Adam and Katies 10/2/2010 SBP/Attic/?? ~ brainstorming!

[figment fan21]

I need my girls..... **severe venting alert**

So i was on facebook this morning while at work.... bad employee bad employee... and my sister came on. (not the one who came over last weekend the other one) So i said hi and asked her how she and my dad liked the STD's. Even though my sister lives with my dad i loved my STD's so much that i made one for everyone regardless if they lived in the same house.
She said "yea they're cute" so i told her that in the next few weeks DF and I wanted a head count so we can decide the best things to do after the wedding, hotel accomodations, plane tickets, and to also let randy know since he likes to know how many guests and bridal party info.
She said well Kevin (her BF) couldn't afford to send them both. Ok my sister is 20 and works idk why Kevin need to "send" her with his money but she insisits she has none. She then proceeded to tell me that she doesn't like the fact that she needs to work 7 days a week this summer to afford to go. I find this very funny considering she lives at home with my dad. She said she also doesn't like that she needs her BF to pay for her to go. I nicely explained to her that we figured it out and she'd need to save less than a dollar a day from now until the wedding and she'd have enough money to go. It drives me nuts that she and Kevin go out to eat EVERY night because they dont like to cook and my dad isn't always home to cook for them.
To make matters worse she also said my dad got his STD and said that he doesn't think he can afford to go either!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He JUST got back from a week in ARUBA!!!!!!!!!!!!! I nicely said well if neither one of you can make it i won't be mad (lies all lies) and that I understood if money was an issue.
What she said next was even worse.... "why dont you just bite the bullet and let mom do whatever she wants and let her pay for it. If you do the disney thing i doubt anyone will go so i think you should just let mom do it all"
Then she just signed off.... No response No nothing.
I can't even explain how upset and hurt I am.

To top it all Off i heard back from the original facility we were supposed to get married in and they said they can NOT refund any of the money we put down. We gave them a one thousand dollar deposit and i gave them a year and a half notice that we were canceling and they won't give us anything back. That was one thousand of my money and i know i signed a contract and everything and its my own fault but REALLY??? you can't give me anything back?? They wouldn't even work with me on anything even if i wanted a shower there they won't do anything. What kills me is that they're a very popular place around here and i know they will be able to fill our spot in no time.

I'm sorry.... i'm just so mad/upset/annoyed/hurt....thank for listening girls...

 

[Bride-to-be]

I think your sister is incredibly jealous!!!

Keep your chin up I am sure all of your family will be there on your big day. I mean really how much does a plane ticket to orlando cost? maybe $200?

I would talk to your dad and see what he has to say before you get really upset. I think your sister is just saying that to be mean. and I mean really they have over a year to save!

If they think they are THAT poor why don't they just all pile into a car and drive down. I once read somewhere that its $17 in tolls and I would guess probably 4 or 5 tanks of gas.

Anyhoo I really think she is just pulling your leg. If she is not and she is that mean in general and doesn't want to give up eating out to attend your wedding then I don't think I would want her there. I would do anything for my sisters weddings - whatever they asked.

 

[Bolanette87]

I just wanted to stop by and give you a hug....

Bob xoxoxox

 

[figment fan21]

I think your sister is incredibly jealous!!!

Keep your chin up I am sure all of your family will be there on your big day. I mean really how much does a plane ticket to orlando cost? maybe $200?

I would talk to your dad and see what he has to say before you get really upset. I think your sister is just saying that to be mean. and I mean really they have over a year to save!

If they think they are THAT poor why don't they just all pile into a car and drive down. I once read somewhere that its $17 in tolls and I would guess probably 4 or 5 tanks of gas.

Anyhoo I really think she is just pulling your leg. If she is not and she is that mean in general and doesn't want to give up eating out to attend your wedding then I don't think I would want her there. I would do anything for my sisters weddings - whatever they asked.

Sadly this sister is VERY self absorbed. She is also not the birghtest bulb in the box when it comes to money and doesn't understand real life. I just know how she is and she would just love it if i said "ok fine mom can have her way and pay for everything" because she loves drama and uses this family as her own personal tella novella!!!! She also wouldn't have to shell out any cash either. But i'm so sorry my mother is not making my wedding into HER wedding.
As far as my dad we recently started talking again after 4 years of silence and the reason for the 4 years of slience is that, much like my lovely sister he is also very selfish. He had us kids alot later in life and he is pretty much done with parenting just wants to live his life without a care in the world so i don't doubt that he said this. He als mentioned something to my other sister about hoping i didn't decide on disney because of the money too.
But i will defiantly be trying to keep my head up.... i'm trying to think exactly what you said... if they're going to act this way then i dont want them there!

I just wanted to stop by and give you a hug....

Bob xoxoxox

thanks Bob... that means alot!

 

[figment fan21]

Ok so come to find out my Darling sister (yea thats some seriouse sarcasim) made the whole thing up.
I called DF and freaked out I told him that I felt like i lost a thousand dollars for nothing... One of the main reasons we decided on a disney wedding was because we didn't want to deal with the drama a big wedding would bring (on top of the fact that i've always wanted to get married in disney anyway) And after all the canceling and everything else we did people are still being A-holes!!! So i told him i wanted to talk to my father myself and that i wanted him to talk to his family ASAP and get either a yes or no.

SO I called my dad and guess what..... I asked him if he liked the STD's i made and he said "what STD's?" My sister said she gave it to him... well she didnt! I expained the whole story to him and he was pretty mad. He told me that he DID want to go and that he was sorry for whatever my sister said to make me upset. He thinks that she did this because she doens't think my father will allow her boyfriend to go or something to that effect but that he would take care of her when he got home.
DF pulled up just as i got off the phone with him and he told me that he spoke to his mother. Although she wasn't happy about it and kept saying "you really can't figure out some way to afford a wedding here??" He told he straight out that we already made the decision that we CAN NOT afford a wedding here (love how his family offered to help pay...yea sarcasim again) and that we did not want a wedding here we'd rather a small wedding in disney. He asked me to get some prices for them, plane tickets, hotels, ect, and he gave her the info over the phone. He promised her we'd all fly together (get over it lady! i'll just slip you some valium) and that she wouldn't have to worry about anything we'd take care of booking everything for her. She said she'd talk to FDFIL and make sure he can get the time off work and let us know by the end of the week.
Oh! and after all my complaining Our recpetion hall emailed us again and told us that as long as they were able to book another wedding or function in our place they'd give us half the deposit money back!!! I just have to keep on them about whether they booked it or not.... i'm thinking an email everyday should do the trick! So i'm going to take that 500 and put it towards the wedding fund!
I feel much better now and i'm glad that everyone for the most part is on the same page. Thanks for the support girls!!!

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

Glad to hear that you got to the bottom of that.

Was this the sister that you had the sleep over with?

 

[figment fan21]

No... it was my other sister.... shes just lovely!!!!

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

No... it was my other sister.... shes just lovely!!!!

Yeah she's a peach...Sounds like someone is jealous.

 

[PrincessShea]

Oh Katie what a horrible situation. I hope it all works out in the end It does just sound like your sister is jealous. I hope your family pulls together though because I cannot imagine how stressful it must be to have everyone giving you trouble.

 

[teddygurl28]

ok thats it, my supposed wedding date is sept. im going to change it and make my disney moon the same time as your wedding and come to your wedding...ill be your new sister


seriously tholugh, as you have found out she made it all up- she is lookng for attention where she doesnt deserve it. this is your time and your spot light. those that matter will find a way to be there to celebrate with you. they will put aside whatever is bothering them (ie "money" "flying fears" "non disney") and be there for you


and the venue will find someone to fill that day, but definately stay on top of them so you get that money!

 

[MainStMandy]

Oh hun I am soooo sorry!! Family can be such a pain, can't they!!!?? Keep your chin up and keep planning that beautiful wedding!! It will all be worth on that special day!

 

[figment fan21]

Yeah she's a peach...Sounds like someone is jealous.

Yea shes definatly jelouse... she is a classic middle child (sorry any other middle children reading)

Oh Katie what a horrible situation. I hope it all works out in the end It does just sound like your sister is jealous. I hope your family pulls together though because I cannot imagine how stressful it must be to have everyone giving you trouble.

Thanks hun. Thankfully my dad seemed cool with everything...which is good considering our rocky relationship. FDMIL seemed ok with it over the phone but shes alittle wierd, like one christmas we asked her over the phone if we could bring Duke (dd) with us to her house and on the phone she was all happy to have her doggie grandson but then we showed up and we didn't even get through the front door and we had to bring him home.... so we'll see how she feels in a few days. But i'm hoping for the best.

ok thats it, my supposed wedding date is sept. im going to change it and make my disney moon the same time as your wedding and come to your wedding...ill be your new sister


seriously tholugh, as you have found out she made it all up- she is lookng for attention where she doesnt deserve it. this is your time and your spot light. those that matter will find a way to be there to celebrate with you. they will put aside whatever is bothering them (ie "money" "flying fears" "non disney") and be there for you


and the venue will find someone to fill that day, but definately stay on top of them so you get that money!

Awe meghan!!! You totally have to come!! it'll be a Disbride/wedding crashing/disneymoon meet!!!

Df said the same thing to me after my insane break down. He just told me that if people are going to give us a hard, (bad word) 'em! They obviously dont think they need to be a part of our day and thats fine... if they feel that way we dont need them there. I just wish people were alittle more supportive but i'll take whatever i can get at this point.

And i will definatly be staying on top of the reception hall! I need that money!!!

Oh hun I am soooo sorry!! Family can be such a pain, can't they!!!?? Keep your chin up and keep planning that beautiful wedding!! It will all be worth on that special day!

I can't stand family! I told DF that sometimes i'd rather my DISbrides and a few friends at the wedding other than family!!! He laughed and said "I'd bet they'd be more willing to come!" But i will continue to plan and plan and plan..... it keeps me busy and my mind off things which is a plus!

 

[MainStMandy]

Someone once told me...just like Dory, Just keep planning...just keep planning!

 

[JoBird]

I'm keeping up with ya Katiebug----- I just don't ever feel like I can add a whole lot, being the old mom type with three kids and all--- especially since one of those kids is going into High School next year.

Anyway-- I hope things work out so that everyone you want and need to be will be there for you- to hold the memory in their hearts of seeing you at your happiest.

And if they can't make it--
then what else can you do?

You've done your part. You've asked them to be a part of it.
The ball is in their court.

Now quit stressing over everything!

Jo

PS-- you need me to muscle the money form the venue-?? let me know. Remember how I handled the rent a cop in my last TR from October????

PSS-- see my tickers??????? Mighty Mighty is once again the coolest dude in town. Laguna Beach as in...... CALIFORNIA!!!!--- a COMPLETE shock. HE PLANNED IT ALL!!! Hoping for a secret trip to Disneyland that week.
Okay-- yes, I'm going but I'm not supposed to know I'm going. Hahahaha.

 

[figment fan21]

Someone once told me...just like Dory, Just keep planning...just keep planning!

Best advice EVERRRRRR!!!!!

I'm keeping up with ya Katiebug----- I just don't ever feel like I can add a whole lot, being the old mom type with three kids and all--- especially since one of those kids is going into High School next year.

Anyway-- I hope things work out so that everyone you want and need to be will be there for you- to hold the memory in their hearts of seeing you at your happiest.

And if they can't make it--
then what else can you do?

You've done your part. You've asked them to be a part of it.
The ball is in their court.

Now quit stressing over everything!

Jo

PS-- you need me to muscle the money form the venue-?? let me know. Remember how I handled the rent a cop in my last TR from October????

PSS-- see my tickers??????? Mighty Mighty is once again the coolest dude in town. Laguna Beach as in...... CALIFORNIA!!!!--- a COMPLETE shock. HE PLANNED IT ALL!!! Hoping for a secret trip to Disneyland that week.
Okay-- yes, I'm going but I'm not supposed to know I'm going. Hahahaha.

JO!!!!!

I was wondering when you'd pop back in! What did you think of the STD's? Oh and the dress actually on me?

I am done stressing and I'm going to just let everyone do what they want. Either show up or don't... Not my problem.

I think i'm doing a good job of muscling that reception hall myself but if i need my tag team buddy i'll tag you in! I started laughing after reading your post thinking about that whole cop situation! Hilariouse!

And will you look at Mighty Good Man!!!! I can't wait to hear all about that trip! I've never been to DL so you'll have to do a TR and send me the link so i can read all about it! The Kids (and you and Mighty good man) are going to LOVE that!!!

 

[polynesianbride]

Someone once told me...just like Dory, Just keep planning...just keep planning!

I agree! This is totally THE best advice ever!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm so sorry about all the drama and headaches but it sounds like it's starting to work it's way out. Hang in there!

 

[tiggersam00]

Aww Katie! Sorry you had to deal with all that, at least you will get some answers soon as to who is in and who is out...

But if you are looking for wedding crashers, sign me up, I will glue Mickey Ears on my Sox hat just for your big day

 

[figment fan21]

I agree! This is totally THE best advice ever!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm so sorry about all the drama and headaches but it sounds like it's starting to work it's way out. Hang in there!

Thanks Adelia! It was a massive headache yesterday I was glad i got some answers out of it though.

Aww Katie! Sorry you had to deal with all that, at least you will get some answers soon as to who is in and who is out...

But if you are looking for wedding crashers, sign me up, I will glue Mickey Ears on my Sox hat just for your big day

Thanks Sam... You should definatly crash the wedding! I'd love it!!! I'll let my WC know that i'm going need to add my Dis Brides to the guest list!

 

[figment fan21]

So I have a few quick updates for today.

First I think i found the perfect tux for adam and his GM (depending if his brothers go or not) I haven't shown it to him yet so IDK if he'll like it or not but if he does we may need to change our colors... i know i know another color change. But its not a big one...promise! Anyway so here is a link to the tux. (it wouldn't let me save the picture)

http://www.menswearhouse.com/webapp...ory_rn=10728&top=10651&selectedOccasion=23156

I love the look of it and I like how the turqouise looks with it. Just make those boots pink and thats my wedding... Ta Da!!!! So maybe instead of having the chocolate brown i could have that tan color instead? or just have the turquoise and pink and let their tux color be the accent color? Mandy... thoughts?.... anyone else have any thoughts?? I just think I like how that tux will look with the BW/BC/YC theme. Very nautical you know! Does anyone think it'll be too casual next to my "couture" gown? (That always makes me laugh... couture!)

Ok another update... I moved my time from the 5 to the 2:30 and confirmed it with my WC today! I also asked her some questions about having a small private party and she gave me good advice. I was sure they'd pressure me into spending alot but she wasn't like that at all, she said that with my small guest list it wouldn't be worth it for me to spend all that money on it. She said one of the best places to eat in that SBP area was flying fish and our families both like fish so I think we might just do that after the ceremony. I'm going to go do some research on that place once i'm done with this post.

Lastly I got home today and got a CD from Randy and STVS!!! I totaly wasn't expecting one but as soon as i could get the dogs outside i ran to the laptop and put it in!!! I even saw a few of your DISers in there! thank you all again for being my randy inspiration! It was pretty cool to see their work! i can't WAIT to work with randy! I'm not very photogenic so fingers crossed i look as good as you all did!

Alright well i'm off to post on some of your threads and then do some more research on flying fish!

 

[toriloco]

well im actually on the phone with you right now but just wanted everyone on here to know im not the bad sister im the good one lol