Advice needed!!!!

[Lover_of_Disney]

I recently booked a vacation for my husband and I in September. Since we have been to WDW several times just in the last year I decided to invite his aunt and uncle to come along. They obliged and now they too are coming along. My Dh's uncle has been making all sort's of plans for just he and my husband leaving his wife and I to fend for ourselves. I didn't anticipate this at all. This is our anniversary trip that we enjoy every year. I don't know how to say that I don't like that idea. His wife is very nice but we do not have much in common.

I am excited about experiencing Disney with new people (although they go as often as we do) but I want to enjoy the time with my husband. I am beginning to feel remorseful already!!

What are your opinions!

 

[Eeyore1954]

My DW and I have done WDW trips with both sets of parents. Each time we explained -- long before we left for the airport! -- that we (DW and I) wanted some "together time" during the trip. We were not trying to dump mom and dad by the side of the road, but there were some activities we wanted to do as a couple, not a four-some.

We also did some activities for just the guys and just the gals, too. We did some advance planning, decided on a guys-nite out and a gals-nite out; talked about dining plans & preferences.

I think if you talk about it they will understand. Do plan some activities that they want to do as just guys or just gals -- but also insist on some "alone time" as a couple for special anniversary events.

If you explain you are going to celebrate your anniversary, I think they will understand.

 

[Sally Bradley]

I say nip this in the bud now...or you will be miserable! Politely but firmly let them know that while you welcome their company, you had your heart set on participating TOGETHER...and while suggestions are welcome, it must be a mutually agreed upon thing. Then stick to your guns...!

 

[Chuck S]

Is there enough days in your itinerary to allow for a guys and girls day out? If so, you might suggest that to DHs Aunt/Uncle and tell them the rest of the trip you want to spend time together for your anniversary. Of course, if it is a relatively short trip, then you'll have to make your feelings known - either way, I hope your relatives understand.

 

[RobinLyn]

Since it is your husbands Uncle, maybe he should be the one to say something before hand. But I agree, whatever you decide get it out in the open before the trip. Have a great time!

RobinLyn

 

[CrzyforPiglet]

What kind of plans is the uncle making? I agree with other posters though that there needs to be some boundaries set now before you get too far into the planning and people's feelings get hurt. I'm sure they will understand and you will all have a great time!

 

[Lover_of_Disney]

Thanks for your replies. I guess more than anything I just wanted someone to say I am not being unreasonable.

All of you are wonderful!