Admitted Helicopter Parent Stressing Over Daughter's PI status...

[figmentfan6]

Thank you for putting me in my place. Yes, it's very silly of a parent to be so interested and concerned about the future dreams of their children. (Not trying to control or make those dreams happen for them, mind you, but simply rooting for them and caring deeply about the setbacks and triumphs they experience in life.) How weird of me to care so much. Heaven help my daughter, indeed for this ridiculous level of "involvement"! She would be so much better off with emotionally detached parents!

For the record, my daughter has achieved every single thing in her life on her own and always will. She is extremely competent and capable; I have absolutely zero doubts about her ability to thrive on her own--and she will. But that will never stop me from being an "over involved" parent who cares and feels for everything she experiences along the way--whether she's 25 or 55!

OK, I'm ready for the next poster to put me in my place. It's getting to be a long line

I'm sorry, I think you took my joking comment far more seriously than it was intended to be. I have a very involved and loving mother who I would not trade for the world, I meant my comment in very much a joking manner. Of course, in retrospect, I realize you would never know that I don't say "heaven help" for any reason other than joking.

That being said, I would encourage you to read my post for more than just one joking line. It's definitely not the end of the line for her to get a career with Disney in the future, PI or no PI. Also, who knows, in five or ten years Disney may no longer be her dream. And you should definitely help her work through what a good next step is if Disney doesn't work out off the bat. What is her field of interest?

 

[littleluncher]

Well, I though I would throw in my 2 cents here, at least coming from a college senior who would consider her mother as an "over protective" parent. From what I see, you are just trying to reach out and get some information, to help your daughter and let her know of anything noteworthy. Even a parent who can be overly involved does not typically get involved first hand, such as calling the company on behalf of their child, which I'm sure is also what you aren't trying to do. So while others unable to understand the predictament from your POV may give you a bit of grief, I think it's totally understandable. With that said, I think the best bet for your daughter would be to apply for a job, any job with Disney and get her foot in the door again. She could always enroll in 1 class at a community college so she could continue to apply if needed. I'm sure it does leave a damper on things, not getting an internship, but there are options as I mentioned and if she is dead set on Disney, then I think she will get there- somehow, someway. Hope this helped a bit. Good luck!

 

[NewRVLady]

Question...what's a PI



question... What exact career are all these college kids hoping for at Disney? What is their major?

 

[littleluncher]

Question...what's a PI



question... What exact career are all these college kids hoping for at Disney? What is their major?

Hi NewRVLady. A PI means a professional internship. In those you can get into a more specific field with your career, such as marketing, graphic design, lodging operations, among many others. CP, college program, has more basic, and average jobs like cashiers, custodials and others. I certainly can't speak of other "college kids" as to what they want out of it, but for myself as a Hospitality major, I'm hoping to get into a hotel position involved with catering and events at Disney. So hopefully, the concierge CP and catering/events PI will help.

 

[Ceila]

Thank you for putting me in my place. Yes, it's very silly of a parent to be so interested and concerned about the future dreams of their children. (Not trying to control or make those dreams happen for them, mind you, but simply rooting for them and caring deeply about the setbacks and triumphs they experience in life.) How weird of me to care so much. Heaven help my daughter, indeed for this ridiculous level of "involvement"! She would be so much better off with emotionally detached parents!

For the record, my daughter has achieved every single thing in her life on her own and always will. She is extremely competent and capable; I have absolutely zero doubts about her ability to thrive on her own--and she will. But that will never stop me from being an "over involved" parent who cares and feels for everything she experiences along the way--whether she's 25 or 55!

OK, I'm ready for the next poster to put me in my place. It's getting to be a long line

For someone who opened this thread announcing that they are a helicopter, you are really defensive about being called one. And I'm sorry, but asking other posters about what their child put on their resume or application and what their application status is comes off as if you are indeed seeking information on behalf of your daughter, instead of "just venting." Add in the fact that some of us remember your previous thread, and you do seem to be doing more than just worrying.

 

[akhenaten]

Op... You should just be encouraging your daughter by telling her that she was lucky to have participated in the DCP and now someone else will get that experience...


. She will find her way in this world... Your job is to it's be a support. To her not do things for her! Curious , is she asking you to figure this out for her?

 

[Fargoman2]

Moderator, please close this thread immediately!

Obviously my view point has no merits whatsoever. I am 100 percent wrong for all the feelings I have and the anxiety I've shared.

And never mind what the facts of the thread are, just keep saying I'm trying to run my daughter's life, that I'm trying to do the fighting for her in her job search, etc., etc...

For the last and final time, my daughter is just fine, thank you and she is handling all of this beautifully. This is all about my disappointment FOR her. Yes, life goes on and as I posted long ago there are far worse things that will happen in her life. But at the same time I think it is somewhat natural to have deep feelings of sadness and disappointment for how her spring has turned out.

I get it I am just one big, clueless villain--unequivocally unjustified in EVERYTHING I've portrayed here. So, I will not trouble you any more with my thoughts and feelings on this matter. You win, ok?! You succeeded in making me feel even lower about everything--hope that brightens your day!!

For the select few of you that didn't bash me, thanks for your grace and acceptance--it did help cushion the blow from everyone else. I appreciate it.

Now moderator, PLEASE close this thread. I think I've had enough pummeling for awhile...

 

[ashley0139]

Moderator, please close this thread immediately!

Obviously my view point has no merits whatsoever. I am 100 percent wrong for all the feelings I have and the anxiety I've shared.

And never mind what the facts of the thread are, just keep saying I'm trying to run my daughter's life, that I'm trying to do the fighting for her in her job search, etc., etc...

For the last and final time, my daughter is just fine, thank you and she is handling all of this beautifully. This is all about my disappointment FOR her. Yes, life goes on and as I posted long ago there are far worse things that will happen in her life. But at the same time I think it is somewhat natural to have deep feelings of sadness and disappointment for how her spring has turned out.

I get it I am just one big, clueless villain--unequivocally unjustified in EVERYTHING I've portrayed here. So, I will not trouble you any more with my thoughts and feelings on this matter. You win, ok?! You succeeded in making me feel even lower about everything--hope that brightens your day!!

For the select few of you that didn't bash me, thanks for your grace and acceptance--it did help cushion the blow from everyone else. I appreciate it.

Now moderator, PLEASE close this thread. I think I've had enough pummeling for awhile...

Lol!!!!

 

[DisneyChula]

Moderator, please close this thread immediately!

Obviously my view point has no merits whatsoever. I am 100 percent wrong for all the feelings I have and the anxiety I've shared.

And never mind what the facts of the thread are, just keep saying I'm trying to run my daughter's life, that I'm trying to do the fighting for her in her job search, etc., etc...

For the last and final time, my daughter is just fine, thank you and she is handling all of this beautifully. This is all about my disappointment FOR her. Yes, life goes on and as I posted long ago there are far worse things that will happen in her life. But at the same time I think it is somewhat natural to have deep feelings of sadness and disappointment for how her spring has turned out.

I get it I am just one big, clueless villain--unequivocally unjustified in EVERYTHING I've portrayed here. So, I will not trouble you any more with my thoughts and feelings on this matter. You win, ok?! You succeeded in making me feel even lower about everything--hope that brightens your day!!

For the select few of you that didn't bash me, thanks for your grace and acceptance--it did help cushion the blow from everyone else. I appreciate it.

Now moderator, PLEASE close this thread. I think I've had enough pummeling for awhile...

I wouldn't say that you are one big, clueless villain, but I will say that are being very over dramatic.

 

[Fargoman2]

I wouldn't say that you are one big, clueless villain, but I will say that are being very over dramatic.

And the hits just keep coming...Thanks DisneyChula! Another scorcher! I must indeed enjoy the drama, because I keep coming back for more!

I think there's still time for others to join the fun before the moderators mercifully shut down this thread. I still have a thimble full of self esteem--come on, finish me off

 

[aaarcher86]

Moderator, please close this thread immediately!

Obviously my view point has no merits whatsoever. I am 100 percent wrong for all the feelings I have and the anxiety I've shared.

And never mind what the facts of the thread are, just keep saying I'm trying to run my daughter's life, that I'm trying to do the fighting for her in her job search, etc., etc...

For the last and final time, my daughter is just fine, thank you and she is handling all of this beautifully. This is all about my disappointment FOR her. Yes, life goes on and as I posted long ago there are far worse things that will happen in her life. But at the same time I think it is somewhat natural to have deep feelings of sadness and disappointment for how her spring has turned out.

I get it I am just one big, clueless villain--unequivocally unjustified in EVERYTHING I've portrayed here. So, I will not trouble you any more with my thoughts and feelings on this matter. You win, ok?! You succeeded in making me feel even lower about everything--hope that brightens your day!!

For the select few of you that didn't bash me, thanks for your grace and acceptance--it did help cushion the blow from everyone else. I appreciate it.

Now moderator, PLEASE close this thread. I think I've had enough pummeling for awhile...

 

[Laura66]

Didn't you have the post about how to get past the gatekeepers.

You really need to step back and let your daughter handle this on her own. Sometimes the answer is just no despite doing everything right. You are WAY to involved in this - seriously!

People have tried to be honest and help you and when you don't like what you hear you get all defensive and ask the mods to close the thread!? Seriously??

 

[firecracker725]

I am so sorry that you won't be getting a CM discount on your next vacation. I can't imagine how much of a disappointment that is for you. *hugs*

Oh, and the best way to have a thread closed is to report the OP and ask politely.

 

[wvjules]

And the hits just keep coming...Thanks DisneyChula! Another scorcher! I must indeed enjoy the drama, because I keep coming back for more!

I think there's still time for others to join the fun before the moderators mercifully shut down this thread. I still have a thimble full of self esteem--come on, finish me off

You are being way too dramatic about this post, the DCP, the PI...

If your daughter has questions about the PI there are a lot of resources out there on the internets.

You're worrying like this is your future, not hers.

 

[NHTikiBeckie]

How dramatic...

 

[KathyTX]

Nope, we don't delete threads simply because someone is not happy with the responses to that thread.

Every poster is free to edit his or her own posts if they regret sharing something.

And we have a handy little red triangle icon on every post that you can use to report any post that violates our guidelines to our moderators for their action.

Time to de-escalate the drama, you are welcome to just walk away and ignore this thread. But on our discussion forums, no one "owns" a thread and only the moderators decide when a thread should be deleted.

 

[aaarcher86]

Nope, we don't delete threads simply because someone is not happy with the responses to that thread. Every poster is free to edit his or her own posts if they regret sharing something. And we have a handy little red triangle icon on every post that you can use to report any post that violates our guidelines to our moderators for their action. Time to de-escalate the drama, you are welcome to just walk away and ignore this thread. But on our discussion forums, no one "owns" a thread and only the moderators decide when a thread should be deleted.

*slow clap*

 

[carol-lamb]

Really? Why all the mean and nasty comments? While you may not agree with the original poster, I don't understand some of the replies and assumptions that have been posted. No where did I read in the OP that he or she was upset that they wouldn't be getting cast member discounts because their daughter wasn't accepted for the CP. Where do people come up with this stuff.

 

[Goofy4WDW1964]

Nope, we don't delete threads simply because someone is not happy with the responses to that thread.

Every poster is free to edit his or her own posts if they regret sharing something.

And we have a handy little red triangle icon on every post that you can use to report any post that violates our guidelines to our moderators for their action.

Time to de-escalate the drama, you are welcome to just walk away and ignore this thread. But on our discussion forums, no one "owns" a thread and only the moderators decide when a thread should be deleted.

This may get me in trouble but this response is condescending and rude. You could have made your point without the snarky remarks of 'we have a handy little red triangle icon' and 'Time to de-escalate the drama'. If this is a typical response of a moderator of this sight, it doesn't surprise me the level of rude responses I have seen on this sight.

Although I don't personally agree 100% with the poster I can empathize with him/her. He/She has made it perfectly clear that he/she is not trying to intervene on his daughters behalf but simply working through what he/she needs to work through. And yes I did read the posters other thread as well. But I am adult enough to understand that this is a different thread.

I don't have any advice for you other than to offer my expression of good luck with working through this. I have my own 21 year old and I struggle every day with balancing keeping my distance and getting involved. I have witnessed the results of a too involved parent and a completely disengaged parent. Believe me, you have nothing to apologize for.

Just remember, no adult or child, no matter how many times they post responses on a thread, is perfect or has all the right answers.

 

[SMD]

Really? Why all the mean and nasty comments? While you may not agree with the original poster, I don't understand some of the replies and assumptions that have been posted. No where did I read in the OP that he or she was upset that they wouldn't be getting cast member discounts because their daughter wasn't accepted for the CP. Where do people come up with this stuff.

The responses don't seem mean or particularly nasty. Maybe there was an assumption about the discount because half the posts on the CP board are from parents who want to know how and when they can get a discount. The OP has posted in the past asking for "family benefits" when his daughters' have done the CP and when they went seasonal or became a college rep, so I don't think the idea that he was worried about his own vacation came out of nowhere.

This may get me in trouble but this response is condescending and rude. You could have made your point without the snarky remarks of 'we have a handy little red triangle icon' and 'Time to de-escalate the drama'. If this is a typical response of a moderator of this sight, it doesn't surprise me the level of rude responses I have seen on this sight.

Although I don't personally agree 100% with the poster I can empathize with him/her. He/She has made it perfectly clear that he/she is not trying to intervene on his daughters behalf but simply working through what he/she needs to work through. And yes I did read the posters other thread as well. But I am adult enough to understand that this is a different thread.

If you find those statements condescending and rude then you are reading a tone into them that may not exist. Putting an adjective in front of the icon doesn't make it condescending. And yes, the OP is being very dramatic in his replies at this point, including starting yet another thread. Maybe this isn't what Kathy meant, but he could de-escalate by not crying victim and bashing himself to everyone who doesn't agree with him. Maybe this is projecting onto the OP, but many people on these boards start a new thread when they don't get the answer they want to hear. I thought the OP was just being more subtle in asking the same question as last time, hoping someone would offer a way for him to help the application without outright asking because that blew up last time. And, declaring that you're an adult while implying that other responders aren't comes off as condescending.