Advice Needed!! Preschool Dilemna

[McKelly]

My DS3 is set to start preschool in just two weeks and I don't know if I should send him. The preschool requires that he is potty trained. Well, he has been trained for over a year, however, he likes his potty seat with the deflector on the toilet seat, which he obviously won't be able to use at school. I have been trying to get him to go w/out it for over a month now, but he WON'T!! He refuses to stand and he will sit on the toilet but when he goes it shoots out the front and he won't push "it" down because he says it's "squishy". Has anyone had this problem? I doubt he will wet his pants. Preschool is only two hours and I swear he could hold it all day, but I don't know........... Any moms out there have a similar problem with their sons? Any advice? Thanks in advance.

P.S. Do you think if he sees other kids doing it, that will prompt him to do it? Ugh!!!!

 

[Toby'sFriend]

P.S. Do you think if he sees other kids doing it, that will prompt him to do it?

my experience with kids in preschool says that "potty trained" is a fuzzy term amongst three year olds. In other words, they are not going to get too freaked out by a couple of accidents, they just don't want to be changing diapers all day.

P.S. Do you think if he sees other kids doing it, that will prompt him to do it?

definately.

 

[Kimberle]

Why can't you just sent it with him? In Brittany's pre-school, there were kids who brought their own potties. They just left them in the bathroom.

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

First let me say I have girls. My older DD was a breeze to train; younger DD is (yes, IS) still very resistant, and she will be 3 in Oct.

My comment is more directed at your PS. At this age, peer pressure is helpful in many cases, and the bathroom is one of those cases! The daycare DD1 was in (and DD2 is in) taught the boys sitting down initially. And they were taught to push it down. The teaching (and peer pressure) was so good, that my DD pushed "it" down too! It took me a while to convince her that she had nothing to push down!

Your son will be fine.

 

[JessetheCowgirl]

Mom of 2 boys here.

I think he will be fine. The peer pressure and the structure of most preschools will help him figure it out.

Good luck!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I wouldn't worry about it. Odds are that he won't even go at school (make sure you bring him to the restroom just before going into class) and if he does he'll probably be ok. My 4yo never wipes himself (why do that when he has me around to wipe his bottom ), but I figure that if he were to go at preschool he'd either try to wipe himself or he'd just have tracks. Last year he never pooped at school. His preschool is only 2 1/2 hours so it wasn't really an issue.

Maybe after your son has been at school a week or two you could give the teachers a heads up (geez, I just reread this and a pun was NOT intended lol) . If you say something too early they might get it in their head that he's really not trained, but if you wait a little while they'll see he is and that he might need the reminder to push that "squishy thing" down.

Boys are fun, aren't they???

T&B

 

[McKelly]

Thanks for everybody's comments. I think and hope he will be okay and I will just send extra clothes along in his backpack, just in case. Maybe the teacher will have better luck, she has been doing this for 23 years, I have only been doing it for 3!! Thanks again.

 

[CEDmom]

Originally posted by Kimberle
Why can't you just sent it with him? In Brittany's pre-school, there were kids who brought their own potties. They just left them in the bathroom.

Technically the Board of Health could sight the school on this because many seats have to be taken apart to clean thoroughly. I did send one in with DD and her teacher hid it on a shelf in the bathroom. However, she wasn't a new student at the school and her teacher bent over backwards to help the kids.

The poster who said potty trained is a gray area is correct. At DD's school and many others that I know of children need to be able to go by themselves most of the time. They cannot be in pullups. In DD's class where most of the kids are now 5 there is still an occasional accident. It happens. Just make sure your DS has a few changes of clothes.

 

[tw1nsmom]

Have you tried the fruit loops/cheerios game? When we were working with DS on this, we would put 4 or 5 in the toilet and he would try to "sink" them (oh, the glamorous life we mom's lead ). Because it was silly/fun, he was always eager to practice.

 

[pkasbohm]

Originally posted by tw1nsmom
Have you tried the fruit loops/cheerios game? When we were working with DS on this, we would put 4 or 5 in the toilet and he would try to "sink" them (oh, the glamorous life we mom's lead ). Because it was silly/fun, he was always eager to practice.

this is what i was going to suggest!

 

[Az Pirates]

I was just going to suggest the same thing.

They even have little flushable targets you can buy. I think the cheerios work just as well though.

Helped immensly when I was tired of scrubbing the whole bathroom after DS's every trip there. (amazing where & how much a little guy can spray isn't it)