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Thanks for the replies everyone. To answer a few questions, this child and my DD are good friends, they sleep over a couple of times a month. I would love to sit here and say that DD would NEVER forget to call her friend if she weren't sick, but I honestly couldn't say that. She is 15, she makes mistakes. Again, (have I said this before? 
lol) DD should have called. It was rude of her not to do so, but I had no idea what was going on until the mother called and left the message.
IMHO, at 15, or the way it works in my house anyway, she asks to go stay with a friend when they have plans set. So she didn't mention anything to me about it until I started questioning her last night. I did tell her it was rude of her not to call, and she felt badly for not calling. In the past, she always went along with whatever her friend wants to do, as DD is kind of the follower in that relationship.
I do feel bad that the friend and her family might have had plans that got disrupted. However, if the sitution was reversed, since the 2 are good friends, I would have said to give her a call and see what is up. That would have been the end of my involvement. If friend wasn't here when we needed to leave, friend would have just missed the bus. It would never cross my mind to assume that I needed to call the child. I am not her parent, it is not my place to put her in her place.
Anyway, long rant, but that is what irritated me. That this friends mother called DD to chastise her, not speak to me about it. I think they are too old for parents to be involved in their relationship. As far as being afraid I wouldn't correct her behavior, whether or not I correct it is my call as a parent, not hers. My issue was not with her thinking DD was rude, ITA with her on that one, and I addressed it. My issue was with her involvement in the 1st place.
lol) DD should have called. It was rude of her not to do so, but I had no idea what was going on until the mother called and left the message.IMHO, at 15, or the way it works in my house anyway, she asks to go stay with a friend when they have plans set. So she didn't mention anything to me about it until I started questioning her last night. I did tell her it was rude of her not to call, and she felt badly for not calling. In the past, she always went along with whatever her friend wants to do, as DD is kind of the follower in that relationship.
I do feel bad that the friend and her family might have had plans that got disrupted. However, if the sitution was reversed, since the 2 are good friends, I would have said to give her a call and see what is up. That would have been the end of my involvement. If friend wasn't here when we needed to leave, friend would have just missed the bus. It would never cross my mind to assume that I needed to call the child. I am not her parent, it is not my place to put her in her place.
Anyway, long rant, but that is what irritated me. That this friends mother called DD to chastise her, not speak to me about it. I think they are too old for parents to be involved in their relationship. As far as being afraid I wouldn't correct her behavior, whether or not I correct it is my call as a parent, not hers. My issue was not with her thinking DD was rude, ITA with her on that one, and I addressed it. My issue was with her involvement in the 1st place.
