A religion question...

[Aidensmom]

The parents issues should not filter down to the children. I know plenty of people where one person is Catholic and one is not and their children are baptised in the Catholic church, a few of them are divorced and no annulments, too. I can see why the xmil wants the 9 year old to go to Faith Formation (the new PC term for catechism) as she should have been in the preparation for her First Communion. I would find another church, personally. Your priest doesn't sound very welcoming. Not all Catholic churches are like this and it isn't the church that is the issue, it is the priest.

I completely agree with this. Call some other parishes in your area.

 

[pw2pp]

I don't know if I am understanding your post completely (it is very confusing, or maybe it's just me ) .......... But ........
There is absolutely NO way in heck I would belong to a church that refused to baptize my child. It's simple as that.
If I read your post wrong and am way off, just ignore me

 

[wdw4us2]

Talk to your friends/relatives that are Catholic and ask about another Parish.

As a Catholic, I have seen Priests who do nothing but strictly enforce the Church's teachings with no compassion. On the other hand, I have seen Priests who are happy about anyone who wants to participate in the Church and go out of their way to accommodate them. We are fortunate that our Parish has the latter.

You might want to have DH explain the trouble you are having to his ex MIL and see if she knows of another Parish that could help out in this matter. As with everything else in life, their are good Parishes as well as not so good ones.

Best wishes to you and your family no matter what you decide.

 

[mudnuri]

There is no other parish in our area. They have closed numerous churches near here.

My feeling is- if DD7 isnt good enough for the church, then I'll be damned if DD9 is....

We've got a few months to hash this out...we'll see where we end up

Brandy

 

[disykat]

I would not have the older child go through catechism if your younger daughter won't be able to. It is not her fault that the priest apparently changed his mind after baptising your older daughter who had the exact same circumstances. I would consider pursuing both their religious educations at another church. I doubt God cares whether they are Catholic or Protestant.

I see it as being more about your younger daughter than your older. It would be very hard for me to explain to one of my children why they weren't allowed to be confirmed yet their older sibling was.

Do your ex and you agree - or does he agree with him mother?

 

[mudnuri]

Do your ex and you agree - or does he agree with him mother?

He's Italian- you guess who he agree's with

Brandy

 

[totalia]

I firmly believe that a child shouldn't be raised within a religion but should grow up knowing about them. Then they can make their choice when they grow old enough to make it.

 

[WDWMom]

Please check out other churches that are near by. I know you said they have closed some, but there has to be one somewhere. I know our Priest will baptise any baby whose parents go to mass and belong to the church. Our Priest also has no say on who can take faith formation classes. We sign up and drop them off. Maybe you have a very small church, but there is hope out there. Don't blame the whole Church, it is the Priest that is causing the problems.

 

[Disney Doll]

OK...heard from my priest friend. He says that your priest is interpreting things incorrectly.

There is no reason why both of your DDs cannot receive their sacraments. He also said that an annullment does not illegitimize the children. The best explanation of annullment vs. divorce that I have ever heard was an annullment speaks to what wasn't there at the beginning (ie-the person lied to you about something, or they had a "secret life"...in other words, the marriage didn't start on an honest basis) and a divorce speaks to what wasn't there at the end.

Sounds as if you have a priest who is interpreting things his own way, which is wrong.

Perhaps call the bishop in your diocese, if there is not another RC Church close by.

But do think long and hard about whether a Catholic upbringing is really what you want for your children. As I said before, the sacraments should be based on more than "it's what Grandma wants" or "all their friends are making 1st Communion".