Advice? Awkward wedding party situation

[DawnCt1]

Also, unless you know someone really, really well, when they tell you to vent to them, they are just being nice. They don't really want you to. It's human nature. It's stupid, but this is what I have found to be true.

Isn't that the truth. Its the same thing when people say, "How are you". They want a one word answer not an "organ" recital.

 

[mumto3girls]

I've read the whole thread. While I think bride's emotions are usually high before weddings, I don't see anything here that makes the OP look like a bridezilla. I think she simply made a mistake thinking these women were her friends and would have any interest in what was going on in her life (missing dress, illness, etc.)

She was upset that she saw a nasty email about her. Who wouldn't be? She doesn't particularly want them in her wedding at this point. Who would?
She didn't care for being told someone "wanted to smack her" because her mother isn't dead. Who would?

She is not insisting their spouses be eliminated from the wedding, she still is planning on being cordial at the rehearsal dinner and wedding. Sounds like some "bigger person" going on already.

IMO, I agree with those who say get a small gift. However, IMO the reason is because these women are clearly TRYING to get in the middle of trouble. Watch your back!

ITA with the above. And if their gifts will not be the same as the bridesmaids gifts, I would break tradition and give their gifts as well as the bridesmaids gifts at a different time--less opportunity for them to create further drama that way.

Good luck to you. I hope the rehearsal and your wedding go well and you have a joyous day.

 

[Bob NC]

Boy, this is a story I'd like to hear the other side of.

 

[Scurvy]

Yikes - sorry, I was responding to the wrong thread.

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

I ended up giving them all gifts (which included high end chocolates, high end spa products, candles etc.) and aside from one of them making a rude comment to one of my close friends about her missing my shower to celebrate a religious holiday, the rehearsal went by without incident.

The comment was essentially that ex-bridesmaid did not feel that said holiday was a valid reason to miss a bridal shower... My friend simply responded that she felt that it was and moved on with her evening. My friend told me about the incident when I walked her out to say goodbye.
She was offended but also well aware that the other woman was probably just trying to start some drama.

I really think that some people are just always going to be miserable, no matter what you do. It just kind of makes you shake your head...

 

[cm8]

I ended up giving them all gifts (which included high end chocolates, high end spa products, candles etc.) and aside from one of them making a rude comment to one of my close friends about her missing my shower to celebrate a religious holiday, the rehearsal went by without incident.

The comment was essentially that ex-bridesmaid did not feel that said holiday was a valid reason to miss a bridal shower... My friend simply responded that she felt that it was and moved on with her evening. My friend told me about the incident when I walked her out to say goodbye.
She was offended but also well aware that the other woman was probably just trying to start some drama.

I really think that some people are just always going to be miserable, no matter what you do. It just kind of makes you shake your head...

 

[madcam]

Glad to hear it went (mostly ) smoothly! I think you did the right thing by giving them the gifts. If for no other reasons than 1) you took the high road and 2) it makes everything easier on your guy. And you're right...someone is always going to be causing drama. Hope your wedding was fabulous!!