Advice would be appreciated.

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Sorry it's so long. Here goes:

A few weeks ago my brother and I got into a fight. That day, I just came home from a cross country meet and I was really tired. I ate, and went upstairs. 10 seconds later, my brother calls me downstairs and orders me to show my mom how to attach pictures to an email. (She has no idea on how to use a computer, lol.) I say no, because I just got upstairs and he should have told me while I was downstairs. He begins to become angry that I won't come down and that i'm "wasting his time". Well, it's kind of dumb because you're wasting YOUR own time if you're already down there with the laptop. :rolleyes:

So I end up finally coming down after much arguing, and he takes my phone. He says, "you can have it back whenever I feel you deserve it." So, after he takes my phone I decide no, i'm not going to do what you say if you're going to treat me like this. He finally ends up getting my sister to come down and show her.

About my brother: He's the type of person who never wants to just sit around and do nothing. He hates complainers and whiners. I know I may have been a bit stubborn by refusing to coming down, but I just came home from running 3 and a half miles and my legs ache. Do it yourself.
He and my other brother are also in a fight right now. It's been 3 months and they haven't spoken to each other. He is a total jerk to my brother, even after my brother apologized, just asking for his acceptance.

So, a day after I ask my mom when I can have my phone back. She says, "I don't know, ask your brother."

Now this is where i'm extremely angry. It makes me really mad to know my parents LISTEN to my brother. Their HIS parents too, so they have the right to get my phone back. Really?

I just recieved a job in which people have to call me in case they need someone to fill in for them if they can't make it to work. - Obviously, you need a phone to do that right? It's much more difficult having them have my sister's number and letting them call her to let her know they need a sub first. (She also works there, lol)

I also need a phone to know whether or not practices are going to be cancelled, when we have them, etc.

Plus, I just don't think in general it's fair that he took it from me!

Now I need your advice. Should I call or email him apologizing? If making up some dumb apology gets my phone back, i'd do it.

And do you think it's fair he took my phone?

Thanks.
 
No, it's not fair. Your parents have parenting issues that NEED to be addressed. In the meantime, sneak in and take your phone back.
 
No, it's not fair. Your parents have parenting issues that NEED to be addressed. In the meantime, sneak in and take your phone back.

He doesn't live in the same house.

Otherwise I totally would.

:snooty:
 
I think I'm missing something. How old is said brother?
 

AND HE'S TREATING YOU LIKE THAT?! AND YOUR PARENTS DO NOTHING?! Okay, now I understand why you're pissed. I'd be irate. You demand (stay strong and DO NOT break your ground) that your phone be given back, you need it for extra-curricular and financial reasons. If he doesn't, go find a police officer when they're not busy or off duty. Not immediately, but if your friend's dad is one, get him when he's off duty. Your brother is a grown man for crap's sake, he needs to buck up and get over it. Yes you were stubborn but he's an (bleep).
 
AND HE'S TREATING YOU LIKE THAT?! AND YOUR PARENTS DO NOTHING?! Okay, now I understand why you're pissed. I'd be irate. You demand (stay strong and DO NOT break your ground) that your phone be given back, you need it for extra-curricular and financial reasons. If he doesn't, go find a police officer when they're not busy or off duty. Not immediately, but if your friend's dad is one, get him when he's off duty. Your brother is a grown man for crap's sake, he needs to buck up and get over it. Yes you were stubborn but he's an (bleep).

I know I should be really angry, but i'd rather just let it pass. He never really liked me and always showed favoritism towards my sister. - I don't want to make things worse then they already are and make him hate me more. I just wish he'd get over it, come home, say sorry, and return my phone. :headache:
 
AND HE'S TREATING YOU LIKE THAT?! AND YOUR PARENTS DO NOTHING?! Okay, now I understand why you're pissed. I'd be irate. You demand (stay strong and DO NOT break your ground) that your phone be given back, you need it for extra-curricular and financial reasons. If he doesn't, go find a police officer when they're not busy or off duty. Not immediately, but if your friend's dad is one, get him when he's off duty. Your brother is a grown man for crap's sake, he needs to buck up and get over it. Yes you were stubborn but he's an (bleep).

ITA. If that is how your brother treats you I'd be starting WWIII right about now.

I know I should be really angry, but i'd rather just let it pass. He never really liked me and always showed favoritism towards my sister. - I don't want to make things worse then they already are and make him hate me more. I just wish he'd get over it, come home, say sorry, and return my phone. :headache:

This is why he gets away with it. Don't be passive about it.
 
AND HE'S TREATING YOU LIKE THAT?! AND YOUR PARENTS DO NOTHING?! Okay, now I understand why you're pissed. I'd be irate. You demand (stay strong and DO NOT break your ground) that your phone be given back, you need it for extra-curricular and financial reasons. If he doesn't, go find a police officer when they're not busy or off duty. Not immediately, but if your friend's dad is one, get him when he's off duty. Your brother is a grown man for crap's sake, he needs to buck up and get over it. Yes you were stubborn but he's an (bleep).



I completely agree. Your brother has no right to be taking your phone away.
 
if i were you i'd be flipping out .

i say stand up for yourself, and get your phone back.
he has NO right.
 
My advice is to pay to have Kimbo Slice show up at his door. Now if THAT doesn't get your phone back, I don't know what will.
 
Whoa. I'd be soo mad right now if I were you. I would NEVER let my brother punish me/boss me around like that. Never. Your brother shouldn't be punishing you like that, that is your parents job. Not his.

I'd apologize to him, face to face. If he still ignores you or whatever, warn him you're going to do whatever you can to get your phone back, if this means getting a police officer, go get one. You just need to warn him first.

I really hope everything works out okay, and that your brother realizes the way he is acting is so terrible. :hug:
 
I would say go to his house and tell him to give it back for the last time. If that doesn't work I'd fight him for it. If he's bigger than you or something just wear a belt. lol
 
Okay, no matter how old your brother is.. he is NOT your parents. He shouldn't be able to take your phone.

My sister is 21. She has always been the 'parental type' sister. But she's never taken it that far. If she told me I had to give her my phone as a punishment, she is NOOO way I would!
 
I would definitely talk to your parents about his aggressive behaviour. Obviously, he has no right to 'parent' you. TBH, this sounds like a very weird situation. I can't believe your parents are allowing him to treat you this way.

It's your phone. Go get it back.
 

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