A Wisher needs Support Today!!

[Luvinit]

My sister KeyKey, is going through a really rough day today. Please send her some of your wonderful Hugs, and Pixie Dust.

She has just dropped my niece, her 3yo DD (Mackenzie) off at preschool for the first time. She has NEVER left her with anyone except me or our mom.

Yesterday was her Mackenzie's first day of preschool and it went pretty well, but today was a nightmare, Mackenzie clung to her leg and kicked and cried that she did not want to go. My sister did the right thing and gave her a kiss and walked out of the classroom, but now my sister is a basketcase, filled with guilt. I told her that she did the right thing.

KeyKey has been working so hard on the Atkins plan, She is doing GREAT. I know how she gets under stress, (and mommy stress is the worst). I don't want to see her fall off the wagon. I am leaving her for a couple of days, so if ya'll could please keep an eye on her for me, I would apperciate it!!!

Thanks
Tracy

 

[Beanie]

oooh I know exactly what she is going through!! Last year was my son's first day of Kindergarten and he cried and clung to me the first three days!! It was harder on me, I think But after a week or so, he was fine and loved going to school! Now, he keeps asking me when school is going to start because he can't wait!!

Hugs, KeyKey!! It does get better, I promise!!

 

[Tiggerkeeper]

{{{HUGS}}} KeyKey, Leaving your baby is one of the hardest things you do as a mom. Heck, I thought I was gonna cry myself sick when DS19 went to marine boot camp! And you know after 19 years it wasn't the first time I ever let go!!!!

Good luck this week! After a few times it does get easier!

Melissa

 

[maryliz]

{{{{HUGS}}}} KeyKey ... it's always harder on the Mom than on the child! Make sure you keep checking in with your WISH friends ... we'll do our best to help "de-stress" you!

Mary Liz

 

[TigH]

Oh goodness!

KeyKey, I'm sending you loads of hugs and pixie dust to make it stress-free (or as close to stress-free!) as you can be during the next few weeks, especially the next few days while your wonderful sister is out of town!

Don't fret, your little sweetie Mackenzie will survive preschool and you will survive the clinging and tears! Just don't turn to food for comfort, please! YOU CAN DO IT!

My sister spent most of nursery school hiding in the coat closet waiting for my mom to pick her up. She turned out ok, so don't worry!!!

((((((((((((KeyKey))))))))))))

Hang in there! xo

 

[BethR]

Awwww Kim! It's so hard being a Mom sometimes. {{{HUGS}}} These days will pass and before you know it, he will be like Beanie's DS, he will be wanting to know when it is time for school.

Forget the 'fridge and spend your time here. We love the company!

 

[jtbdas]

Keykey, huggs and pixie dust for happiness.

 

[tiggerlover]

{{{{HUGS}}}} to you KeyKey. It is so hard when we send our little ones off on their own. I remember well those first days of preschool and then the first days of kindergarten......it was hard, but I made it through and I know you will too.

 

[MelanieC]

((Hugs)) Keykey,

Kids sure do know how to make you feel guilty. It will get better, and one day she will just blow you off to play with her friends. It's amazing how kids do that. keep up the good work, and keep your chin up!

Melanie

 

[KeyKey]

Thanks to all the WISHers for their support and especially Tracy. I did call her this morning, and I was a basket case. The good news is the feeling puts a knot in my stomach and eating is the farthest thing from my mind. I don't want to go home and sit around with my other baby so I go walk the mall or take the baby to the park or a outing.

Thanks for all the support, I am glad to know that my child is normal. Something tells me one day she will kiss me goodby and tell me to go. I will probably cry then too because of how fast she is growing.

Just can't win when your a Mom.

Kim

 

[KathyTX]

Originally posted by KeyKey
Something tells me one day she will kiss me goodby and tell me to go.

Kim, that day will come way too soon. Just give her lots of love at home, and know that she's having a great time being a "big girl" at school, making friends and learning lots of neat stuff.

The actual moment of separation is much harder than the time she's spending at school.

Who knows, the day she tells you to go could happen next week, or next month. It is tough being a mommy!

 

[ohMom]

{{{{KeyKey}}}}} I hope the day perked up after pre-k! You are doing a good thing by encouraging Mackenzie to spread her wings a little Soon she will remember how absolutely FUN it is to be at school and she'll be looking forward to that time!

I'm having some Mommie-moments too, my baby is going into first grade this year. I was a SAHM for her entire life, not so with oldest DD so the transition to all-day school wasn't as big to me. Plus this is my last baby! Anyhow, she said to me just last night "Mommy, when I'm at school all day - I want you to do fun things while I'm gone. It's ok. You can go out to lunch all by yourself, or go golf (like I EVER do that!) or clean the house sometimes (FUN FUN)" I was so touched that she even thought of MY day inbetween her worries about school lunches and what she's going to wear!

Paige was THE biggest Mommy's girl and she went to pre-k and babysitting at the Y despite her occasional protests. I was very glad she did because her first day of Kindergarten is a GREAT memory, not a traumatic day for her at all. Mackenzie and you will get through this and begin to look forward to it!

Sending mommy-hugs to you

ps - DUH! blonde moment - just realized you guys are sisters! guess that's what happens when I cut down on my WISHing time!

 

[AlreadyexcitedGrammy]

Key Key (hi don't think we have met yet - mom of Ohmom here) and certainly sending PD your way for all the moments that it is a struggle to leave DD. It will get better with time and then you will be able to forget that guilt and feel so proud of how Mackensie is doing and "spreading her wings" as put by Ohmom.

PD for Mackensie to get some quick friends so that she will want to see them and look forward to her time with them, too

Also, PD for you not straying from your Atkins and congratualtions on doing so well!

 

[Minniespal]

KeyKey ~

Hope things get better.

{{{{{Hugs}}}}}

 

[Gillian]

It's hard seeing your kids going through stuff like this, isn't it? I promise that she will love it before you know it!

I'm having the opposite problem with DS, but I still feel guilty. Yesterday was his first day of preschool also, and he was fine when I left (didn't even notice, LOL), but he was hysterical when we had to leave. "I WANT TO GO BACK IN THERE" and "I WANT TO GO PLAY WITH THE KIDS! AND THE TOYS!" I felt like a horrible mom for bringing him back to our boring house for lunch & a nap.

 

[mbb]

KeyKey...Mommy guilt is the worst! Mackenzie is such a lucky little girl that her mom is helping her spread her wings, and her mom is doing a great thing for herself too...my 5yr old boys go to pre-school every day (after they ask if today is they day we go back to Disney!! ) and some mornings, it is hard to leave. No matter how bad the tears were when I left (mine and theirs!!), when I call...they are having the time of their lives. So I go back to the DisBoards again !! and try to feel less guilty!!
Mary Beth

 

[jenanderson]

KeyKey - I really am sending you good thoughts. This is something I go through every day! You would think after 2 years of daycare/preschool that my DS would be better but he is not. He cries and clings to me everyday - it is so hard. I will tell you what helps me. One day I sat outside his room (where he could not see me) and I listened to him. It was not even 2 minutes after I had "left" that he had stopped crying and was running, laughing and playing with his friends. I also know that everyday when I pick him up he is playing and having a good time. I have finally come to realize that the crying in the morning is just his routine but he is fine. He has a lot of friends, loves his teachers and enjoys the activities of the day. It still hurts to leave him somedays when he seems so upset but I just tell myself he will get over it and this is the best for him. I have talked with his teachers a lot about it and they all agree, as soon as I am gone, he is off and running. They say he is an otherwise happy and fun little boy.

If the crying continues on your end, you may just want to talk with the teacher to be sure that it does end quickly and that the rest of the day is an enjoyable experience. I know that it made a huge difference for me.

No matter what, it is hard when they cry. I hope it gets easier on you in the next couple of days! We are all here to give you the support you need during this transition.

Jen