ABC's What Would YOU DO??

[DawnCt1]

I watched What Would You Do last night and they had actors portraying an intoxicated 'birthday girl' and and a very drunk "party girl" along with a male actor who was attempting to take advantage of them and remove them from the bar to his hotel. It was interesting to see who came to their rescue. I was disappointed in the older woman who told her husband "don't get involved". I was very moved by the mother and sister who lost their family member in a very similar scenario. I was disappointed in the off duty cop who did nothing and the young man who made sexual jokes about the party girl. What would you do? Clearly both girls let it be known that the young man was a stranger and they didn't want to go. Would you intervene?

 

[agnes!]

Of course.

agnes!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I did not see it however I would MYOB.

 

[DawnCt1]

I did not see it however I would MYOB.

It was heart breaking to see the real life video of a young, beautiful very drunk,21 year old girl being dragged out of a club knowing that she was later found raped and murdered. If someone had said, "wait, she doesn't know you, so she isn't going with you" and intervened she would be alive.
The portrayal last night made it very clear that the girls didn't know him. That they didn't welcome his advances but that they were helpless to resist. I couldn't help but intervene.

 

[Ohiodislover]

Darn--I forgot that was on. I wanted to watch. I'll have to see if it is on ABC.com.

I would hope that I would intervene. I am 100% sure that my husband would.

 

[VickiVM]

It was heart breaking to see the real life video of a young, beautiful very drunk,21 year old girl being dragged out of a club knowing that she was later found raped and murdered. If someone had said, "wait, she doesn't know you, so she isn't going with you" and intervened she would be alive.
The portrayal last night made it very clear that the girls didn't know him. That they didn't welcome his advances but that they were helpless to resist. I couldn't help but intervene.

A couple of weeks ago my husband and I were driving home fromt he grocery store. Our community is in a hilly, rocky area and we drive up a long hill alongside a canyon to get to our house. It was midafternoon. Along the side of the road adjacent to the canyon (a lot of joggers run this path, but there is no concrete sidewalk) we saw a baby stroller and nothing else. It just didn't set well with me. I imagined that perhaps a mom out walking the path with her baby or toddler may have let the child out for a moment and he/she feel down into the canyon. My husband was really non-plussed (bugged me that he felt this way), but we drove home which was just not more than one minute away, and I turned around and went back to make sure everyone was ok.

On the way back I saw a mom and 2 boys - one may have been around 9 and the other 7 or so. Apparently they were walking and perhaps stopped to hike down a bit.

I was relieved. But there is a sense of when you find yourself in that moment, should you just myob...afterall, that is part of how our culture is - live and let live.

 

[MushyMushy]

I'm not sure what I'd do, to be honest. Usually when I see girls that messed up, they're with a group of friends. I think if I ever saw that happening with a girl who was out solo, I'd at least bring it to the attention of the bar manager.

I just don't typically go to places where that sort of thing happens.

 

[DawnCt1]

A couple of weeks ago my husband and I were driving home fromt he grocery store. Our community is in a hilly, rocky area and we drive up a long hill alongside a canyon to get to our house. It was midafternoon. Along the side of the road adjacent to the canyon (a lot of joggers run this path, but there is no concrete sidewalk) we saw a baby stroller and nothing else. It just didn't set well with me. I imagined that perhaps a mom out walking the path with her baby or toddler may have let the child out for a moment and he/she feel down into the canyon. My husband was really non-plussed (bugged me that he felt this way), but we drove home which was just not more than one minute away, and I turned around and went back to make sure everyone was ok.

On the way back I saw a mom and 2 boys - one may have been around 9 and the other 7 or so. Apparently they were walking and perhaps stopped to hike down a bit.

I was relieved. But there is a sense of when you find yourself in that moment, should you just myob...afterall, that is part of how our culture is - live and let live.

You did the right thing. You could 'rest' easier knowing that there was no accident, slip and fall, a mother injured with a baby, etc.

 

[DawnCt1]

I'm not sure what I'd do, to be honest. Usually when I see girls that messed up, they're with a group of friends. I think if I ever saw that happening with a girl who was out solo, I'd at least bring it to the attention of the bar manager.

I just don't typically go to places where that sort of thing happens.

That reminds me of Natale Holloway.

 

[esbrick]

I have no problem getting involved. That young woman could be your sister, your bff, or even your daughter someday and I would want a guardian angel looking out for them.

I think that watching out for one another is a habit we all need to improve on. I'm really glad that man in NYC, no matter if the whole thing was botched, was looking out for all those in NY. I am thankful for him.

 

[mtemm]

the closest I've come to that situation was when I went out for drinks on a friday with a bunch of people from work. one woman I worked with was a bit messed up emotionally to begin with, and she got bombed. there was a whole table of men we didn't know...about 4 or 5 of them...who were loving how drunk she was and were trying to convince her to come back to someone's house with them. she was at the point where she was barely coherent and they had only been there for a beer or 2 and seemed totally sober, but they seemed prepared to pass her around like she was just nothing. it was really appalling, and my 5'2", 118lb, 22 year old self lit into them. I was thoroughly disgusted and let them know it. and I drove her home myself.

would I do the same for a complete stranger? I'd like to think so. but I think most of the people on that show would probably say the same given a hypothetical situation like this. I'd be curious to know what I really would do. I didn't see the show, btw, so not sure how obvious it all was. very sad, though. very sad.

 

[LuvCuteBoys]

I'm not sure what I'd do, to be honest. Usually when I see girls that messed up, they're with a group of friends. I think if I ever saw that happening with a girl who was out solo, I'd at least bring it to the attention of the bar manager.

I just don't typically go to places where that sort of thing happens.

This was my thought as well. I don't know what I would do. How do you reason with someone who is sloshed? I suppose I might tell someone else, but the truth is, I'm not sure that I'd risk myself getting hurt/raped/murdered if I wasn't completely sure what was going on. Was she yelling at the guy to leave her alone? Or was he just coercing her?

IDK. Tough call.
Lesson... don't get drunk by yourself or with people you don't trust. Not saying that it would be her fault, but... an ounce of prevention and all that jazz.

I'd like to think I'd try to help... but I'm very non-confrontational and I have no idea what I would do. That's my honest answer.

Now... ask me if I found a wallet or something like that and I could say with absolute certainty what I would do. This situation has too many variables.

 

[TheZue]

I think it's really important to remember that when you see a girl that messed up being dragged out by some guy she says she doesn't know there is a very very good chance she's been slipped a drug and she's not just a silly girl who couldn't handle her liquor intake. I didn't see it, but I think I'd say something or call 911.

 

[esbrick]

That reminds me of Natale Holloway.[/QUOTE

I thought the same thing. . .

 

[DawnCt1]

In the first cut, an older man with a heavy accent (Italian or Greek) intervened. He made it clear that the young man would have to go through him to get her out of the door. When the scene ended and the host of the show asked him why he intervened, he teared up an said, "I have a 25 year old daughter. I would like to think someone would help her".

 

[torinsmom]

I would like to think I would speak up and at the very least, make sure others knew what was going on, so someone could act. Being a middle aged woman, I don't know if I would try to physically try to stop someone though.

The segment that had someone trying to steal a bike in a park made me sick. When it was a white male teen, people walked right on by, even when he told them it wasn't his bike. He had a saw, bolt cutters, etc. Then when a black teen was doing the same thing, a whole crowd gathered and the police were called immediately! The last clip was of a pretty blond girl stealing the bike and men were HELPING her steal the bike when she asked!

 

[DawnCt1]

I would like to think I would speak up and at the very least, make sure others knew what was going on, so someone could act. Being a middle aged woman, I don't know if I would try to physically try to stop someone though.

The segment that had someone trying to steal a bike in a park made me sick. When it was a white male teen, people walked right on by, even when he told them it wasn't his bike. He had a saw, bolt cutters, etc. Then when a black teen was doing the same thing, a whole crowd gathered and the police were called immediately! The last clip was of a pretty blond girl stealing the bike and men were HELPING her steal the bike when she asked!

That was an outrageous segment. What happens to men???!!! Do they loose their minds?

 

[sunnyday123]

I have been in that situation and I have helped. I spent the whole night with this random, seriously drunk girl, feeding her soda and trying to figure out what to do with her. I finally started calling people on her phone, and had one of her friends pick her up.

Last night driving home around 11pm there was a girl laying in the grass between the sidewalk and gutter in my neighborhood-very unusual since we don't usually have people doing that unless someone has had a party-and there were none last night!

I rolled down my window and yelled to her, but she just rolled over. I called the police and stayed there till they got there. Her legs were sticking out into the street and she could have easily been run over. I had DD with me so I wasn't chancing getting out of the car ( she was extremely drunk apparently ) but I didn't want to leave her alone in case something did happen.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I would intervene.

 

[torinsmom]

That was an outrageous segment. What happens to men???!!! Do they loose their minds?

Basically, yeah. One was a married middle aged man riding bikes with his wife. His wife asked if the bike was hers and when she said no, she was telling her she shouldn't be doing that. Then the husband rides past the wife to the girl and pulls the sign that the bike was chained to out of the ground, so the bike can be freed. The chain still keeps it from moving, so he helped her cut it too.

One man said it is just natural for a man to want to help a woman. However, I bet if it was an unattractive woman, they wouldn't be as likely to help.

Here's the bike one.....

There are two segments--one is the two male teens and the other is the female teen

http://abcnews.go.com/WhatWouldYouDo/