A little sad, new phase in life?

JUJU814

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I'm a Disney lover. I LOVE Disney. I could go twice a year easily. I love the planning, I love it down there..everything.

Problem? I'm the only one in my family that feels this way.

I am married with three kids. Dh goes when we go out of obligation, and tries to make the most of it, but does not get excited about it. The oldest, now 17 1/2 really isn't crazy about it anymore. The little ones will take a park for about 2 hours MAX and then all they want is to go back to the hotel. (ages 5 and 7..7yo has adhd and sensory issues)

Dd, 17, is looking at colleges and is about to put in her early acceptance applications. We just took our last "family" trip to Disney in August, and quite frankly, it was a disaster..partly because my little ones were miserable, and mostly because our dog got sick and died within hours of us getting home. Anyway....

I'm sitting here tonight, wishing I were planning another trip to Disney. But I'm not. I'm planning a trip to Greece....just me and dd when she graduates. I know, not too shabby, but I'm reminiscing and missing her getting excited to go see the Mouse and sort of sad that we won't be going to Disney at all next year, with college expenses and the trip to Europe should that come to pass. We won't be going to Disney because I think the kids have had enough of Disney for a while..they really weren't crazy about it. We'll likely do a beach vacation with them at Cape Cod or something.

What if my little ones aren't Disney lovers??? What if they don't come around??

Do any of you have that "two families" thing going on? Much older kids and then very young ones? I've been full of emotions the last few days watching my dd prepare college aps, and getting ready to visit her college of choice this weekend. She's so grown up. I literally sat on her bed last night watching her pack for this weekend and as she's packing, I'm seeing her at 5 years old. I'm so excited for her..but so can't believe I really do have to start letting go.

That makes it harder looking at the little ones..because I know first hand how fast it truly does fly by.

So, I know, I probably shouldn't even be thinking of Disney World right now, but well, it's my "happy place"...and I feel like the only one that really liked it was dd, and she's more interested in world travel now and her future..and the little ones, well, I think I've spoiled them with too much Disney or something..or, ugh, they take after their dad and would rather go to a historical museum or something.

I was watching a show on the travel channel a few weeks ago on Yellowstone and commenting to my brother how much I think the kids would love that. He looked at me like I had three heads...he said "wouldn't they rather go to Disney World at that age??" I had to honestly reply "no, I think they'd rather be out in nature looking at the animals" Not that that isn't fantastic,

but gosh darnit, why can't I have another Disney fanatic in my family ?????? LOL
 
((hugs)) this must be really tough for you! My oldest is 21 and youngest are 12 & 8 and luckily we all like Disney so I feel for you as I would be so sad.
Maybe after your Greece trip you can manage another Disney trip when the little ones are a little older and maybe a little easier to go on vacation.
I would hold out hope :grouphug:
 
Well maybe my story will make you feel better: I last went 12 years ago when my oldest was 3 yrs old. I have two younger children who have never been. I would love to take them all on one trip. They would rather go camping and to the National Parks we have gone to for vacation. Not even hubby wants to go again. It isn't that he didn't like it, we had a great trip and it was our second one in three years. He just thinks the world is a big place and there is a lot to see. I have loved our vacations and wouldn't trade them for the world, I would however like to take the family on one trip to WDW before the oldest goes to college. (Let me add we have also not had the funds to take a trip, however we do now and none of them want to go.) I won't consider taking that type of vacation without my husband so that is not possible. (three day girls getaway is one thing, not a Florida trip) Thanks for listening, hope it helps! Oh, and I am OK with all this but I still hang out on the boards just in case, so I can be prepared to plan! Crazy!
 
My DH and DDs 15 and 16 don't find WDW repeat trips much fun. They have a been there done that attitude. They'd rather try something new. My DS5 loves it still so I have taken him on short trips of 3 nights by myself before. It's great bonding time and we have a very stressful situation at home that lets us both relax and have fun with no worries. This year we are going for 7 nights! I have also gone solo and highly recommend it. A happy, relaxed mom=a happier family. If you feel like you can't enjoy WDW with your family maybe you could take a different vacation with them and sneak in a little mom time by yourself. Solo trips are less expensive for me because I stay at a value and can be more flexible about flights with stops since it's just me. Try it!
 

Maybe find friends who would like to go? Or see if there is a Disney fans group in your area that plans annual or semi annual trips to WDW? My DS is 5 and does well at WDW, considering he is probably ADHD also. My boyfriend has been converted, although he isn't as crazy about it as me. He wanted to go somewhere else next year, but i insisted we go to WDW. I love it there!!! Don't worry! You will find someone to enjoy WDW with. There is also the chance that your younger 2 will grow into the Disney lover that you are. :wizard:
 
I would just take a disney break for a while...then plan a trip after you guys haven't gone for a while..then maybe they can get exctied..I know this sounds hard..I haven't been since January and I am already going crazy..we go again this January.

I know there may come a time when my kids don't feel the magic..I dread the day:sad2:
 
Believe me you are not alone!! We have gone to WDW several times a year for the past 10 or so years....noW DDs are 30 and 24..youngest just got married this month. We have gone to WDW for Thanksgiving for years - but this year both DDs say that they can't afford it and youngest DDs DH has only 2 days off. I SO MISS ALL THE WDW FUN!!! My granddaughter is 8 and loves WDW like I do. She is hoping that she and I can go for spring break and "helps" me put money in my WDW fund bank. I sure do miss my "old" life!!
 
Juju814, it sound like you just have a lot of things to deal with at this stage. Things re-align themselves and fall into place after a while. I have to agree with Peanut1 - perhaps a break for a while. Don't see it as a break from Disney - think of it as time you and your family deserve to adjust to changes. :hug:
 
Disney is not for everyone, but when you love it it is hard to imagine your kids not loving Disney as well...who wouldnt love going to parks and having that much fun right?

I would just wait and see what your younger ones want to do in the next year or two for vacation. Most kids love Disney to a point, but need a break when they are there! My two kids love the play and water areas and pool as much as the parks...it's just their idea of relaxing I guess!

If you do plan a Disney trip in the near future just plan those "relaxing" times into the trip. Maybe a day at the parks one day and the next a more laid back day of pool and resort hopping? Family trips are more about compromising to keep everyone happy sometimesf.

If you choose to wait how about a nice graduation present for your oldest Daughter...a family trip to the World? By then she might miss her siblings and savor the time with the whole family. Or even just a nice Mom and daughter trip would be great as well.

Dont fret too much if the kids never "get" the whole Disney thing...there is always the grandkids :)
 
Disney is not for everyone, but when you love it it is hard to imagine your kids not loving Disney as well...who wouldnt love going to parks and having that much fun right?

I would just wait and see what your younger ones want to do in the next year or two for vacation. Most kids love Disney to a point, but need a break when they are there! My two kids love the play and water areas and pool as much as the parks...it's just their idea of relaxing I guess!

If you do plan a Disney trip in the near future just plan those "relaxing" times into the trip. Maybe a day at the parks one day and the next a more laid back day of pool and resort hopping? Family trips are more about compromising to keep everyone happy sometimesf.

If you choose to wait how about a nice graduation present for your oldest Daughter...a family trip to the World? By then she might miss her siblings and savor the time with the whole family. Or even just a nice Mom and daughter trip would be great as well.

Dont fret too much if the kids never "get" the whole Disney thing...there is always the grandkids :)

Well, after the way my little ones behaved on our family trip in August, my oldest has told me not to expect any grandchildren from her. :rotfl::sad1: Surely she's kidding. Right? LOL

For her high school graduation, we are planning a "Mamma Mia, Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants" sort of Greece vacation..either just me and her, or me, her and my mom. Not sure yet. Maybe by the end of college she'll have forgotten about August of 2009 and wish to go to Disney with her siblings again.
 
:sad2:without me going into pointless details, I'll just say that I need an escape from my daily life and daydreaming of going back to WDW is on the mind ALWAYS!!! I feel your pain and hopefuully you WILL get back there and with those who can enjoy it as much as you. Don't lose hope;)
 


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