A personal question - dreaming about loved ones who have passed

[florida-again]

I hope no one minds me asking this but I was wondering if this was something that only I experienced....

In 2000, we suffered the terrible and sudden loss of our little 3 year old neighbour, who was more of a family member than just a neighbour.
It has come to my attention recently that when I dream about him, I am always aware, in my dreams, that he has passed.
So if he is there in my dreams, I dream that he visiting us from heaven, and I always know that he can't stay long because he has to go back.
I never dream that he is 'alive'.
I wondered if this was the case in all dreams about people who have passed?

I am not trying to pry into anyone's personal dreams, I'm really wondering if the brain and conscienceness are always still aware of the 'facts' even when we're dreaming.....

 

[s&k'smom]

Oh yeah happens all the time. Especially to DH who dreams of his mom who passed and my SIL has very strong dreams about people.

 

[Marseeya]

Not for me. I usually dream they are alive.

I have one recurring dream, though, about a loved one who died young. I dream that he is very much alive and I'm so happy to be with him, but I know he is going to die. I try to prolong the time we have and even try to warn him that he'll die, but he never listens. It's a very bittersweet dream.

 

[Nite0wl71]

I always dream that they are alive. I never really see them in my dream but I sense thay are there.

 

[froglady]

I sometimes dream about people who have died. Sometimes they're "alive" sometimes I know (in the dream) that they're dead.

In the last dream I had about my father, I dreamt he was still old (and still dead), but was able to walk easily and painlessly unassisted. He said good-bye and walked away from me down a long, golden hall. I would like to think it was true.

 

[Iott Family]

I have dreamed of both my grandfathers who have passed. The one I dreamed of at the time of his death so I think maybe it was just my mind coming to terms. But my maternal grandfather comes to me in my dreams a few times now. I always dream of him in a setting familiar to his habits but he is always in a bubble, if you will, and im looking in on him. He is always happy and laughing. I would like to think its more than just my mind handlng the loss, and I wouldnt dare tell anyone that their experiences arent real because when I wake from my dream it feels very real and a bit of the grief comes right back to me. We all still really miss him, my mother and I talk of him often and when we are all together for family gatherings he is often brought up and we share and have a few good laughs.

I guess what im really saying is life is energy and energy never ceases it just changes form so it is not so far out to think of our loved ones who have touched us deeply come back to us in their own way to reassure and soothe us.

Oh...and I dont dream of all loved ones who passed over. Just my grandfather. He passed when my daughter was 5 weeks old and he never got to see her in the physical sense but........

Anyways, to each of you.

 

[Shugardrawers]

In my dreams I know they are dead but they still talk and do everyday kinds of things like driving. I often dream of my bio father who's been gone since 1983 and my close friend who passed 10 years ago.

 

[kaylajr]

My FIL passed 2 years ago yesterday
While he was alive we had an intersting relationship
we were pretty much always fighting but would defend each other to the death if someone else started with either one of us
Since his death i have dreams with him in them alot sometimes he is alive sometimes I know he is dead
it is really weird I would have thought i would have dreams with my grandmother as she was my best friend but not a one
My FIL won't leave me alone though

 

[disneyfanatic60]

I dream often of loved ones who have passed away. They almost always are alive in my dreams. My most vivid dream was of my Mom. She had passed away about six month's prior. We were at WDW of all places. I had always dreamed of staying at the GF and being at WDW during the holidays. In December, I finally lived out my dream. I knew my Mom would have loved to be at WDW during the holidays as well. I had not really had any dreams of her before this point. She passed of Alzheimer's and I felt like I never said goodbye where she would remember it. In my dream, someone was stranding in front of me. Once they moved, there was Mom. She looked beautiful and healthy. She was smiling. She hugged me tightly. I could actually feel her arms around me squeezing me tightly. It brought such a sense of peace to me. I will never forget it. It was truly amazing!

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Yes, I dream of my family members a lot. especially my mom. and in every single dream, I am aware that they are dead. Sometimes, mom isn't aware she is, and I have to tell her. She argues and says she was just on vacation, but she is back now.

My SIL is upset that she has not dreamt about my brother in the year that he has been gone. I told her it was because she had closure at his death. He died of a brain tumor, and the end was just excrusiating. We were praying for him to go, and when he did, we were so relieved his pain was over.

At least for me, it makes sense. Because I have not dreamt of him or my dad. My dad died 7 months before him, had just lost a son 8 months prior. He was 70 years old. He was not going to bury his children one right after the other. Dad was spared having to watching Paul suffer and die. So, with those two, I have accepted their deaths, and I don't dream of them. Mom and my other brother, were unexpected, and I dream of them often.

 

[nativetxn]

I often dream of my mother who died June, 2004. Usually I dream that she is alive and I don't think of her as not being alive. I had one dream, though, where I never saw her, she called me on the phone. In this dream, I kept speaking with her on the phone but kept thinking "How am I going to tell her she's dead?"

I like to think that she is visiting me when I have these dreams. It's a comfort to me.

Katholyn

 

[Pea-n-Me]

There are some who believe that our departed loved ones are able to communicate with us in our dreams. Here is a link which gives an example of this. http://www.near-death.com/experiences/visions01.html

disneyfanatic60, your dream seems like a beautiful reassurance from your mother that she is ok and perhaps in a place that is as nice as being "on vacation". That's the way I'd think of it anyway.

I enjoy studying things like this. One of the ways you can tell the difference between a dream and a visitation is that the visitation is incredibly detailed (and sometimes very colorful and tactual like feeling a hug) and you are likely to rememeber every detail about it for years to come.

Happy Dreaming everyone!

 

[florida-again]

There are some who believe that our departed loved ones are able to communicate with us in our dreams. Here is a link which gives an example of this. http://www.near-death.com/experiences/visions01.html

disneyfanatic60, your dream seems like a beautiful reassurance from your mother that she is ok and perhaps in a place that is as nice as being "on vacation". That's the way I'd think of it anyway.

I enjoy studying things like this. One of the ways you can tell the difference between a dream and a visitation is that the visitation is incredibly detailed (and sometimes very colorful and tactual like feeling a hug) and you are likely to rememeber every detail about it for years to come.

Happy Dreaming everyone!

I certainly believe in visitations. I was once worrying about something that had already happened and not focusing on the future.
One night I dreamt that my neighbour was in a push-chair and so was his sister (born after he died, now aged 4). I had to take them to the zoo, but could only push one push-chair. I knew that he was only visiting from heaven and may even have to go back to heaven before we even reached the zoo.
I couldn't decide whether to take him to the zoo, or his sister.

In the end I chose his sister, because I know that she was 'real' and we would have a great time at the zoo and she would love it there, while he may have gone back to heaven before we arrived at the zoo. I woke up knowing I had made the right decision.

I will never forget this dream, I believe so strongly that it was his way of telling me concentrate on 'now' and the future, and not on something I could no longer control because it was in the past.

What do you guys think?

 

[DebbieB]

My Mom died on 9/30. For the first month, I did not have any dreams about her, even though I thought about her almost constantly when awake. Then in the past week, I have dreamed about her 2 or 3 times. In one dream, I was in her bedroom and she was sitting next to me saying she would visit me every so often. Then I suddenly woke up, I was actually 2,000 miles from home on a business trip in CA. It really shook me up.

 

[MNSusan]

My mom occasionally *visits* me in my dreams. Those are the dreams I remember most vividly, and she's been gone for 15 years. She's almost always dead in the dreams. I think a "visit from heaven" is a nice way to look at it.

 

[Steffi]

My sister died 6 years ago and I still dream of her often. In my dreams, she is always alive. I will dream that she & I are talking like normal, catching up on recent events. Then at some point in the conversation, I will remember that she's been away and ask her where she's been for the past however many years. At that point she seems to get very sad and the dream fades away.

 

[Lachesis00]

Same here... a friend who was like a brother to me... he comes to me a lot... just to check in on me. We never talk about his death... just normal stuff. A lot of times I am very stressed out... like at the end of my rope. And yet we never mention it except he always tells me it will all be OK.

Oh yeah happens all the time. Especially to DH who dreams of his mom who passed

 

[agotta]

I hope no one minds me asking this but I was wondering if this was something that only I experienced....

In 2000, we suffered the terrible and sudden loss of our little 3 year old neighbour, who was more of a family member than just a neighbour.
It has come to my attention recently that when I dream about him, I am always aware, in my dreams, that he has passed.
So if he is there in my dreams, I dream that he visiting us from heaven, and I always know that he can't stay long because he has to go back.
I never dream that he is 'alive'.
I wondered if this was the case in all dreams about people who have passed?

I am not trying to pry into anyone's personal dreams, I'm really wondering if the brain and conscienceness are always still aware of the 'facts' even when we're dreaming.....

It's so funny you posted this. I had a dream the other night about my ex. He has been gone 5 years this December. It was a nice dream where we just caught up. He asked about my life now and my husband. It was so real.

 

[Dare2Wish]

I have dreams about relatives that have passed. They are "alive " in the dream, yet I am still aware that they have passed. It's strange. I usually end up talking to them and hoping they will stay longer. They always leave me with a comforting feeling, like they are still with me.

 

[Disney Ella]

They're always alive in my dreams. I had one where my deceased grandfather appeared at my door, which was quite a shock, since he'd been dead for 15 years. He finally convinced me he was a spy and needed to fake his own death. I told him I couldn't believe he would do that to my grandmother!