Years ago, one of DD's ballet teachers wanted me to enter her in a beauty pageant. (They were a pageant family...Miss Texas, etc., not those made up pageants.) She said DD was "born for the stage."

Back then, DD was a little ham and could charm the birds out of the trees, so I'm sure she would have done well in that regard. And with an experienced pageant family coaching her, she'd have had an advantage.
I thanked her kindly, but turned the offer down. She asked again, and told me she thought DD could win the talent portion easily and perhaps win the whole thing, even though it was her first time. That scared me most of all.

Yes, DD was outgoing, would charm the judges, could dance like a dream and was a pretty little thing. But that is exactly what bugged me.
Sure, she was pretty. I know all moms think that and they should, but even objectively speaking, I'd been approached over and over to have DD model, etc. But here's the thing. She didn't do one thing to be pretty. It was dumb luck. She didn't work at it or earn it.....it just happened. And to us, it wasn't the most special thing about her by a long shot. Plus, what if her pretty little girl stage of development went bye-bye someday and she went through an ugly duckling stage? It happens. Gorgeous little girls can be plain or even homely at 10.
If you make "being pretty" the be all and end all, then what happens to their sense of self worth when they aren't so pretty any longer? What happens when they become gawky or chubby, get zits, need braces, etc.? If being "the pretty one" has been their claim to fame and they aren't the pretty one any longer, it can mess them up. They don't feel they have any value.
So we didn't want to put her in any pageants where she was rewarded for being pretty......I mean, next pageant a prettier girl could come along and then what are you? The ugly one? No, we figured if she was pretty, fine. If she grew out of that someday and was plain, then better her identity was not all wrapped up in being pretty. Better to concentrate on what's on the inside, her grades, her sports, etc. than on how cute she is/is not. I thought it was just setting her up to feel like a winner/loser based on her face and that was NOT something we wanted to encourage.