A ghost from the past came out to say hello tonight...

[Stepharoonie!]

...and wow, it didn't help how I've been feeling.

My high school sweetheart...you know, the ONE you swore you were going to marry...the most perfect person but for some reason the relationship went through the cracks (he was 2 years older and went to college before I did)...contacted me via email tonight. Seems he lives in the area now, and is a biochemical engineer. He and his fiancee are building a house, planning a wedding in October, and he wanted to know what *I* was up to.

I wrote back what was going on. I felt like white trash in comparison.

Siiiiiiiiigh. One of these days, the sun will come out for me...

 

[perdidobay]

.......like I tell my daughter, you will NEVER be happy or satisfied with your life if you compare it to other peoples.
Life is too short.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Originally posted by perdidobay
.......like I tell my daughter, you will NEVER be happy or satisfied with your life if you compare it to other peoples.
Life is too short.

Also see my siggie

 

[Saffron]

Good advice there!


If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams,
and endeavors to have the life which he has imagined,
he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.
If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost;
Now put the foundations under them.

~ Henry David Thoreau ~

 

[Pop Daddy]

write him back and lie about yourself

 

[Aurora63]

Steph, heres a different perspective...


Ask yourself, Why does an ex look any old girl/boyfriend up?

To catch up with an old friend? I don't think so!

In most cases, an ex will do this because they are interested in at least having a fling. That's the only reason I've ever looked up an ex! Maybe he has a case of cold feet over his impending marriage.

If you haven't heard from him in awhile, (and I assume you haven't, as the two of you had to catch up) I would assume it took him some time and effort to find your e-mail address...that's a lot of effort just to catch up!

I totally believe he is scared to death of marriage, still has feelings for you, and was hoping you would as well.

Just shows you that the grass is not always greener!

 

[orvilleair]

How does his fiancee' feel. Stepharoonie!, I wouldn't even bother. Maybe he is rubbing it in.

 

[Pin Wizard]

He's trouble! I wouldn't bother any more.

 

[yourtravelpro]

Originally posted by Stepharoonie!
...and wow, it didn't help how I've been feeling.

My high school sweetheart...you know, the ONE you swore you were going to marry...the most perfect person but for some reason the relationship went through the cracks (he was 2 years older and went to college before I did)...contacted me via email tonight. Seems he lives in the area now, and is a biochemical engineer. He and his fiancee are building a house, planning a wedding in October, and he wanted to know what *I* was up to.

I wrote back what was going on. I felt like white trash in comparison.

Siiiiiiiiigh. One of these days, the sun will come out for me...

Hi Steparoonie!

Have you seen the movie "The Notebook"?????

 

[Minniespal]

Originally posted by Stepharoonie!


I wrote back what was going on. I felt like white trash in comparison.

I felt so sad for you when I read this.

I have to agree with earlier posters. There are two reasons why an ex will go to so much trouble to contact you. First one is they want to glote and the second one is that they want to have a final fling with you.

IMHO he is the white trash in comparison to you. Don't allow him to get to you.

 

[mickey65]

Steph, the sun ALREADY is out for you, you just have to take off those expectation of life shades. Focus on the positive in your life, not the negative.

 

[Robinrs]

Originally posted by Minniespal
I felt so sad for you when I read this.

I have to agree with earlier posters. There are two reasons why an ex will go to so much trouble to contact you. First one is they want to glote and the second one is that they want to have a final fling with you.

IMHO he is the white trash in comparison to you. Don't allow him to get to you.

He WANTED to make you feel that way. Don't let him win.

 

[Serena]

Steph, I read this last night, but didn't know what to say. Only you can make yourself feel like "white trash". What you ex has accomplished has nothing to do with you. Whether or not he wanted to gloat, cheat, or just remembering old times and wanted to see how you were doing, it doesn't matter.


You have to stop feeling so bad about yourself and your life. Yes, things are hard right now, but you have so much going for you, and so much that others would truly treasure.
You need to see a doctor. They can help this depression of yours.

You know the 1/2 glass theory. It sounds like you think the glass is almost empty, dirty anyway, with rotten milk inside. You need some help. Please get some, for your daughters sake, for yours too.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I contacted my college love about a year ago, to see how he was doing and try and catch up. He is happily married and has 2 kids.

The good ones always seem to get away, although in this case, I left him. It was a very mistake, probably one of the stupidest things I've ever done.

But I've moved on and I'm happy now.

 

[Carl]

White trash doesn't work for Disney World. You have the job that most of us would kill for.