Admit it, you've been that rude guest!

[luvmy2babies]

I put my son on my shoulders for Celebrate the Magic during our last trip.

It’s just easier because the weight is evenly distributed. In my defense I tried to stay to the side after the parade was over; but they made us all move into the middle; so up on my shoulders he went.

I had held him on my hip for MSEP because after thinking we had a great spot in the 2nd row on Main Street, the people sitting on the curb in front of us, stood when the parade started. No one else did at first; but once they did, it was like a domino effect. One of them was also wearing a large hat. I did ask her to remove the hat; but not to sit. Would have been nice if they’d warned us they were going to stand; but I realize it is not a set rule to sit if you’re in the front even though we always do when we get a spot on the curb. It just makes sense with people behind you, especially after walking all day. And they weren’t short by any means, like 5’10” and 6’0”. I’m 5’6” with an 11 year-old and a preschooler.

Between the heat, the crowd and his weight, I started feeling really crappy holding him. He screamed bloody murder when I did lower him a few times to get my head straight. Had it not been for the little fan I had on my lanyard and the water I had left….

Then on the way out, we all know how that goes. My son was asleep in the stroller (went out cold after telling me how much he loved Wishes). I had my 11 year-old keep one hand on the stroller in hopes of us not getting separated. Right in front of Tony’s the crowd stops. We couldn’t move. A CM who was there yells to me, “YOU CAN’T STOP HERE!” He was kidding right? I yelled back, “HELLO, WE CAN’T MOVE!” At which point several other people chimed in letting him have it. He then assisted us in exiting.

 

[vrajewski10513]

My husband loves when I weave and bob through the crowd. And I mean that in the most sarcastic sense. I'm a fast walker and hate getting caught in crowds. Slightly claustrophobic, dont like being touched, and lets face it, its hot and alot of people stink. But my husband is a larger dude so sometimes my weaving and bobbing accidentily turns into him barreling into people on accident. I've been getting better about trying to drag him along, usually I duck through the crowd and he meets up with me once were in an opening lol

 

[disnut8]

I do hate how the bus stops at the resorts are a free-for-all. With no ropes to clearly mark a queue, butting and rudeness is inevitable. I always try to look around and take note of who arrived before us and after us and get on the bus accordingly, but it doesn't always work out that way.

The values have queue ropes.

 

[fairytalelover]

Providing you have the size and/or presence to do it (I know plenty of short/small people who can pull it off quite easily), a well timed and "friendly" "Whaddaya doin' there Chief?" can prove to be quite the deterrent.

LOL! I like "Whaddaya doin' there Chief?" LOL! Im using that from now on!!

 

[disnut8]

My confession. My husband and I will both "yell" (slightly raised voices) at kids who chase the wildlife at Disney World. This is when the parents aren't around. If they parents are around and grinning while their kids chase the wildlife, we tell the kids to "stop it" in a normal voice. That is the only time we will intentionally be "rude".

I'm sure we have been "rude" while walking or stopping or, the one time my mother-in-law, who is a nurse and has worked and lived with many patients in wheelchairs, and I were in a bathroom in the Studios that had one lady waiting for a stall. But a stall was open at the very end - yep, the handicapped stall. My mother-in-law saw it and asked me why the lady in front was not going in there. So I pointed it out to her. She snapped, "that's a handicapped stall!" My mother-in-law told me, "it's handicapped accessible, not handicapped exclusive." So I went around the lady in front of me (there was no one behind us so no one was waiting for that stall) and the lady yelled "OF COURSE *YOU* WOULD USE THAT ONE!"

When we came out, my mother-in-law was surprised so we asked my father-in-law, a psychiatrist specializing in Alzheimer's patients (who my mother-in-law treated as well), if I did anything wrong. He said, "no, those stalls are made for people who are in wheelchairs and need extra help and time. If there was no one who needed that, anyone can use those stalls."

 

[maxiesmom]

My MIL does the EXACT SAME thing. Last trip she intentionally walked SLOWER than I have ever seen a human being walk & looked at me witt the smuggest look while we missed our FP plus window for Test Track. Grrrr...

I would have left her behind and walked on my way. Seriously.

 

[luvmy2babies]

My confession. My husband and I will both "yell" (slightly raised voices) at kids who chase the wildlife at Disney World. This is when the parents aren't around. If they parents are around and grinning while their kids chase the wildlife, we tell the kids to "stop it" in a normal voice. That is the only time we will intentionally be "rude".

I'm sure we have been "rude" while walking or stopping or, the one time my mother-in-law, who is a nurse and has worked and lived with many patients in wheelchairs, and I were in a bathroom in the Studios that had one lady waiting for a stall. But a stall was open at the very end - yep, the handicapped stall. My mother-in-law saw it and asked me why the lady in front was not going in there. So I pointed it out to her. She snapped, "that's a handicapped stall!" My mother-in-law told me, "it's handicapped accessible, not handicapped exclusive." So I went around the lady in front of me (there was no one behind us so no one was waiting for that stall) and the lady yelled "OF COURSE *YOU* WOULD USE THAT ONE!"

When we came out, my mother-in-law was surprised so we asked my father-in-law, a psychiatrist specializing in Alzheimer's patients (who my mother-in-law treated as well), if I did anything wrong. He said, "no, those stalls are made for people who are in wheelchairs and need extra help and time. If there was no one who needed that, anyone can use those stalls."

That sure stirs up a memory. Not a Disney incident; but my daughter and I were at a basketball game when she was really little, between 3 and 4 years-old. The child wasn’t really good about giving much lead time when she had to use the restroom so by the time we got there she was doing the dance.

The Accessible stall was the only one open; but we were also the only ones waiting; so after some hesitation I took her in, thinking okay, she’ll go and we’ll get out of there. It’s once we are in there she informs me she has to do #2.

A minute later, I hear a very loud voice ranting about how there is only one Handicap stall and it is rude to use it when you don’t need it. It was that passive aggressive type of rant where they acted as if they were talking to someone else.

I stayed silent and would have continued to do so except even at that young age, my daughter realized this was directed at us and got scared. So in a voice just as loud I explained I would not have used this stall except it was the only one open and we were the only ones waiting and my 3 year-old was about to wet herself and was now trying to poop; but the yelling was scaring her. Crickets

I know I wasn’t wrong; but I still haven’t been able to use one of those stalls since without thinking about that, even sometimes letting people go around me. She’s 12 now.

 

[DisneyGuy758]

The values have queue ropes.

I guess this is why I was scratching my head wondering what everyone was talking about....I've only stayed at Value resorts.

 

[supertinyluckycat]

My point is that in the same situation Id make the same decision. Obviously, like every other person in the park with any interest in seeing the nighttime shows I'm searching for the holy Grail of unobstructed views. My current plan is to FP+ Wishes and show up in time to see Celebrate the Magic and hope that the viewing areas give us the ability to see better, but honestly, I've spent my entire life as a really short person and, frankly, all it takes for someone to block my view is a pair of heels. I'm aware of this and, obviously, try to plan accordingly by lining up early and reading about the best places to watch but sometimes crap happens and you have to make decisions based on the situation you're in, not the one you want.

If we'd staked out a spot we thought would work and got inundated at the start of the show and there was, again, no place to situate the kids so they could see and my six year old is crying in disappointment because she looked forward to it so much and couldn't see anything but backs and butts, yes. She's going up on someone's shoulders. I've stored up plenty of nice lady karma to help me sleep at night.

But what about the little kids behind you also have been looking forward to seeing but can't now because your kid is on your shoulders? This is the single most annoying thing about disney to me.

 

[Magpie]

My confession. My husband and I will both "yell" (slightly raised voices) at kids who chase the wildlife at Disney World. This is when the parents aren't around. If they parents are around and grinning while their kids chase the wildlife, we tell the kids to "stop it" in a normal voice. That is the only time we will intentionally be "rude".

I'm sure we have been "rude" while walking or stopping or, the one time my mother-in-law, who is a nurse and has worked and lived with many patients in wheelchairs, and I were in a bathroom in the Studios that had one lady waiting for a stall. But a stall was open at the very end - yep, the handicapped stall. My mother-in-law saw it and asked me why the lady in front was not going in there. So I pointed it out to her. She snapped, "that's a handicapped stall!" My mother-in-law told me, "it's handicapped accessible, not handicapped exclusive." So I went around the lady in front of me (there was no one behind us so no one was waiting for that stall) and the lady yelled "OF COURSE *YOU* WOULD USE THAT ONE!"

When we came out, my mother-in-law was surprised so we asked my father-in-law, a psychiatrist specializing in Alzheimer's patients (who my mother-in-law treated as well), if I did anything wrong. He said, "no, those stalls are made for people who are in wheelchairs and need extra help and time. If there was no one who needed that, anyone can use those stalls."

Maybe she thinks handicapped people have cooties?

If the next stall open to me is the handicapped stall, I just glance back to see if there's a wheelchair or walker behind me. If not, I grab it.

 

[sleepymouse]

I'm gathering that weaving through crowds is considered rude? If so, I am that person on a regular basis, though I do my best to not run into people. I naturally walk fast and see no point in extending the time it takes for me to get somewhere just because another group in front of me walks slower than I do.

I also am usually by myself and will absolutely take advantage of needing to fill in all available space/using both lines (Star Tours/IsSW) though. I know people get annoyed and I probably am seen as the rude person at that point

Walking fast is not a crime. There is nothing wrong with passing people. Just don't cut off/bump anyone, but the same goes for slow walkers too. I don't understand the people that walk slowly like a human wall, purposefully trying to block others. I have seen this too many times.

 

[Magpie]

But what about the little kids behind you also have been looking forward to seeing but can't now because your kid is on your shoulders? This is the single most annoying thing about disney to me.

Firstly, if these little kids are on the ground in the crowd, they can't see anything anyway, just like the previous posters child. Solution - their folks need to put them on their shoulders, too. Now all the wee kiddies can see!

Secondly, we all care more about our own loved ones, than we do about other people, and this one thing will guide even the most courteous guests actions. 'I got mine' is not normally a thought that ever occurs to me, but I can easily get caught up in making sure my husband and kids get theirs. It takes a fair bit of self awareness and discipline not to get carried away, especially at Disney.

Disney brings out our inner child. Unfortunately, sometimes my inner child is a brat.

 

[sleepymouse]

But what about the little kids behind you also have been looking forward to seeing but can't now because your kid is on your shoulders? This is the single most annoying thing about disney to me.

I totally agree and said something similar a few pages back. I completely understand the urge to put your little one on your shoulders, but it isn't fair to others. It's just like holding an ipad high in the air and taping the fireworks. And most people have also stored up enough good karma just as most have paid a lot of money to be there.

 

[Gillyrose779]

Firstly, if these little kids are on the ground in the crowd, they can't see anything anyway, just like the previous posters child. Solution - their folks need to put them on their shoulders, too. Now all the wee kiddies can see!

Secondly, we all care more about our own loved ones, than we do about other people, and this one thing will guide even the most courteous guests actions. 'I got mine' is not normally a thought that ever occurs to me, but I can easily get caught up in making sure my husband and kids get theirs. It takes a fair bit of self awareness and discipline not to get carried away, especially at Disney.

Disney brings out our inner child. Unfortunately, sometimes my inner child is a brat.

It may be rude but I have to agree. If my kids are on the ground and adults are standing in front of them they are not going to see a thing. I can only hold my kids for so long.

If I'm in a crowd with my kids and they want to see the show and my arms are getting tired, rude or not, I'm probably going to put them on my shoulders.

#SorryNotSorry

 

[Fastpassminus]

I would have left her behind and walked on my way. Seriously.

Oooh Nooo HS family STICKS together! No one can walk ahead. It makes people feel " left out " Also if someone wants a snack we ALL have to stop. Also if you need Chapstick you better go right to the resort store & get it as a group Wven if we are trying to make RD.

Sigh. Honestly it wasn't the worst trip ever but we won't be vacationing with them again

 

[maxiesmom]

It may be rude but I have to agree. If my kids are on the ground and adults are standing in front of them they are not going to see a thing. I can only hold my kids for so long.

If I'm in a crowd with my kids and they want to see the show and my arms are getting tired, rude or not, I'm probably going to put them on my shoulders.

#SorryNotSorry

Simple solution. Get to the parade early enough to get a front seat, or get a FP. Same for the fireworks. Truth is many people find it easier to be rude than to truly try to fix the problem themselves without being rude to others.

 

[Gillyrose779]

Simple solution. Get to the parade early enough to get a front seat, or get a FP. Same for the fireworks. Truth is many people find it easier to be rude than to truly try to fix the problem themselves without being rude to others.

FP the fireworks last time so no issue... not really into parades but I already went into that in another post.

The only time this was an issue for us was when we went to MVMCP last year and saw the Frozen show at the castle. I thought we got there really early but I guess you are never too early for anything Frozen... plus no FP option. I held my youngest but my oldest went on daddy's shoulders. Honestly, with that show, the only way the kids would have seen it without being up is if we were in front row.

I should add there were PLENTY of kids on shoulders and I didn't hear a single complaint or passive aggressive comment.

 

[phillymummer]

The values have queue ropes.

Well then... that is a plus for the values! POFQ/ POR do not. I can only guess that the other moderates are the same way?

 

[mom2rtk]

Simple solution. Get to the parade early enough to get a front seat, or get a FP. Same for the fireworks. Truth is many people find it easier to be rude than to truly try to fix the problem themselves without being rude to others.

It's the same as saying to those behind you "I have decided my child's experience is more important than yours".

 

[Magpie]

I should add there were PLENTY of kids on shoulders and I didn't hear a single complaint or passive aggressive comment.

I suspect it's not one of those things that bothers everybody, all the time. A fireworks or castle show? Lots of kids on shoulders and I don't recall ever being bothered by it. Curbside at the parade? Well, that'd be just rude! (But again, I've never seen anyone do that - the shoulder riders are always in the back, in my experience.)

This is, of course, all very theoretical for me. These days, I see a small child on someone's shoulders, and I smile and get all nostalgic, remembering when my son and husband got their pic in the local paper doing just that at a Santa Claus parade.

That boy is now 6'4'' (at minimum - I haven't measured him recently), and could probably put me on his shoulders these days.