A stranger woke up in my daughter's bed

[LisaR]

Up until a few weeks ago, I was the mom to a very mature, responsible 15 y/o daughter. She stumbled out of her room a week ago and looked the same as she had the day before but, at some point during the night, demons apparently overtook her body.

My little girl has become that kind of teenager. She was grounded due to a previous infraction (nothing major and the grounding was only a one day thing). Apparently she thought about it during the sleeping hours and decided to wake up with a giant chip on her shoulder. She continues to dig in deeper and deeper and just keeps making the situation worse. I don't know what happened to her. No, I do not suspect drugs or anything more than just a snotty attitude and someone that is trying to push the envelope and test the waters. She won't win.

She has a concert on Sunday and I told her last night that she was hanging on by a very thin thread. When she gets home today, she better walk through that door with a complete attitude adjustment or the concert is off.

I really thought I was going to escape the smart mouth, no it all attitude, that some teens go through. She wasn't perfect before but she was truly a well behaved girl who was quick to recognize her mistakes in the past. I wish this stranger would disappear and I could have my mature daughter back.

 

[mamacatnv]

Ahhhh, I'm sorry. Send this posting to her, it says a lot of really great things about her.

 

[PUZZLDY5]

Up until a few weeks ago, I was the mom to a very mature, responsible 15 y/o daughter. She stumbled out of her room a week ago and looked the same as she had the day before but, at some point during the night, demons apparently overtook her body.

My little girl has become that kind of teenager. She was grounded due to a previous infraction (nothing major and the grounding was only a one day thing). Apparently she thought about it during the sleeping hours and decided to wake up with a giant chip on her shoulder. She continues to dig in deeper and deeper and just keeps making the situation worse. I don't know what happened to her. No, I do not suspect drugs or anything more than just a snotty attitude and someone that is trying to push the envelope and test the waters. She won't win.

She has a concert on Sunday and I told her last night that she was hanging on by a very thin thread. When she gets home today, she better walk through that door with a complete attitude adjustment or the concert is off.

I really thought I was going to escape the smart mouth, no it all attitude, that some teens go through. She wasn't perfect before but she was truly a well behaved girl who was quick to recognize her mistakes in the past. I wish this stranger would disappear and I could have my mature daughter back.

From one mother of teens to another. You can't kill them but some days I completely understand why some animals eat their young. Hang in there. Everyone keeps telling me there is a light at the end of this tunnel. It is just a very long tunnel it seems.

 

[endy]

I have a just turned DS 14 exactly the same. Attitude galore, talks backs, calling names, yuck. Another Mom whose kid won't win.

 

[RadioFanatic]

I'm sorry. I was hoping you were going to say Robert Downing Jr. was found there!

 

[LisaR]

I'm sorry. I was hoping you were going to say Robert Downing Jr. was found there!

I love my daughter dearly, but if Robert Downey Jr. was in her bed, I would toss my own flesh and blood out the window and jump in bed with him instead!

 

[Tinkh]

It is sad isn't it Seems to happen overnight. My son went to a party last Oct. 23 at our friend's house. Their daughter and my son are the same age. He was hit with a lightning bolt and met his current girlfriend. Overnight, he went from playing with action figures and his computer to a grown young man it seemed. 10 months later, I miss the young kid he was lol. He is still an awesome son, but boy they push the limits to test us for sure.

I once had a Psych professor say that teens are biologically set up this way so that they will be able to leave the nest and we will be able to let go. I get that, but I sure wish that it were easier

 

[polkadotsuitcase]

I'm sorry. I was hoping you were going to say Robert Downing Jr. was found there!

The first thing I thought when I saw the title was that episode of House where he wakes up on some kid's space sheets.

 

[minniebeth]

I have a 15yo and a 13 yo and I pray every morning that today will not be a stranger-wakes-up-in-their-bed-kinda-day. Have had those days too...

Hugs to all the parents of teenagers!

 

[mickey&minniealways]

My DD is 15 also. I still find her easier then her brothers were at that age. They are 21 and 23 and I am still waiting for them to become human again. When the younger of the two turned 17 they were at their worst. One of them had a delayed puberty. He did have just enough growth hormones in him that the doctor would not prescribe that. So instead they gave him testosterone injections. He got them on a friday so that the schools would not have to deal with him. Instead I got to. A months worth of hormones in one weekend. Think the worst pms your daughter has gone through and turn it up a few notches. At 23 he is still going through some of it. We stopped the injections about 6 months into it. We just couldn't deal with it. He has some dissabilities so we basically have a permanent 16yr old. As far as DD is concerned I usually either tell her to either loose the diva attitude, then she gets all insulted, flips her hair and walks off in a huff. DS 21 commutes to school so he is still living with us to save money. But when she is in one of her snits he has stands behind her and immitates her. This is a guy who could sell ice to and eskimo. So when he starts in it is hard to keep a straight face. DD usually catches on when I start laughing and whirls around of her brother. She never stays mad at him for long. Somedays though I just walk around muttering to myself. I hate teenagers, I hate teenagers, I hate teenagers. I don't really but sometimes its how you get through it. When DD leaves the house in a particularly foul mood I have been known to do stupid things like leaving a giant cut out smiley face lying on her bed for when she gets home. We havefound through trial and error that humor often helps to diffuse a situation. It might just be because DS would do this when he was being yelled at. Anyway just know that you are not alone.

 

[jen0610]

Up until a few weeks ago, I was the mom to a very mature, responsible 15 y/o daughter. She stumbled out of her room a week ago and looked the same as she had the day before but, at some point during the night, demons apparently overtook her body.

My little girl has become that kind of teenager. She was grounded due to a previous infraction (nothing major and the grounding was only a one day thing). Apparently she thought about it during the sleeping hours and decided to wake up with a giant chip on her shoulder. She continues to dig in deeper and deeper and just keeps making the situation worse. I don't know what happened to her. No, I do not suspect drugs or anything more than just a snotty attitude and someone that is trying to push the envelope and test the waters. She won't win.

She has a concert on Sunday and I told her last night that she was hanging on by a very thin thread. When she gets home today, she better walk through that door with a complete attitude adjustment or the concert is off.

I really thought I was going to escape the smart mouth, no it all attitude, that some teens go through. She wasn't perfect before but she was truly a well behaved girl who was quick to recognize her mistakes in the past. I wish this stranger would disappear and I could have my mature daughter back.

My kids do this very well, but they have learned that mom isn't fooling around when I drop any of these on them, as I have reached my limit and it takes a lot to get me there.

You might want to have your mouth stop writing a check your body can't cash.
Your mouth is starting to overload your *** and it's not looking good for you.
Keep digging that hole, you almost have done the last thing on earth your going to complete - having dug your own grave.
You've got your head shoved so far up your rearend, it's sitting on your shoulders again.

The the one that they fear the most - Don't even think about taking one thing out of this house, when GRANDMA comes to get YOU. Go live with her, be her living breathing Ken and Barbie dolls and think about how nice you HAD it here.

They have each had to go over there once. He spent 4 days there and she spent 2 days. She called every day sobbing, saying she was sorry please let her come home. We haven't had a repeat of either issue since.

 

[RadioFanatic]

I love my daughter dearly, but if Robert Downey Jr. was in her bed, I would toss my own flesh and blood out the window and jump in bed with him instead!

ME TOO!

 

[tvguy]

Yup, welcome to being a parent of a teen. About 18 you'll get them back.

 

[PatsMom]

Yup, welcome to being a parent of a teen. About 18 you'll get them back.

Not always. The moody sometimes witch who showed up in my daughters bed around the age of 15 is now at college. She still comes home periodically. And she has still got an attitude on her!

 

[mousebymarriage]

Up until a few weeks ago, I was the mom to a very mature, responsible 15 y/o daughter. She stumbled out of her room a week ago and looked the same as she had the day before but, at some point during the night, demons apparently overtook her body.

My little girl has become that kind of teenager. She was grounded due to a previous infraction (nothing major and the grounding was only a one day thing). Apparently she thought about it during the sleeping hours and decided to wake up with a giant chip on her shoulder. She continues to dig in deeper and deeper and just keeps making the situation worse. I don't know what happened to her. No, I do not suspect drugs or anything more than just a snotty attitude and someone that is trying to push the envelope and test the waters. She won't win.

She has a concert on Sunday and I told her last night that she was hanging on by a very thin thread. When she gets home today, she better walk through that door with a complete attitude adjustment or the concert is off.

I really thought I was going to escape the smart mouth, no it all attitude, that some teens go through. She wasn't perfect before but she was truly a well behaved girl who was quick to recognize her mistakes in the past. I wish this stranger would disappear and I could have my mature daughter back.

I feel your pain! DD13 (she will be 14 on the 25th , if I don't kill her before then) and she went from a polite, sweet kid to a nightmare overnight. My DH and I say that it was like someone flipped the b*tch switch! The funny thing is she is still a wonderfully well behaved, intellegent child for almost everyone else(a few family members have met "the beast" recently). In school her grades are phenomenal and the teachers think she if fabulous but, that is not the child that comes home everyday! i hope she outgrows it soon!

 

[MushyMushy]

Oh yeah, I feel your pain. My DD has been the sweetest, most obedient child I've ever met. She went through a little surliness with puberty, but turned sweet again.... until the end of 8th grade. She had a lot going on as far as being afraid of starting high school, a falling out with some friends, etc, so I tried cutting her some slack. But it's been a miserable summer with her. High school started Monday and it's been good for her so far. I see some of my sweet girl coming back. Keeping my fingers crossed.

I hope your daughter comes to her senses soon!

 

[Poohs Pal]

You will get your revenge on the day you witness the horror on DD's face when she realize's that she has turned into her mom
That will probably be about age 30 so you will have to wait awhile before you can enjoy that revenge......................

 

[starrzone]

You will get your revenge on the day you witness the horror on DD's face when she realize's that she has turned into her mom
That will probably be about age 30 so you will have to wait awhile before you can enjoy that revenge......................

Oh, h*** no! If this is true (I'm 28 with no kids yet), I'm giving away any female children I have to a convent...

 

[heatherwillmom]

I'm right there with you. I have a DD 16 & a DS 14. Some days, they are sweet, loving & helpful kids. Other days, I feel like we have Freddy Kruger in our house they can be so mean. I actually got yelled at tonight for cleaning her bathroom. I guess it's true, raising teenagers is like nailing jello to a tree.

 

[mickey&minniealways]

It's not just the girls. I found my sons to be much more difficult even on their best days then my daughter is. She is easy compared to them.