A Disneymoon woth kids?? Opinions appreciated

[pigletto]

Hi all!
I thought this would be the perfect place to ask this question as it is a family board afterall.
I am in somewhat of an unconventional situation and would love your thoughts.
My Fiance and I have been together a long time. I have a daughter from a previous relationship and we have a son together. We never got married. I know it sounds weird.. but we lived together.. had a family.. owned a home. A wedding at that point just kept getting pushed to the backburner.
Long story short .. finances and life have changed for the better and we are having a wedding this summer.
Here comes the question part. We are booked to take the kids to Disney a few months after the wedding.
We also have a honeymoon planned in June. We really are starting to lean towards cancelling our honeymoon and taking that money and puttng it towards a great big fat Disney vacation (10 days in a deluxe with all the bells and whistles).
It would allow us to extend our vacation and upgrade. We also really want our kids with us. We've been living together almost 8 years.
So opinions please..
There is the argument for having the alone time for our honeymoon.
There is also an argument that we are already a family and nothing would please us more than taking our kids to the World with us (they are awesome kids and they have never been)
What say you oh wise folk of the Disboards?

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I think you already answred your own question. You really want the kids with you so take them! You will have an awesome time! Getting married is about commiting to each other (IMHO) and you are all going to celebrate that! Go Deluxe- take the kids- HAVE A BALL!!!!

 

[StephMK]

Go for the Deluxe!! The kids could go to the Kids Club for a night if you wanted some alone time. I married DH when I already had a DD & while the honeymoon was nice, we not really at the point of needing/wanting tons of alone time and I really missed her. It was nice at first, then just felt weird not to have her with us.

How about going away locally for the weekend after your wedding for just the 2 of you then taking the whole family for the deluxe trip. We've never stayed deluxe but it sounds fab & just the way to spend a first, extra special trip! Congrats & best wishes!

 

[pigletto]

Well that solves that problem
We have great family.. but asking anyone to watch our kids for a week would be a bit much. Nevermind w would deffinately miss them.
So I just came downstairs and said to Fiance..
"So.. what do you think if we spend two nights in a bed and breakfast after the wedding and then put our honeymoon money into the Disney trip?" We have discusse dit in passing before but nothing concrete.
And he said "sounds great.. I don't want to leave them that long.. let's do it!"

I love that man
Now .. I was pretty excited about CSR..
Off to choose a deluxe!!!
Thank you guys

 

[LuvOrlando]

Have fun

 

[Aliceacc]

nothing would please us more than taking our kids to the World with us QUOTE]


It sounds to me as though you've made your decision.

 

[MSSANDRA]

Take the kids and have a BLAST. Perhaps one night in a nice local hotel the night of the wedding would be nice too!

 

[Elmo888]

Scrap the deluxe idea, take the kids, and stay in a 1 bedroom DVC villa or resort suite so you can still have the privacy of the bedroom! Try the ASMusic Family Suites if the DVC villas or deluxe suites are too pricey. CSR has 1 bedroom suites, too.

Or, if you don't mind some risk, you could rent points to save $$ and stay in a 1 bedroom at a DVC resort.

Have a great Disneymoon!

 

[jagafen]

We got married on a cruise ship after having dated for 9 year, lived together for 7, and had a child together for 3.....I don't regret having our son with us for one moment. However, we did have family that came with us and took him for 3 nights (of a 7 night cruise) so that we could have a little alone time. On the flip side, my hubby and I took a solo vacation to Jamaica the following summer, and our son stayed with his grandparents for a week. It sounds like you really want to do the extended stay in a deluxe (who wouldn't???). I'd splurge a bit if I were in your shoes!!!!! Go on one GREAT trip with your kids...amybe you and your husband can sneak a mini-vacation in for your first "officially married" anniversary!

 

[dameodie]

Hi all!
I thought this would be the perfect place to ask this question as it is a family board afterall.
I am in somewhat of an unconventional situation and would love your thoughts.
My Fiance and I have been together a long time. I have a daughter from a previous relationship and we have a son together. We never got married. I know it sounds weird.. but we lived together.. had a family.. owned a home. A wedding at that point just kept getting pushed to the backburner.
Long story short .. finances and life have changed for the better and we are having a wedding this summer.
Here comes the question part. We are booked to take the kids to Disney a few months after the wedding.
We also have a honeymoon planned in June. We really are starting to lean towards cancelling our honeymoon and taking that money and puttng it towards a great big fat Disney vacation (10 days in a deluxe with all the bells and whistles).
It would allow us to extend our vacation and upgrade. We also really want our kids with us. We've been living together almost 8 years.
So opinions please..
There is the argument for having the alone time for our honeymoon.
There is also an argument that we are already a family and nothing would please us more than taking our kids to the World with us (they are awesome kids and they have never been)
What say you oh wise folk of the Disboards?

I could have (almost!) written this post!

We went to WDW for two weeks for our "honeymoon", and took my husband's girls. They LOVED IT and so did we! We already had the house, the dog, and two kids, so yeah, getting married was what we wanted but we certainly went around it bass-akwards!

Here's my logic - you'll have plenty of time to go on an adults-only trip later on. Probably when they're older and the thought of staying with gramma or staying home would be far preferable to going on a trip with Dad and Wicked Stepmother (/ Mom in your case). They're only young once! And it keeps paying back - for example DSD8's teacher told us that during an exercise at school for Thanksgiving, she stood up and told the class that she was thankful that Daddy and Odie took her to Disney World

And lets be honest - the "honeymoon period" in reguards to you-and-DF's intimate time is long past. You won't be missing out on anything in that reguard, and like I said, you can always plan another trip without them!!

It was important to us to show the girls that us getting married wasn't just about US but it was about ALL of us... so for us to take a family vacation to WDW afterwards just made sense. Their mother's teaching them the exact opposite - that getting married is something you do on a whim and you can end it just as easily. So it was very important to us to show them that we're all coming together to create a new family, not something that would probably be over in a year or two.

 

[disneygal2007]

we went without the kids this past feb. And it was our HM but we have been married for awhile. We had a great time at times but we missed the kids soooo we will never do it again.

 

[pigletto]

Thank you all!
I knew you would get it. The only people advising me not to do this are people without kids. And like I said I can see the advantages to both but we do get plenty of alone time.. and we can always use a sitter 1 or 2 evenings.
This marriage is really a celebration of our family... and bringing them seems like the best thing to do