Advice on DD'd friend's situation...

[LIDisneyFan]

Help!

DD (10) has a friend a few houses away (9). They do sleepovers often, and spend a lot of time together.

Last week, DD was with the friend for a sleepover. The next morning, firnd's mom calls and asks me to pick up DD early. After trying to figure out what was going on ("she rather talk about it in person"), I decide to go over. before I get tere, she calls back and asks if we can take her kids! Then she starts talking to herself about how 'she trusted the wrong people' and 'they really scared her'. Of course, I flew out of the house to pick up DD.

When I got there, friend's mom was mum (I kept asking if everything was OK - it obviously wasn't) and she started getting hysterical, but wouldn't accept help. I finally left with DD.

The next day, DD's fiend tels DD that her mom wsa in the hospital for taking medicine which made her dizzy. 1 1/2 weeks later, she's back home.

I KNOW it will come up that DD wnts to sleep over at some point. Even if we keep offering to have it at our house, it will come down to going over there. we're not close to these people.

Question: What do I do when the inevitable happens? Do I let her go?I really can't ask what it was all about, but it seems scary. I can't ask her friend, and don't want to peanilze the kids!

Any advice?

 

[gemmie214]

I would have to talk to the mom personally before I would let my DD sleep over there. It could be she had a wierd reaction to a medication. It could be something more serious. I would try to keep the kids out of it but I would not let my DD stay over until I was reassured that the situation at that house was stable. I know you do not want to pry but protecting your daughter is the most important thing.

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

Trust your instincts and keep your daughter away from the friend's house. There's obvious trouble there, and it sounds like drugs to me.

At the same time, enourage your DD's friendship with the other little girl. It sounds like the poor little thing needs it.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

at some point you need to discuss this with your dd. 10 year olds are extremely perceptive.

if you don't feel comfortable letting her sleep there, you have to talk to her about it.

BTW telll her my dd says hi.

 

[LIDisneyFan]

Hi right back at her from DD!

BTW, she is aware of our concerns, and is equally unsure how to handle things. She doesn't want to pry, but knows there is a serious issue -she's not pushing it, but it's hard to advise her on what to say to her friend without hurting her feelings.

Not sure what the situation is there - guessing not drugs, but possible infidelity/attempted suicide/breakdown/other crime related stuff - we're not going to endanger our daughter, but finding the right questions to ask without seeming like nosy neighbors is tough.

Gee, life isn't always easy, is it?

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

nope, not easy at all.

 

[epcotfan]

I wouldn't let her go over again. I'd encourage her friendship with the other little girl and only have sleep overs at your house. You wouldn't want to put her in a precarious situation if friend's mom is having major problems.