a little confused

[blahx3]

I did not have the time this weekend to talk to him. Last minute shopping, celebrating Christmas with folks that will be out of town this week, etc. So no, I am not being rude to him by not telling him to go away sooner. I just want to make sure he knows I am serious and can't come back AGAIN and try to say that I was tired and didn't mean it. So that conversation will take place this evening.

I have been around the block too many times to just want to be in a relationship just to say so. That is a pretty idiotic and immature notion IMHO.

 

[krcit]

Amen. Unless, of course, the OP is using him herself just so she can tell other people she's in a "relationship". In which case they're both getting something they want out of the relationship so it's even steven and neither one has a right to complain.

Personally, I'd rather not be in a relationship at all than be in a bad one just so I could tell people that I'm in a relationship.

Where on earth did you get that from? Nothing I have read from OP suggests that to me. In fact, I think OP seems like a confident, secure woman who has had enough life experience to know what she wants or doesn't want in a realtionship and isn't willing to settle. Good for her!

 

[arminnie]

To me, jewelry when given as a gift, is a very personal thing. I can't imagine anyone knowing someone well enough to give them jewlery after 3 months... of any kind.

When I was a freshman in college (a billion years ago) my boyfriend gave me a beautiful slip. It was silk with lace. That tells you how long ago it was - do they even make such things now?

Two things I remember - my grandmother being horrified that I'd accepted such a personal gift. And my boyfriend not understanding sizes. I probably needed a size 32 in a slip (which for you younger people the sizing had nothing to do with bust size - more like being a size 8). I think he bought the slip in a size 42. We returned it obviously, but I'll never forget taking that enormous thing out of the package.

If you ever do stay with him again, I'd layer yourself in flannel. Lots and lots of flannel.

This is one of the funniest things I've read on the DIS. Made me laugh out loud.

 

[Disney Doll]

My weekend was filled with voicemails, texts and emails. They ranged from, a voicemail on Saturday morning "Where would you like to go to dinner tonight?" to " You really aren't talking to me?" to "I promise I will do what I say I am going to do from now on just TALK to me."

Flowers just arrived at my work (Amazing! Now he knows how to order something off the internet!!) with a note of how sorry he is and that he will try to improve. I texted him thanking him for the flowers and that they will make a lovely centerpiece for our holiday luncheon this afternoon

Be done with this OP.
Tell him that after thinking about it that you have decided that you two aren't right for each other and that while you have certainly enjoyed time spent together in the past, you aren't interested in seeing him anymore.

At the end of the conversation, make sure to add "So please do not contact me again".

And if he contacts you again, ignore him. And continue to ignore him if he continues to contact you until he gets the message that you are not interested in being a botty call for a guy who "just says things".