A little bit of wedding trip info

[PrincessMo]

Hi everyone!

I joined in on this thread complaining about trips with other family members and I wrote just a little bit about my troubles during our wedding trip with some of the people there. Here is the page where it is...just thought I'd share since it has to do with my wedding trip.

http://disboards.com/showthread.php?p=13499359#post13499359

Have A Magical Day!

 

[minnieandmickey]

Great story Mo. Any advice for all of us BTB's? I was thinking just letting everyone do there own thing just keep the wedding day open (obviously). More than likely we will stick together but at least they have the option to go somewhere else.

 

[ItGirl753]

Hee, hee, hee. Although we haven't booked our date yet, I have so many ideas. I was hoping that our guests would have enough room nights taken care of and we could stay at Shades of Green by ourselves so we wouldn't be "stuck" with everyone.

Is that BAD of me? Is that impractical, to stay at a different resort? EEEK! I have traveled with my parents, and also with my sisters (on separate trips -- no family vacas here)....I don't want too much together time!

Thanks for all your kind words, as so many others have said. I've been visiting other disboards too, and people are always arguing and flaming each other! This is a much happier board and people are always willing to help.

 

[PrincessMo]

Hee, hee, hee. Although we haven't booked our date yet, I have so many ideas. I was hoping that our guests would have enough room nights taken care of and we could stay at Shades of Green by ourselves so we wouldn't be "stuck" with everyone.

Is that BAD of me? Is that impractical, to stay at a different resort? EEEK! I have traveled with my parents, and also with my sisters (on separate trips -- no family vacas here)....I don't want too much together time!

Thanks for all your kind words, as so many others have said. I've been visiting other disboards too, and people are always arguing and flaming each other! This is a much happier board and people are always willing to help.

Hi there!

it is not bad of you at all. We stayed at a different resort and still had problems. Shame because my husbands neice well my neice too now I guess was asked to come down for 1 reason only...to keep my MIL company and she didn't do that...all she wanted to is flirt with my brother who I guess is technically her uncle now right? I was so furious at her too because that was the one thing I asked of her. One day my MIL was again complaining about how fast we were going and seemed to maybe want to go off on her own but not along so I asked my neice to go with her and she told me no......I wanted to strangle her How can you tell me no when I just got you to Disney World Although several days before that my MIL played a cruel joke on her and involved other people in the situation which I think was completely uncalled for so I understood it a little but still.

Family's great eh? My advice, do what you want for the wedding. It ended up being too much hassle to worry about spending all this time with everyone and taking care of their reservations...although now I would have too anyways since it's my job In my opinion, it was not worth the fuss. Not that I wanted praise on getting discounts, dining, etc. I just wanted to feel it was at least appreciated and not hear moaning and growning the whole trip...until everyone left and we could finally have our "honeymoon".

In conclusion, I would agree 100%...stay at another resort.

Have A Magical Day!

 

[ItGirl753]

Princess Mo,
UGH! I have made a preliminary list of only about 50-60 (when we first started to say, "Is this possible?") and my sisters have 8 kids between them. I love my nieces and nephews, but in the same resort -- that is a headache waiting to strike! We three sisters arguing, the cousins are all parallel-aged and argue and gang up on each other. And right there with my sisters and kids, an intimate was out of the question.

So many of the people on THE list have kids. Comes to about 28, and unfortunately, most of them have to be counted as adults but can't be cut from the list! Oh well. Just wanted to vent. The list isn't final but they are the most important friends and family members to us. I'd like to cut it back some...

 

[PrincessMo]

It's a tough decision to make.......who to invite and who not to. I understand your pain. I had to limit mine to 15 (well it was 17 but my sister in law refused to come). Thank goodness she didn't come though because she'd have been a nightmare. She was so rude and inconsiderate for her wedding that we all really don't get along now. She talks to my mother like she is a child and swears she knows everything.

Well, all along my brother kept telling me he wasn't sure if his wife and son could go cuz of money...that was a big fat lie. She didn't want to go because I didn't put her in the wedding party. I told her early on in the planning why I had the 4 guys in the bridal party...one random girl was gonna look weird, plus I needed some people to sit and actually watch the wedding. She didn't care I guess. She called me 1 week before the wedding having not said a word prior to this and told me that she was not doing ok, my wedding was causing her and her husband problems and then she asked me if it was a family conspiracy to not have her in the wedding or was it my decision. I said it was mine and she said "just to be a *****?" I said we weren't close anymore and she then went on to tell me "i told you when you were 16 not to get involved in a serious relationship and lose all your friends..." WHAT??? are you kidding? So I then had to yell and interrupt her and say "you know what kathy, this was my and my fiance's choice...it's our wedding so deal with it!" then i hung up.

She then called and left me a nasty voice mail but I didn't even go to Christmas dinner after the wedding cuz of her. So, yeah...luckily that was before the wedding and I was releaved she was not going to come. I'd rather have had her do that then something during the wedding or reception.

Ok enough out of me. Other than these weird people, the wedding experience was really great.

Have A Magical Day!

 

[dee slack]

I do feel so sorry for anyone who is caught up in the middle of this kind of thing - you just want your wedding day and time leading up to it to be so special and none of the 'real world' arguments.
Guess I'm quite lucky that our VR is primarily for the 2 of us and if anyone wants to come they are welcome! But it's our vacation and the VR is just 1 day of 15 so won't be worried who comes or not, but we certainly are not bending our plans to fit ANYBODY!! However, our actual wedding was quite tricky due to step parents - my dad wanted his long-term partner (only while I was an adult, so not a real step-mum, if that makes sense?)to sit at our 'top table' with the bridal party but that would have been quite awkward for my mum so I refused. The upshot of it was that my dad only came for the ceremony and meal then went home and she didn't come at all. We didn't speak for a couple of years after that but we are all best friends now and hopefully the both of them will come to our VR, but I'm not worrying about that!
Anyhows, good luck and remember it's YOUR day!

 

[feline figaro]

Gee you know what sometimes familys are a blessing & other times they re how can i put it a pain in the ...... . I think some people dont have the right attitude in life & see themselves as the center of attention even on the day of someones wedding.

For my wedding it ll probably be only me (of course),my fiance & my mum. My dads petrified of flying & my sis does nt think she ll be able to afford it. Luckily my future in laws are nt in the picture (a choice they decided to make)! Im not a rude or horrible person but when my fiances family were in our lives i felt like i was about to come up against the MIL from hell. I think she saw me as some kind of threat. One of those people who would put a dampener on everything. Little Miss Negative lets call her.

I could of seen her being just like Princess Mo's MIL, so im very glad to say that when our big day comes she ll be thousands of miles.