A little about me and where I come from...

KPeveler

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I have been spending a lot of time recently contemplating my disability, my illness, and my situation. (It's amazing how much time I have now that I am out of work!)

Since I am the new moderator on this board, I figured I would both give a little more background on myself, and post my thoughts on a question I seem to be answering a lot recently...

My name is Katy and I currently live in Anaheim, CA. My MIL is a current DL cast member (she's been at DL 25 years next March), and my wife is a former cast member. I got married last October at Disney World (Sea Breeze Point is beautiful).

I have a genetic condition called Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (Hypermobility type), an undiagnosed autoimmune condition which acts like Lupus (and likely is Lupus), and a neurological/sensory condition. I use both a manual (Quickie 7) and power wheelchair (Quantum Q600) (basically I use the manual chair everywhere I can't get the powerchair to). I also have a cane, forearm (Canadian) crutches, and a rolling walker. As a child I had few health problems that impacted my life. I started using a cane at 21, crutches at 22, a manual chair at 24, and now a powerchair at 25.

I have traveled to Disney World and Disneyland in almost every season (except the truly busy weeks) since I was 5 years old. I live with a Cast Member, so when I post Disney policies, I generally check with her first - it is nice to be able to check with a good source.

You will have seen I generally post on those questions having to do with mobility and occasionally sensory problems. I am just now starting to have experience with doing Disney gluten-free, since my wife cannot have gluten.

So enough about me...


Lately I seem to have answered a lot of questions about accepting the need for a mobility aid at Disney. There is nothing wrong with those questions, and I completely understand the difficulty in facing the need for more assistance. Here are a few words of advice I have learned after three years on this board:

1. There is nothing wrong with getting a wheelchair, walker, or ECV and only using it part-time. I know a lot of people feel like they are "cheating" if they park a wheelchair or scooter and walk, as if other people are judging them. The important thing to remember is that YOU know your body best, not the random strangers. Use a wheelchair when you need it, and walk when you don't.

2. A wheelchair is a tool, not a judgment. Using one in Disney is NOT a reflection of your disease or your daily needs. Most people walk 6-10 miles a day in Disney, and a vacation is NOT like your daily life. Therefore, using a wheelchair is Disney does NOT mean you have to use one at home.

3. I hear a lot of the time how using a wheelchair is letting the disease win. And I always argue, NOT using the wheelchair is letting the disease win! If I stayed at home in bed all day because I was afraid or ashamed, if I did not go to Disney and enjoy my honeymoon, then THAT is letting the disease win!

4. A lot of doctors will urge people not to use a wheelchair, to keep walking, because that is better for the person's health. And the doctors are likely right. However, if you speak to most doctors about Disney and 6-10 miles a day, they will suggest using a wheelchair! They are giving advice for daily life, not for a commando vacation! Always follow doctors' advice, since an unneeded or improper mobility device can do more harm than good, but if you need something, then use it!

5. Most important: There is a difference between surviving your Disney vacation and enjoying it! In daily life, you will "push through" pain or discomfort, because it is important to maintain as active a life as possible. Vacation, however, is NOT the time to be in pain! There is no shame in asking for a stronger prescription for the vacation or using a wheelchair to avoid pain or distress. You want vacation to be a time you spent with family having a wonderful time. Your most vivid memory should be of your favorite ride or finally meeting Mickey Mouse, not the evening you spent in the hotel room in incredible pain while the rest of your family went out.

In this list I have used the word "wheelchair" because that is what I use. You can easily substitute "scooter," "ECV," "walker," "GAC," or whatever assistive device you use.

If you have read this far, I commend you! I did not mean to write a novel, but these are things I have been thinking of for a while.

Does anyone else have any important things to remember while accepting the need for a mobility device or other assistance?
 
Very well put! I'd also like to add something if that's okay....

I also have a progressive, painful autoimmune disease. For YEARS I pushed through because I thought it was the 'right' thing to do. About 6 years ago we were planning another of our yearly trips and my daughters sat me down to have a chat. They told me they appreciated everything I did to plan a great vacation, but that I needed to know it wasn't any fun for them when I was in pain. They nicely but clearly let me know they wouldn't go again unless I got a scooter. This from 2 girls who LOVE the parks!

Moral of the story? Sometimes when we 'push through' the pain, we can be a pain to those we love.

Every vacation since then I've had a scooter and have taken frequent naps. We've all had a wonderful time!
 
I agree, I read it all and was very well put Katy :hug:. Maybe I will start a thread with my story, or certainly Joshua's as he is autistic, I am not personally disabled. My comments and experiences are based upon many trips to Florida and life with a special needs child.
 

5. Most important: There is a difference between surviving your Disney vacation and enjoying it! In daily life, you will "push through" pain or discomfort, because it is important to maintain as active a life as possible. Vacation, however, is NOT the time to be in pain! There is no shame in asking for a stronger prescription for the vacation or using a wheelchair to avoid pain or distress. You want vacation to be a time you spent with family having a wonderful time. Your most vivid memory should be of your favorite ride or finally meeting Mickey Mouse, not the evening you spent in the hotel room in incredible pain while the rest of your family went out.

This is what I learned this year...that there is a difference between making it through the day at Disney and actually enjoying the trip -

Great thoughts!!!! :) Thanks for posting them!
 
Wonderful post! So great to get to know you better. :)

I would add two things. If you do ask for a stronger/different prescription for pain or whatever needs you have please try it at home before you go. You don't want to take it for the first time in a strange place not knowing what sort of reactions you may have.

If you are afraid of using an ECV for yourself or a companion then go to a local "big" store like Target or Walmart or many of the grocery stores and try one out. The first time I tried one was in a Target and I was terrified of it! In fact I ended up knocking over an entire rack of clothes :blush: But overall I realized that it wasn't that hard to drive and it sure did make my experience much easier. And the really good news is that a rental ECV is much easier to drive than the ones in the stores. So if you can do an okay job at them you will be fine.
 
:goodvibes Just what I needed to be reminded of for my upcoming trip. Thank you.
 
Wonderful Post Katy I used a scooter for the first time at Disney 6 years ago. I never went without again then 3 years ago I bought my own. Using a scooter was the single most important thing I ever did at Disney to make the trip better for everyone.

As far as moderators go the disabilities board moderators are the best I have ever dealt with I want to thank you all for the great job
 
Great post. I love where you said "surviving" vs. "enjoying". I actually "enjoyed" vs. "survived" our resent trip.

Thanks for being such a great Moderator and helper when I needed you :)
 
What an excellent post! I'm not registered disabled myself, I've Hypermobility Syndrome and an Underactive Thyroid, but DH is registered blind and my 10 year old daughter has Dyspraxia and Hypermobility syndrome(query Ehlers Danlos Syndrome as my sister has it). We got a GAC for my husband and he felt uncomfortable about it. He is very independant because as a child he was told he wouldn't amount to much so felt he had to prove everyone wrong. He now holds a BA Honours degree, a Masters degree and a PHD. He also holds down a very responsible job. So he felt he was "giving in to his blindness" when he got the GAC. But after our trip he admitted it was so much easier for him AND us to have it. And because the GAC let us all go with him our Daughter found things easier as well. ;)
 
Great post. I love where you said "surviving" vs. "enjoying". I actually "enjoyed" vs. "survived" our resent trip.

Thanks for being such a great Moderator and helper when I needed you :)

I'm glad you shared your story, here. It adds another dimension to your comments on various threads. Thanks for taking on the challenge of being a moderator.
 














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