Advice Needed

[SnowAngel]

I want to thank everyone for their advice and ideas. I appreciate all of them. I was just very upset. If something happens to me it's not so bad but my girls, I get upset.

On my base, it's 9 to be alone for up to two hours and children 7 and up can be nearby if they have access to parents. I was told this by the legal office.

I really didn't think it was a good idea either to go up the chain though people at work were telling me to do it. And I didn't want it to be "bad" in the neighborhood either. I decided to go talk to her. I'm not into the trouble scene. I usually let things go and blow over.

I went and talked to her at lunch. I introduced myself and all.. asked her if there was anything wrong. She explained her side and I listened though didn't totally agree. She said she spanked her daughter for it and didn't like anyone in her house when she wasn't there. I told her I agree and understood. Next time I will verify personally with her. Her husband is away for a couple months. She didn't sound like too bad a person.
Personally, something didn't sound right but not going to worry about it too much. I won't let my girls go over there anymore but if they want to I will allow them to play outside with her only. There are lots of kids around for them to play with.

.Can't believe how people will back down and act suprise when you confront them. Amazing

Thanks again. I worry too much, don't I ...

 

[WeirdEyes]

You did the right thing and everything seems to have worked out. Yes, it is amazing how people will back down when confronted.

 

[kasar]

No, you don't worry too much - you're a mom, it comes with the territory.

I'm glad things worked out. You must feel better. She probably misses her husband terribly and that may be why she always seems angry or stressed. Maybe your reaching out to her will turn out to be a really nice thing.

Best of luck.

 

[ckr]

You may very well be a GUARDIAN Snow Angel.

Something in this story just troubles me. Can't put my finger on it. But please look out for that other little girl. Bring her into your world as much as you can. Seems like she may not have any one else to nurture and protect her. YOU could end up being the Saving Grace that little girl needs. Don't punish her if her mother misbehaves.

JMHO -- and gut feeling...

 

[Disney Doll]

Sounds like someone isn't coping too well with being a military spouse...not an easy role to be sure. I had an uncle ho was a career Army officer, and so have a little knowledge of the trials of the military life.

I think I would allow the children to play together only when you are supervising. I wouldn't allow them to go to the other house at all. Let the other little girl come and play at your house, where you can supervise.