Advice please--any take clomid??

[lovin diz]

My sis and her husband have been trying to have a child for about 6 months now. They have kept this a secret from everyone but me--she needed a shoulder to cry on...She is 26 yrs old and has been on the pill since she was 14 yrs old.

The first OBGYN (and me) told her it will take time for her body to get back to normal since being on the pill for so long. They do not want to hear this, so they went to a second OBGYN--she did an ultrasound, and is doing a sperm count today--then wants to put sis on Clomid. Here is the kicker--my sis is very spoiled; my parents own their own business, so if she has multiples she would have her hand out in a minute...My mom and dad would have a fit if they knew what she was doing, b/c yes she can afford one or 2, but she cannot afford more than that--they would tell her to wait also...I dont know whether to tell my parents or not?? She will not be starting invetro yet--they want to see if clomid works.....What are the chances of multiples with clomid....Anyone take clomid--Did you have multiples? Sorry if it is tmi

 

[lemondog]

There is a chance of having multiples on Clomid, but it's not a very high chance. And almost always this results in twins. Yes, there have been cases of triplets from clomid, but this is rare. The VAST majority of Clomid births have been singletons.

Now injectible FSH drugs is where you need to be very, very careful. If not closely monitored these pregnancies can results in high-order multiples. I have twins from using Gonal-F.

 

[Angelhalo]

My OB/GYN told me that Clomid doesn't raise your chances of multiples very much. Something like 7% or something and even then if you did have multiples it would be more likely to have twins than anything higher.

 

[WDWorBUST]

I took clomid in 2003 to get pregnant with my dd and only one baby. The risk of multiples on clomid are not that great - I have seen as high as 8-10% increase of twins, a very slight increase for triplets. So no worries that your sis will be the next octo-mom by taking clomid alone.

 

[SnowWhite607]

I took Clomid and now have ONE beautiful daughter.

 

[lovin diz]

Thanks everyone for your responses! I am calming down about it...I have researched it, and it is a very small % of multiples...But i did talk to her and tell her if she does invetro, she needs to tell them...Time will tell. Thanks again!

 

[si-am]

My gyno was hesitant to put me on Clomid because of the risk of multiples. There is a similar drug (Femara) out there that doesn't increase risk at all, and a lot of docs are switching to that.

I'm actually surprised that she would be put on Clomid after only 6 months, especially with her being so young. It has a lot of negative side effects. She should probably give it more time without resorting to meds.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Clomid didn't even work for me! SO.. I got zero kids from clomid. Usually when multiples result from fertility treatments, it's because of injectable fertility drugs.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

I took Clomid & while we were unable to get pregnant it is a tough journey either way.

Perhaps you didn't mean it this way but from your post it seems you are more concerned about what your DSs children will be given from your parents & not the infertility issue.

 

[ADisneyQueen]

I was on Clomid to get pregnant with my first daughter, a single. But, I knew someone in my mom's group who took it and had triplet daughters!

 

[GoodFairies]

I'm actually surprised that she would be put on Clomid after only 6 months, especially with her being so young. It has a lot of negative side effects. She should probably give it more time without resorting to meds.

Agree. How irresponsible!

I took Clomid & while we were unable to get pregnant it is a tough journey either way.

Perhaps you didn't mean it this way but from your post it seems you are more concerned about what your DSs children will be given from your parents & not the infertility issue.

Someone trying to finagle fertility drugs from their doctor without any reason to suspect infertility - because let's face it, 6 months of "trying" and age 26 gives zero indication of infertility - may be trying to get more than "just a baby." It's not like it hasn't happened before.

 

[EMom]

Let me just say I call Clomid The Devil's Drug. It can have serious emotional side effects and that is putting it mildly. I took sooooooooo many fertility drugs and this one made the others seem like tic tacs as far as side effects were concerned. I remember going to an infertility seminar and an RE spoke. I asked a question about the emotional side effects and the RE replied that mine must have been an unusual case because it really wasn't that common. Boy, you should have heard that room full of women erupt with "vigorous" rebuttals. The doctor seemed stunned to find out that a large majority of the women had suffered SEVERE mood disruptions while on the drug. As in, their whole personality changed.

I took it for two months, realized the first month's reaction had not been a fluke and stopped taking it. I told my doctor the only way I'd ever take it again is if he could 100% guarantee me a healthy baby in 9 months. Otherwise, it was not worth the risk.

So if your sister takes this and goes all bizarro, it may just be the medication. Some women take it just fine, but many have terrible reactions that the literature seems to ignore.

 

[Myothername]

I wondered also why is the doctor trying drugs after only 6 months? I remember back 20 years ago when we started trying to have a baby after 5 years of marriage and 6 years on the pill it took a while. My OB/GYN said we would wait 9 months and if no baby would start checking on things. I got pregnant right at 9 months after trying. I would wait at least a year of trying naturally, taking temp every morning to see when you are ovulating, pillow under the hips, etc. Why don't you talk to her first and see if they are willing to wait at least another 6 months? Especially since it seems like there is nothing physically wrong with either of them to prevent pregnancy.

 

[lovin diz]

Perhaps you didn't mean it this way but from your post it seems you are more concerned about what your DSs children will be given from your parents & not the infertility issue.

Im sorry if it did sound that way..I dont mean it like that.

It took me 6 months to get pregnant and i was on the pill for years. I didnt switch doctors b/c i didnt like that he told me it takes time...He was right. I dont want her to rush into things, have multiples, and expect people to pay for it...My parents business is very stressful, and this would add so much stress, i dont want my dad to have a heart attack trying to support another family. She says it is her body, but when you have to depend on other peoples money, or help, it becomes their business...

I will be happy for her when she has a child, but they are expensive. I had one child. That is what i could afford. I love to travel, and i have a nice home, and i dont need to beg anyone for $$ to help support her.

I dont know, i am sorry for rambling.....

 

[lovin diz]

Agree. How irresponsible!



Someone trying to finagle fertility drugs from their doctor without any reason to suspect infertility - because let's face it, 6 months of "trying" and age 26 gives zero indication of infertility - may be trying to get more than "just a baby." It's not like it hasn't happened before.

Thanks everyone...Ya'll seem to be thinking the same thing as i am...I dont want to sound judgemental, but i think she needs to "grow up" and not be so immiture about this...If she thinks she is an adult, and is ready to have a child, her and her dh need to start thinking like adults...

 

[All American]

First, I wouldn't say anything to your parents. It sounds like she confided in you, and she'll let them know when she's ready.

Second, Perspective is important in this situation. I understand she has been on the pill for many years, and it does need to work itself out of her system. However, it has only been 6 months of trying. When we were trying for our first, most doctors wouldn't consider infertility an issue unless it had been at least a year of trying to get pregnant without success.

Also, she's only 26, and that's still pretty young. I had our first at 26 (after trying for 3 years) and had our second at 31 (almost 32) after trying for 4 years (I loose count after a while because it takes so long). So, I know the frustration of wanting a baby only to have test after test come back negative.

I think doing something to eliminate the stress of the situation would go a long way. (Stress is a major factor in regards to having a baby (IMO)). My husband's Grandma swears that swimming in the ocean at Waikiki will guarantee a future pregnancy.

Best of luck to her!

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Does your sister fit the "PCOS profile" by any chance? Perhaps that is why 2nd doc went to clomid, figuring they'd wind up there anyway. I don't think anyone should presume to know all the medical facts of sister's history...

I also think that lovin diz, you're playing into fears that are probably unfounded and I'd caution you to not break your sister's trust. She needed your support, not tattling to mommy and daddy. This is an ADULT and PRIVATE issue.

 

[Nicolepa]

While I agree that 6 months isn't very long, unless you go with her to every appointment you might not have all the information. My Dr. put me on Clomid after about that time. I was 26. He put me on it because he wanted to shorten my cycles. They were ranging from 35-43 (sometimes longer). That doesn't give one very many tries in a year. He ran all the usual tests etc but he needed me to be on Clomid so we could guess when I'd ovulate (since a lot of the tests depend on that).

I did 6 rounds of Clomid and hated every one of them. When I got pg w/my first I my husband no way, no how would I ever take that drug again and he agreed.

 

[Pinkpony]

My Clomid babies (2) are 17 now. Never in the world thought I'd be one of the low percentages that multiples would happen to.

Six months is NOTHING when trying to conceive. At 26, she should give it at least a year or two before taking something like Clomid. JMOP

 

[Pea-n-Me]

While I agree that 6 months isn't very long, unless you go with her to every appointment you might not have all the information. My Dr. put me on Clomid after about that time. I was 26. He put me on it because he wanted to shorten my cycles. They were ranging from 35-43 (sometimes longer). That doesn't give one very many tries in a year. He ran all the usual tests etc but he needed me to be on Clomid so we could guess when I'd ovulate (since a lot of the tests depend on that).

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