Perrinsmommy
Mouseketeer
- Joined
- Mar 12, 2011
- Messages
- 252
Those outfits are adorable!!!
We thought it would be a good idea for Lhea to learn to swim before going to GKTW. So we signed her up for swim lessons at the Y. She was so excited and talked about it all week. She picked out her favorite swim suit and off to the pool we went. When we got there she was so excited and happy.
![]()
Now before I go on I think I must give you a little background information.
I have mentioned before that we adopted Lhea from foster care. Lhea was born to drug addicted parents. Actually her birth mother grew up in the foster care system and was bounced from home to home until she finally aged out. I believe her mother never learned to bond with anyone which of course led to her not bonding with her children. Lhea spent the first 16 months living in a drug filled home with LOTS of domestic violence and was severely neglected. All of this on top of being very sick. When ever Lhea was hospitalized her birth parents would just leave and not return for days. She was removed from the home once before and then returned shortly after and her birth parents were given in home services in hope of keeping the family together. Needless to say ultimately this didn't work and when Lhea's life was in danger the hospital social worker had her removed again. That is when she came to us. The night I picked Lhea up the social worker carried her in screaming, absolutely filthy, wearing boys clothes that were way too big and had the worst case of lice I had ever seen. Not to mention that the bottle that was given to the social worker for her was filled with curdled milk. So when I went to pick Lhea up to hold her she refused. She screamed. She pushed me away and would have nothing to do with anyone. She was terrified of being held. I don't think she had ever really been held. But it only took me about a day of "holding her against her will" for her to decide that she really did like to be held. Actually she began to make me hold her ALL of the time. But it was a great bonding experience for her.
I tell you all of this because it explains her SEVERE seperation anxiety. Whenever Lhea is in a new situation she totally clings to me. First she wouldn't let me put her down. Then she wouldn't let go of my leg. I tried to sit with her at the edge of the pool to help her feel more comfortable. Nothing helped. Finally I just handed her over to Miss Katie to see how she would do
![]()
Well she cried, just about the whole time. They wound up having to place her in the lowest level class because she refused to do anything and just cried. I am so torn now. I don't know what to do. Do I try again on Wednesday or just pull her out of the class?
Thank you all for all of your wonderful replies to our big gives. We have been so blessed! When we were foster parents we were exposed to the worst behaviors of people and how they treat children. Now we have seen the exact opposite - the love people truely have for children. You all have renewed our faith in the goodness of people. Thank you all for being such a huge part of our lives! This has been an experience that will stay with us for the rest of our lives.![]()
We got home today to find another box on our doorstep. This one was from Colleen. She must definately understand what it is like to be a busy mom. Her gift will make my job so much easier when we get back from Disney. It was complete with an adorable handmade card.
![]()
Lhea opened the box to find a beautiful homemade scrapbook.
![]()
It was perfect for someone like me who has 0 talent for scrapbooking. The pages were premade and had places to put pictures in it. There were pages for each of the parks and places for our favorite pictures. I am so excited!
![]()
It is so perfect! The kids are going to really love this! The little ones love looking at pictures of themselves.
Thank You So Much!!!