Advice..cheating boyfriend of daughters..

[Nola Girl]

My mom found out about a BF who I was madly "in love" with cheating on me at about the same age. She confronted him and he convinced her to keep it from me. Much later when I figured out he was a cheater on my own, I was FURIOUS with her for not telling me. I realize now that had she told me I would have been FURIOUS with her for telling me. Mothers can't win. Sad but true. I learned to keep my feelings about DD 's BF to myself (or at least away from her ears). I pray she figures out he is a bum on her own. Some nights DH and I want to vomit we have held in our feeling so long but I promised myself that I would allow DD to make her own decisions.
Please do not force your DD to sneak around by not allowing BF at the house. My mom did this to me and it taught me to lie to her . YOU DO NOT WANT THAT! She will probably not just break up with him cold turkey. She will eventually (probably) but she needs you Mom to support her and love her even if she chooses not to right now and he cheats on her again. It is how we learn unfortunately.
Sorry about the errors--when I post on the iPad it seems to send before I am ready.

 

[Disney Doll]

You've done your part.
She'll figure it out.
The doubt is there so now she'll be watching every movehe makes.

 

[Elmo9607]

Keep in mind that since she loves him, she will probably continue to see him but may do so behind your back due to the fact that she is aware of your disapproval, even though you haven't told her she can't do so. She will probably feel ashamed or embarrassed that she is in love with a man that is cheating on her and keep him out of your sight or just simply pretend that he doesn't exist while around you.

I would voice my opinion on the matter (nicely) if she broke up with him and then wanted to get back together, but you can't force her to do anything. She is young...I made a LOT of VERY stupid relationship mistakes at her age and am just recently (three and four years later) realizing how much of an idiot I was.

Good luck to you both. Hope she figures it out on her own and let it be for now

 

[Buckalew11]

And I will tell you...my BIL's GF kept a BF near her age too. I'm sure it was a front so that people would not wonder what she was doing with a man 39 years older than her. It was sad to follow on FB because the boy could not make this girl happy and stayed so confused--little did he know he was "completing" with a grown man could give her anything (except kids )