Aaaarrrrggggghhhhhhh!!!!!

[mhopset]

So as most of you know my last day of work was 10-16-02.

Now all of a sudden I have become the family B***H. I get things like:

Tony, since your not working, can you go pick up so and so from school?

Tony, could you watch my kids for a couple of hours while I go to the store?

Tony, could you take me to get my hair done and then pick me up and take me home?

Excuse me Family could you all kiss my butt!

This stuff is more work than work was. I have to put my foot down! or take it out on the cat

 

[JudithM]

As much as I am not a cat lover (I'm allergic to the little fur balls ), I think you would do better by putting your foot down. I don't know your situation, but do you feel these requests are taking away from job hunting time? Take a step back & look at the big picture. If you still feel as you did when you wrote, then put your foot down (gently, of course ). There are ways to say something without being nasty, etc. Good luck!

 

[SueM in MN]

Tony, these people do understand that you had to quit work because it was too much for you, right??

I think they probably don't have a clue of how much energy it takes you to accomplish these things that they are asking you to do. I can see that work might have been less "work" because once you were there, you would be settled down to work for a while. With the new set-up, you are running around all day. So, anyway, my perspective is either they don't understand how tiring all this is for you or they understand how hard it was for you to give up work and they are trying to make you feel useful. At any rate, don't take it out on the cat. All that will get you is a vet bill (and maybe an infection in your leg when the cat scratches or bites you in retaliation).

Here's some No more B***H Pixie Dust for you. Use it carefully.

 

[travelitis]

You don't need to start a war with your family or kick the cat. Learn the following phrase and use it, "No, I'm sorry, but I can't help you." Then change topics or wish them luck making other arrangements and end the conversation. DON'T give a reason why you can't help or say you wish you could. Unless it's a spouse they aren't owed any more explanation, and saying you'd like to help is their invitation to beg you some more. Plus it's just not the truth, is it? Good Luck!

 

[Nanajo1]

Tony,
And you thought the hard part was stopping work. You got some great advice. Say, Sorry I can't help you, and offer no excuse. Here's some PD to help with the aggravation.

 

[sneezy1956]

Tony I'm so sorry you are having all the trouble. I like the suggestion of just sorry I can't and changing the subject, but like you I have problems saying no

I really don't have an answer for you but please know I'm down the road if you need to talk