7/23/06 - Happy Birthday Magellan & Diana!!!
10:30pm
--2 lc tortillas
--1/4 cup shredded cojack
--5 oz cooked chicken
--1 T each salsa and rf ranch
--20 cherries
Yummy! I made chicken roll ups and they were so tasty! Plus, I even got DH to eat a few cherries, which is quite the victory.
I've got just the slightest twinge in the back throat, and I'm praying and hoping it's nothing and we're going to be healthy for our trip this week! DH is also feeling a little rough. We can't get sick. We just can't!!! (Insert petulent child food stomp here)
I'm spending most of the day with my friend today (the same one who is getting married). We're going to see Wordplay, which is a documentary about the editor of the NY Times crossword puzzle, then we're going to stop by our county fair. I can see roasted corn and a spin on the Tilt-a-Whirl in my future!!!
3:00pm
--1 sm Indonesian peanut saute w/whole wheat noodles
--1 chicken breast
--1 side salad w/sesame dressing
This was so tasty! I love the new "trio" that Noodles & Company has--it's just the right size has it very nutritious.
My friend and I had fun at the movie. The filming was a little primitive, but I really enjoyed the interviews and there were a lot of laugh out loud moments. It really made me want to go out and grab a crossword puzzle!
My friend had forgotten her wallet, so after the movie I ran her back home to pick it up. I paid for her movie--naturally there was no mention of paying me back all day. I was proud of myself, though, and politely brought it up at the end of the day. Of course, she had no cash and promised "next time", but at least I stood up for myself.
But I digress. We then went to Michael's so she could get supplies for the camp she's running this week. After that it was off to lunch. I really enjoyed my meal and we got to have a nice chat.
4:30pm
--1 sm "enlightened" smoothie
I do love these smoothies! We took them to go and walked around the shopping center. It was such a nice day--sunny and just the right temperature.
While we were shopping I tried to bring up the idea of her shower. I wanted to know if she had any ideas/themes in mind or any special family traditions to incorportate. Unfortunately, what I got instead was some sucky news.
I guess my friend had mentioned to her mother that I was asking about a shower and that we had been planning to have it at a local hotel. Apparently her mom got sulky at the news and stated that she had wanted to have it at her house (something my friend had told me very firmly she did NOT want as her mom's house is small and she has several unruly pets). She also insisted that my friend should have separate showers for different groups. Basically, her mom wants to host the shower.
I should add in here that my friend's mother is simply a horrible person. I've always hated her, the groom hates her, etc. I know it's sounds harsh, but she's been abusive to my friend for years, which has messed her up a bit, frankly. My friend still feels some kind of misguided loyalty to her mother and often tries to placate her.
I asked my friend how she felt about this, and she started getting all wishy-washy and hemming and hawing about how she just didn't want anyone to be mad. She said she didn't know what to do. I asked her if I should hold off reserving the room at the hotel, and her answer was "Let me talk to my mother some more and feel her out..."
ARGH!!! When I approached my friend about throwing the shower she was grateful and happy and agreed right away. When I asked how she felt about the hotel, she said it was a great idea and that she liked it. Now she's getting pressured from her mother to go another way and I know her well enough to know that she's going to put off making a decision for as long as humanly possible and then eventually appease her mother. Ugh.
[By the way, I hope everyone understands that I'm venting here precisely because I'd NEVER say any of this to my friend. I know she's stressed and in a bad situation now and the last thing she needs is someone else making demands of her.]
With all this happening, I've decided that the best thing for me to do is just to let go of the shower. I feel kind of dumb buying supplies yesterday, but I can still take them back. I'm going to sleep on it tonight before I take them back, just to make sure I'm not hurt and in a snit, but I really think it's better to get my money back and let the things go. If it turns out we need them later, I'll just go buy new ones.
I'm very sad about this, because it would have been a great shower. I had all sorts of wonderful plans. Since I don't think I'm actually going to get to throw it, do you mind if I at least tell you how it was going to be?
I was going to throw it on Sunday, April 29th from 1pm - 4pm. It was going to be in one of the meeting rooms a local hotel, and she was planning to invite everyone--about 40 or so guests.
The guests were going to be seated at 5 or 6 tables, depening on how many we had. I was going to decorate each table with a balloon bouquet in pink and white, and I was going to decorate my friend and her fiance's chairs specially for them. The rest of the room would also have balloon bouquets and a "Congratulations!" banner.
It was going to be a luncheon shower. I was going to serve chicken salad in mini croissants, club sandwich rings (from Sam's), a mixed green salad with raspberry vinaigrette, Sun Chips, and other side salads (hopefully donated by family and the other bridesmaids). For beverages I was going to serve soda, punch, and coffee. Dessert was going to be cake--I was trying to decide between two options. The first would have been a 3 tiered white cake with pink polka dots and a pink bow made out of fondant--that would have come from a local bakery (here's a picture of a similar cake
http://www.monalidas.com/images/bday0075.jpg . If money was tight, I was going to get a Costco cake (very yummy!) with strawberry mousse. Along with the cake I was going to make up a sweet table with little bite size brownies, cookies, and maybe even a chocolate fountain or chocolate dipped strawberries.
I was going to use the cute bridal plates for lunch, along with the napkins/utensils tied up with the pink crepe paper. I was going to buy coordinating pink plates for the cake & sweets, and the invitations would have matched the bridal plates.
When the guests arrived I bought a blank photo mat that they all could sign instead of a guest book. I was then going to get a picture of the entire shower group and have it all framed for the bride. At each place setting there was going to be a blank "bridal shower bingo" card for the guests to fill out. Also, I was going to pass around a keepsake book for guests to offer marriage advice and blessings. After everyone trickled in I was going to offer a toast to the bride and then get us started on lunch.
Once folks were done eating, I was going to start the games. The first game I was going to do was a "wedding cake challenge" were each table gets a set of supplies (marshmallows, toothpicks, glitter, etc) to make a mock wedding cake for the bride. After that I was going to do a "How Well Do You Know the Bride?" quiz, and then I was going to follow it up with a purse scavenger hunt.
Once games were done, I would have moved us on to dessert, then started with the presents. The guests could have played along with their "bridal shower bingo" cards and there would have been prizes for all of the bingos. I would have made the "bow bouquet" for the bride to use at her rehersal. Finally the bride would have said a few words to the group, and the party could break up. For favors I was going to fill little boxes with pink & white M&Ms (specially ordered) and tie it up with an organza ribbon and note thanking them for coming.
I'm pretty sad at this turn of events. I'm really mourning this beautiful shower I had planned, because even if it turns out that it's back to me throwing the shower, it won't be the same. It won't be a lovingly planned event--it will be something thrown together at the last minute with more than a modicum of bad feelings from several people.
I'm bummed, but I've got to let it go.
8:00pm
--1 light hot dog in a regular bun
--1 chicken roll up (ala breakfast)
--3 melon slices
--1 nsa pudding cup
I can tell I'm feeling sorry for myself and want to binge, but I know that's not going to solve any of my problems or make me feel better. It's actually going to make me feel way worse. So I finished my dinner, treated myself to a pudding cup, and now I'm going to head upstairs. DH is away (anyone surprised?) at a poker tournament and probably won't be back anytime soon. It sounds like he's doing well, though, so that's nice for him.