Advice for out of control teen

[kimmikayb]

Not mine who isn't quite a teen yet

I have a good friend who lives in Canada. She is married, has a remarkable 18 year old son who has just graduated and is on his own now. She also has 2 step daughters. The girls were in and out of her husband's life until about 6 years ago (or so, I can remember 6 or 7 years) depending on the bio mom's mood. This is a very long, detailed story I'm trying to make short. Mom is a drug dealer, almost went to jail but got off. She also uses and drinks. Yes, CPS (Canada's version) has been informed and nothing. The oldest daughter who is now almost 14 came to live with Dad and my friends (stepmom) a few years ago and it was really horrible. This girl lied, cheated and stole. She came on sexually to my friend's son and tried to get him in trouble. She basically created such a atmoshphere it was unlivable. She is sexually active and is proud to give "favors" out to guys. Her mother is a lost cause. Won't have anything to do with the girl. The father, out of desperation put her in a home with a good friend. Now, I know some of you will get out of sorts over that but this was very serious....the girl was threatening to kill my friends and was caught killing the pets. Remember there are many details I'm leaving out. Fast forward to now.....it's only worse. The foster mom can't take it anymore and has experienced the same things my friend did. This girl seems to be worse to the people who try to help her the most. She is in counseling but even that is at a stand still because options are running out. She has found a few programs to get this girl in but they run up to 30K a year!!! My friend and her husband can't afford that!!!!!!!! Foster care is no longer an option. The husband is thinking of getting an apartment for him and the his daughter. I think my friend's safety is an issue as does the counselor, her husband and anyone who has had anything to do with this girl. I know the states have affordable programs but does anyone know of any in Canada???? This girl needs some very forceful intervention. She is mimicing her mother exactly and is only 13 going on 14.

 

[Kirk]

Boot Camp!

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

Sounds like the father needs to enlist the aid of the court system. If this child cannot be controlled, and safety is an issue, either to herself, or to others, she should be in a mental health facility getting treatment. Unfortunately, studies show that boot camp isn't all that successful. I would check with mental health agencies to see what is available.

 

[kidzmom3]

a friend of mine finally just had her parental rights terminated and her son became a ward of the court (in the US) I did not agree at the time, but she was a single mom at her wits end. there was no way she could control this kid, who hurt her very badly one day. I would like to say he is getting better, but not really. he lives at a school for emotionally troubled teens.