feels impossible.

 

[punkin]

Is it really true that someday I won't care what he does anymore? It feels impossible.

Yes. Eventually, you'll actually look back and think how glad you are to be rid of him, and you won't feel the same pain. It just takes a lot of time.

 

[Serena]

It's true. And sooner than you can imagine.

 

[kdm31091]

Hopefully sooner then later I'll stop caring what he does...how long do you think it will be? A week? A month? I know there is no hard and fast number but what do you guys think?

 

[OceanAnnie]

Hopefully sooner then later I'll stop caring what he does...how long do you think it will be? A week? A month? I know there is no hard and fast number but what do you guys think?

That's up to you! It could be right now if you choose. Focus on the lying and the game playing. That'll help!

 

[punkin]

That's up to you! It could be right now if you choose. Focus on the lying and the game playing. That'll help!

and the fact that he took advantage of you.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Hopefully sooner then later I'll stop caring what he does...how long do you think it will be? A week? A month? I know there is no hard and fast number but what do you guys think?

Well if I go back to my days when I had to dump my loser...it took a long while.

You are expecting too much from yourself. Allow yourself to feel the loss, and then at the same time plan your future.

You are obessessing as a distraction for moving forward. That is typical of human behavior.

So when I get that crud run through my mind, I use visualization techniques. Really helps.

I see myself "stuck in the mud" and then I visualize myself getting out. Force yourself to think of other things, preferably how much stronger you are going to be from this learning curve.

 

[kdm31091]

I feel somewhat better right now. Still have a stomacheache and miss him, but it's decidedly better then yesterday. He says he wants to forget he ever loved, pretend we were always friends, and he's not interested in a partner--boy or girl--again.

Realizing he has issues helps me feel better; it's not something I'd wanna deal with -- obviously, he's got some problems...denial being one.