A newly divorced shower

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

I have been invited to a "shower" for a friends sister who is newly divorced. I have never heard of such a thing. I was taken aback I must say. The reasoning is she is she is starting fresh and has nothing to call her own.
Part of me understands, but the other part is thinking WTH? I'm not sure if I am going, but wanted to know if this is a new trend?

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

I never heard of it. I wonder if I could throw myself one of those now...5 years later.

 

[lindalinda]

Never been to one, but I think its great! It might help her in a difficult time to have friends around her and have fun!

 

[poohandwendy]

I think that is strange. I would definitely support a friend in need (whether that be a shoulder or things she needed), but I think a shower is for celebration. I don't think a divorce is something to celebrate. JMHO

 

[Serena]

I think it's a wonderful idea. I'm a little to practical to have needed anything, but the friends getting together would have been so nice.

 

[mking624]

I think that is strange. I would definitely support a friend in need (whether that be a shoulder or things she needed), but I think a shower is for celebration. I don't think a divorce is something to celebrate. JMHO

I agree. I find the idea rather tacky and somewhat of a mockery of something I believe is serious.

 

[caitycaity]

i think it depends on he situation. i can definitely see throwing a "shower" for some divorce situations. a lot of people in bad situations won't leave even for their own safety because of financial reasons.

i can understand the gut tackiness reaction, but i guess i would reserve judgment on it depending on the situation and the spirit in which it was given.

 

[DisneyBeagle]

I have been invited to a "shower" for a friends sister who is newly divorced. I have never heard of such a thing. I was taken aback I must say. The reasoning is she is she is starting fresh and has nothing to call her own.
Part of me understands, but the other part is thinking WTH? I'm not sure if I am going, but wanted to know if this is a new trend?

Ok, it seems kind of tacky, but I kind of like the idea. Since I didn't have a wedding shower or a wedding reception, you had better bet that if I get divorced I'm having some sort of a shower. I've given gifts to all my friends for showers, weddings, baby showers, kids birthdays, etc......it's payback time!!! (fyi--I gave those gifts out of love....I didn't do it to get anything in return)

 

[dixipixi]

I think getting together with friends for support or a "night out" would be fun, but the shower (gift getting) part would bother me some. It would be ok for close friends to get together and buy a few things if they knew she really needed them, but sending out invitations to ask for gifts is a little much.

On the same note, I know someone currently going through her 3rd divorce and planning the 4th wedding. A friend of mine got an invitation to her "bridal shower" yesterday. On top of that, it's for lingerie. My friend called the bride's mom and she said to bring something "nice and tasteful in white" since it will be for her "first night".

 

[Becky2005]

That's interesting ...never heard of such a thing. It's not a trend I've heard of but fortunately we haven't had too many divorces to deal with.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

. I don't think a divorce is something to celebrate.

I don't know all the specifics, but I'm thinking that this divorce may be cause for celebration.

 

[aes74]

I have never heard of a shower where gifts were given. I have heard women having parties, to celebrate, or to just buoy up their spirits with good friends as they start anew. I personally would not go to a shower where I had to bring someone a gift for being divorced. I have enough bridal showers, wedding showers, and kids' birthday parties to buy for that just about break the bank as it is.

 

[Serena]

I think it's more on the lines of getting together to keep the newly divorced from feeling alone. Maybe this woman really needed this divorce, we don't know. But it sounds like she has friends that really care and are trying to cheer her up.

 

[goofygirl]

I think its cool! It's celebrating her new singlehood! Maybe her marriage was so bad that getting out of it is cause for a celebration.

I know someone who never wanted children and then threw a shower when she got her tubes tied. A "sterilization shower". It was the opposite of a baby shower! I thought it was very funny.

 

[poohandwendy]

I don't know all the specifics, but I'm thinking that this divorce may be cause for celebration.

I cannot think of any situation where a divorce is a cause for celebration. I think there are many divorces that are really the best option for all involved. And I can understand someone saying "thank God that is over". But, it's still the ending of promises made, the break up of a family. Even if it is for the better, it's not something that I think should be celebrated with a shower.

JMO, obviously people have the right to do whatever they want and feel however they feel about it. Just adding my opinion.

 

[caitycaity]

I don't know all the specifics, but I'm thinking that this divorce may be cause for celebration.

in that case, i would definitely go. i bet she would really appreciate the support.

 

[mking624]

I cannot think of any situation where a divorce is a cause for celebration. I think there are many divorces that are really the best option for all involved. And I can understand someone saying "thank God that is over". But, it's still the ending of promises made, the break up of a family. Even if it is for the better, it's not something that I think should be celebrated with a shower.

JMO, obviously people have the right to do whatever they want and feel however they feel about it. Just adding my opinion.

 

[stinkerbelle's mom]

I've never heard of such a thing, but I think its kind of cool. Maybe the friend really needs the support!

 

[julie_yet]

When my aunt got divorced she rented a limo and took all her friends for a girl's night out.

 

[goofy's friends]

Ive been invited to a "Newly Bachelorette Party" before. Everyone brought gag gifts and just cheered her up after a very long and drawn out divorce.