Bren, we all do need a brick thrown at us once in awhile.

And Elaine, love is indeed good for the soul.
Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards.
- Soren Kierkegaard
One of Mark Twain's most interesting writings states we should live
life backwards from the age of eighty to the time we were just a gleam
in someone's eye. How much more we'd learn, he felt, if we already
knew how to live before we had to.
We may fantasize sometimes about going back with the tools of the
program we're using today to our families, our high schools, or our
dating years. It may please us to think of how "together" we would be
with such tools, knowing what we know now.
But we can't live backwards. Every year we move along in age,
experience, maturity, and wisdom. Sometimes we only see such growth
on birthdays, when we look back to a year ago at who we were then
and who we are now. As our years advance, so do we. Sometimes we
need to take a brief look backward in order to see this.
Tonight I'll remember that to see my growth all I have to do is look at
where I was a year ago. I have advanced in age, but I've also advanced
in wisdom and maturity.
--Night Light