A lady was mean to my 4 year old today..

[clovergirl5]

I too have found that you have to watch what you post on the DIS. For this being a Disney/Family oriented place people sure are opinionated and don't have a problem tearing another person down. Then other's seem to jump on the band wagon and the thread ends up becoming epic on the DIS. Sometimes I write something out and then re-think what I am saying and then take out the parts I know are going to cause a negative reaction here on the DIS even if it doesn't cause a negative reaction anywhere else.

To the previous poster from the Wal-Mart thread - I am sorry people have made fun of your situation at Wal-Mart. I didn't read the entire thread - I think I only read the first couple of threads and then I went on to other posts.

Thank you, I appreciate that Definitely for being a disney/family site, I feel bad for the kids that post here. And they are worried about swear words? Um, this is worse, imo.

 

[Boxley]

Sorry, but using the word "screeching" IS referring to my thread.

And the situation that anyone could be in???? Have you read the thread? Um everyone here who majorly flamed me, are perfect parents. Just read the thread. And thats only in the first few pages, just as far as I read. Nobody could be in that situation because they raise their kids right and other parents don't. Im so sick of the 2 sided crap. You all as mothers have been in bad behavior situations with your children whether it was today or 40 years ago. Many people need to get off their high horse here and admit you are no better than the people you are flaming and putting down. Called reality check, care to take it?

Sorry, but using the word "screeching" IS referring to my thread.

A screech is a word that is not owned. I also referred to a can of worms as gluton free and allergy free, do I have tons of reply post from angry parents with kids who have allergies? No. The word screech is a word, as is the word scream, fart or cough. If the word fits a situation, then it is used. Once again, this situation is slightly like yours was and so it was used.

Besides, as a mother, kids have bad behavior sometimes, you know what you do? You discipline the kid, laugh about it later if it is funny and move on. No one was putting down anyone, but rather they were giving an opinion. If you thought that everyone would agree, it wasn't going to happen. Also, people were making a joke as to the several situations that they have been.

Also, if you are sick of "two-sided crap" maybe you should go post on another board where EVERYONE will agree with you.

 

[Scurvy]

Sorry, but using the word "screeching" IS referring to my thread.

And the situation that anyone could be in???? Have you read the thread? Um everyone here who majorly flamed me, are perfect parents. Just read the thread. And thats only in the first few pages, just as far as I read. Nobody could be in that situation because they raise their kids right and other parents don't. Im so sick of the 2 sided crap. You all as mothers have been in bad behavior situations with your children whether it was today or 40 years ago. Many people need to get off their high horse here and admit you are no better than the people you are flaming and putting down. Called reality check, care to take it?

The people using the word screeching might well be referring to the thread you started. However, that doesn't mean they are referring to you. There were several people on that thread who defended a child's right to screech in Walmart because "it's just Walmart" and I assume the screeching comments are poking fun at that.

You do seem to be taking this personally. If you stuck around for the whole thread (and as you stopped responding, I have no idea if you did or not) then you know that those of us who objected to a child screeching in a store also said we had sympathy for a frustrated parent who was trying to control a misbehaving child. If that was your situation, then no one was "flaming" you. Many of us objected to the attitude displayed by several posters that any behavior was acceptable from a child as long as they were only in a Walmart and not "someplace nice".

And if you are tired of dealing with two sides of issues, maybe a blog is a better choice than a message board for you. If you post on a message board, you can expect to see responses that represent lots of different views, and some of them are likely to disagree with you.

 

[clovergirl5]

I didn't see a reference to screeching until after your post. Maybe I missed it. I made the reference many a time and was not referring to any thread or post in particular, just a pattern I have seen emerge here on the DIS, where we often eat our own.

I can only speak for myself though. Especially when the old lady next to me won't speak back...oh snap!

Whatever.....maybe you should backtrack

 

[clovergirl5]

A screech is a word that is not owned. I also referred to a can of worms as gluton free and allergy free, do I have tons of reply post from angry parents with kids who have allergies? No. The word screech is a word, as is the word scream, fart or cough. If the word fits a situation, then it is used. Once again, this situation is slightly like yours was and so it was used.

Besides, as a mother, kids have bad behavior sometimes, you know what you do? You discipline the kid, laugh about it later if it is funny and move on. No one was putting down anyone, but rather they were giving an opinion. If you thought that everyone would agree, it wasn't going to happen. Also, people were making a joke as to the several situations that they have been.

Also, if you are sick of "two-sided crap" maybe you should go post on another board where EVERYONE will agree with you.

Do you have kids? Remember, don't ask any ?'s on a family site that you are looking for support....I see you are a newbie here. You'll see. Bandwagon's amoving....

 

[luvmy3]

hey, can we get back to talking about crochety old hags and little demon 4 year olds who can't keep their hands off of others things and their mouths shut. i wouldn't want to see it take a turn for the worst

 

[AKLBeauty]

I teach my children when they want to spark up a conversation with someone, to ask their name. The older woman in the OP was very rude and I would have told her so.

 

[Boxley]

Do you have kids? Remember, don't ask any ?'s on a family site that you are looking for support....I see you are a newbie here. You'll see. Bandwagon's amoving....

I would ask questions about my son, however I would keep in mind that when wanting everyone to agree with me, it would not happen because mny people have different aspects of a situations. And, even as a newbie, I see a bandwagon but I ALSO know there are different aspects of conversation.

 

[clovergirl5]

The people using the word screeching might well be referring to the thread you started. However, that doesn't mean they are referring to you. There were several people on that thread who defended a child's right to screech in Walmart because "it's just Walmart" and I assume the screeching comments are poking fun at that.

You do seem to be taking this personally. If you stuck around for the whole thread (and as you stopped responding, I have no idea if you did or not) then you know that those of us who objected to a child screeching in a store also said we had sympathy for a frustrated parent who was trying to control a misbehaving child. If that was your situation, then no one was "flaming" you. Many of us objected to the attitude displayed by several posters that any behavior was acceptable from a child as long as they were only in a Walmart and not "someplace nice".

And if you are tired of dealing with two sides of issues, maybe a blog is a better choice than a message board for you. If you post on a message board, you can expect to see responses that represent lots of different views, and some of them are likely to disagree with you.

I have been on MANY parenting forums thank you. Definitely not new to that. I have NEVER experience behavior or attitudes like there is here. And I know Im not the only one seeing and commenting on it. Just remember you can't swear here, but you can sure run people into the ground. Kids, look away.

 

[clovergirl5]

I would ask questions about my son, however I would keep in mind that when wanting everyone to agree with me, it would not happen because mny people have different aspects of a situations. And, even as a newbie, I see a bandwagon but I ALSO know there are different aspects of conversation.

Please, did you read the thread?

 

[dumboiu]

I teach my children when they want to spark up a conversation with someone, to ask their name. The older woman in the OP was very rude and I would have told her so.

You're kidding.......right? The kid was interrupting her lunch.

 

[Scurvy]

I teach my children when they want to spark up a conversation with someone, to ask their name. The older woman in the OP was very rude and I would have told her so.

It might be a better idea to teach them to introduce themselves and wait to see if the other person offers their name. There are lots of people who would be a bit put off by someone random coming up and asking their name. Of course the woman wasn't rude - it would, however, have been rude for you to tell her that she was being rude.

I have been on MANY parenting forums thank you. Definitely not new to that. I have NEVER experience behavior or attitudes like there is here. And I know Im not the only one seeing and commenting on it. Just remember you can't swear here, but you can sure run people into the ground. Kids, look away.

Are you sure you are responding to the right post? Maybe you meant to quote someone else? I'm not sure what you're talking about, but I'm sorry I seem to have upset you.

 

[Boxley]

Please, did you read the thread?

I did, and while I agree that some people were a bit impolite, there were others who gave you support, some also stated that they have been in situations like yours and were understanding. Not everyone flamed you.

 

[smkiya]

When I post a new thread, it is because I am seeking the advice/opinions/comments of others. I don't expect everyone to agree or disagree, I want honest and respectful responses. I may not be happy with everything I read, but it is the cumulative response of others that will help me look at a situation from another perspective.

For example, I wrote that I do not agree that the woman that the OP mentions was mean. I think the OP should have made her son apologize and do something or give him something to occupy him, rather than annoy her.
Maybe the OP doesn't agree, but maybe now she has a possible reason why the woman acted the way she did.

I don't take these types of posts personally, but rather as another source of information. Not everyone will agree with you all the time, and you get 'real' responses here rather than those that are 'super sugar coated' when face to face. If you start a thread with that in mind, it should't be a problem.

 

[clovergirl5]

It might be a better idea to teach them to introduce themselves and wait to see if the other person offers their name. There are lots of people who would be a bit put off by someone random coming up and asking their name. Of course the woman wasn't rude - it would, however, have been rude for you to tell her that she was being rude.




Are you sure you are responding to the right post? Maybe you meant to quote someone else? I'm not sure what you're talking about, but I'm sorry I seem to have upset you.

Nope, you....I should have a blog? No, message board for me is just fine, as I said, been on tons of message boards. My oldest dd is 13. I have never seen this kind of behavior from adults before. I am at the wrong place, believe me, I know now.

Where did everyone go? No one wants to make any funny screeching walmart kids jokes anymore?

 

[Boxley]

Nope, you....I should have a blog? No, message board for me is just fine, as I said, been on tons of message boards. My oldest dd is 13. I have never seen this kind of behavior from adults before. I am at the wrong place, believe me, I know now.

Where did everyone go? No one wants to make any funny screeching walmart kids jokes anymore?

I screech in your general direction.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Me and DS went shopping today and went to McD's for lunch. We sit down and an old lady sits next to us. We're eating and I notice he gave the lady's handbag a flick with his finger. I told him how its rude to touch people's things. I know he's expecting this old lady to smile at him or something.HE then taps on the bench next to his leg. The lady says to him rather meanly can you stop that it's annoying. Now my DS asks her what her name is. She tells him it's none of your business. Poor DS looked so shocked. I was thinking not so nice things but didn't say anything. After he finished I took him to the pet store where the poor barking puppies took his mind off the rudeness.

I'm not going to read other responses because I have a prety good idea of what they say.....

I just wanted to share with you some points that we reviewed when I taught for an assisted living community.

~Depression is rampant in the elderly (which sometimes presents itself as snappy, mean, unhappy)
~Seniors are now some of the poorest of our population
~By the time you reach your "golden years" you have lost your parents, most likely your spouse, most of your friends & very possibly buried a child.
~Many seniors are not able to afford medications such as those for depression & Alzheimer's.....they both can cause "grouch" behavior.

I'm not saying rude is okay I'm saying maybe we need to teach our kids (and some adults) about the difficult, sad, lonely time many of our seniors experience.

 

[clovergirl5]

When I post a new thread, it is because I am seeking the advice/opinions/comments of others. I don't expect everyone to agree or disagree, I want honest and respectful responses. I may not be happy with everything I read, but it is the cumulative response of others that will help me look at a situation from another perspective.

For example, I wrote that I do not agree that the woman that the OP mentions was mean. I think the OP should have made her son apologize and do something or give him something to occupy him, rather than annoy her.
Maybe the OP doesn't agree, but maybe now she has a possible reason why the woman acted the way she did.

I don't take these types of posts personally, but rather as another source of information. Not everyone will agree with you all the time, and you get 'real' responses here rather than those that are 'super sugar coated' when face to face. If you start a thread with that in mind, it should't be a problem.

Have you read the thread? absolutely nothing was sugarcoated! Is that how these people treat others in real life. They who flamed me were no better than the old biddy who called me a female dog and my daughter a brat and said I was a bad mother. That she didn't want to listen to her.

I never intended to enter this thread or even bring up my thread (thats why the different username) but I knew the op would be flamed. There is a way to give your opinion and then there is what has been done to me and many others on this site. Thats ok?

 

[clovergirl5]

I screech in your general direction.

You are to cool there, wheres all you bandmates?

 

[Boxley]

You are to cool there, wheres all you bandmates?

At Walmart.

Besides,I consider myself a one-woman band.