A Chrismas day wedding?!

[TwingleMum]

I wanted a Christmas Eve wedding. I thought it'd be lovely: Poinsettas and candlelight decorating the church, dark green velvet dresses for the bridesmaids, red roses and holly in the bouquets. My mother talked me out of it, saying it wasn't practical because people have so much going on. Instead, we had a lovely summer wedding.

Know what? I still wish I'd done what I wanted, even if some people hadn't come. My daughters can have their weddings on whatever outlandish day they choose.

Back to the question: Would I go? Yes, if I wanted to attend the wedding -- that is, if it was someone I cared about -- I would go. I'd assume that it's not Christmas morning. By the evening, the presents are open, and there's nothing that'd prevent me from attending a friend or family member's wedding.

Mrs Pete~ My DH & I are huge Christmas fans and love the whole Santa scene so when we got married (19 yrs ago this 12/8 ) we naturally decided on a Christmas Wedding. We had it on 12/8 so it was smack dab in the middle of the Christmas season but people wouldn't be too stressed to enjoy themselves. My centerpieces were minature live Christmas Trees I decorated with mini battery lights and decorated with babies breathe and a big red velvet bow on top. Under the trees I had minature gold boxes with 2 pieces of Godiva chocolate like gifts under the trees. My Jr Bridesmaids wore dresses with cream lace tops and the bottoms were dark green. My flower girl wore a Shirley Temple like Dress it was red velvet top with layers and layers of white lace for the skirt. My bridesmaids wore a dress that was Christmas red and a long scoop in the back were a double strand of pearls hung down. They also wore long white opera gloves. The men had red bow ties and cumberbands. The reception hall had 2 huge beautiful Christmas trees and tons of poinsettas. Santa came to the reception and brought gifts for the Jr Bridesmaids and Flowergirl and Ring bearer. He read Twas the Night Before Christmas and I have a picture of me in my wedding gown dancing with Santa. It was magical. Then we went to Africa for a 6 wk Honeymoon Safari. Even today 19 yrs later people still come up to me and tell me it was the best wedding they were ever at. I still get tears in my eyes when I think of how storybook it was. Thanks for reminding me.

 

[BelleWDW]

Define most people? No one in my family (immediate or extended) does a big Christmas meal mid day.

I don't think it would kill people to attend a festive wedding and skip their traditions for one year. .

Actually-many folks here have brunch or noon meal with one side of the family and late supper with other side.

No way I'd skip Christmas package opening with family to attend a friend's wedding.

 

[back4more OH]

I wanted a Christmas Eve wedding. I thought it'd be lovely: Poinsettas and candlelight decorating the church, dark green velvet dresses for the bridesmaids, red roses and holly in the bouquets. My mother talked me out of it, saying it wasn't practical because people have so much going on. Instead, we had a lovely summer wedding.

Know what? I still wish I'd done what I wanted, even if some people hadn't come. My daughters can have their weddings on whatever outlandish day they choose.

Back to the question: Would I go? Yes, if I wanted to attend the wedding -- that is, if it was someone I cared about -- I would go. I'd assume that it's not Christmas morning. By the evening, the presents are open, and there's nothing that'd prevent me from attending a friend or family member's wedding.

You just described my wedding. We got married on December 21 (the Saturday before Christmas) We had nearly 200 guest. It was an amazing time to get married. Both my church and the banquet hall was already decorated so we saved a fortune. Though I never would have got married on Christmas day. I wouldn't give up my family time, so I would never expect someone else too either.

 

[kellydizfan]

I would go. I think it is a lovely time of the year to get married. I have three kids now. My oldest DD will be 16 Christmas Eve. I spent that Christmas in the Hospital - don't think I would do that again. Have had to do it several times since as my Aunt has been in the hospital twice since 2006 over the holidays - it is not fun but a Wedding would be fun to attend Christmas. I wouldn't think twice about it.

 

[luvmy3]

I didn't think it was allowed by the Church to have a wedding on Christmas Day

I don't think I would go to a wedding that day but I don't have any problems with people having one if that was what they wanted.

 

[quentina]

Yes, I would. Christmas is usually over by 2pm, I spend the rest of my day opening toys and picking up trash. I think it would be nice to have a nice meal, cooked by someone else on Christmas. If there was a mass, that would be even better!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

We got married at the courthouse on Dec 21st. We only had a handful of people in attendance.

As far as would I go? Well my kids are older so that is not a big deal anymore.

It would really depend on the people getting married. They would have to be very close friends or immediate family for me to attend.

 

[Inigo]

I would only go to a wedding on a major holiday if it involved one of my children, and I'd try really hard to persuade them to select a better day. I consider a major holiday to be Christmas eve, Christmas, New Year's Eve, New Year's Day, Memorial Day, 4th of July, Labor Day, or Thanksgiving, or my anniversary. If the wedding were on one of those days, and it's not for my kids, I'd send regrets on the RSVP.

 

[kristilew]

I know a couple who are getting married this December 25th. Obviously we aren't attending, as I'm not spending what will most likely be my last Christmas with my mother at a wedding. But it got me thinking, even if there weren't the circumstances there are this year, I still wouldn't attend a Christmas Day wedding. That's family time to me.

Now I don't know what the couple's expectations for attendance are, other than about 200 or so were invited. I also get that it's their day and they can do as they like. But all in all, I can't say I think a Christmas day wedding is an overly great idea...

What do you think? Would you attend a wedding on Christmas?

One of my favorite childhood memories: my dad was a judge and performed a lot of marriages. One year, he took me with him on Christmas Day when he married a couple who had planned it as a surprise for their family and friends who had gathered there.

We rang the doorbell and they thought we were carolers. Then my dad said, no, I'm Judge Lew and they thought they were in trouble for too many cars at the house.

But then the bride came into the room in a wedding dress and everyone started talking and crying and laughing and it was awesome. They got married in front of a roaring fireplace, next to the Christmas tree. The "wedding cake" was pumpkin pie.

 

[BelleWDW]

awwww.....that's a sweet story

 

[sissybells]

Me and DH got married on Christmas Eve and it was wonderful. The decor of Christmas was so pretty and there are so many things you could do with a winter Christmas theme. Like instead of flowers the flower girls threw snowflakes. Carried Christmas Angels and so on and so on... We only invited family and everyone of them showed up. We were going to get together anyway so it made it more fun to have both familes together and celebrate our marriage and get to know each other. It was all my Aunts idea. I have a Great Great Grandmother who got married on Christmas Eve and it was on their 100 year anniversary of when they got married. I thought it was nice.

We also will be married for 10 years this Christmas Eve. And it is so nice to have your anniversary all decorated and to sit in front of the tree and have a glass of wine and celebrate.

 

[Keli]

If it was local to me, sure I'd probably go. Or I'd be willing to travel if it were someone I was very close to and it was important to me to be there for their big day.
Otherwise I probably wouldn't because family has a high priority with me and it takes a lot to pry me away from them on one of the very few days of the year we all get together.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

Jewish. Not a Holy day for them.

And have Chinese food catered at the reception?

 

[MichelleVW]

Actually-many folks here have brunch or noon meal with one side of the family and late supper with other side.

No way I'd skip Christmas package opening with family to attend a friend's wedding.

I guess to me it would depend on how close a friend it was. Who am I kidding?? I freaking love weddings and a wedding on Christmas would be awesome no matter who's it was. We're usually done with everything by noon on Christmas and usually do a double feature at the movies so going to a wedding would be fun for me.

We have very few set in stone traditions at my house so it's easier to be flexible if something like a wedding came up.

I honestly never knew that people actually ate a "Christmas dinner" until I left for the Air Force and talked to different people. We always just munched on junk and appetizers all day!

 

[kilee]

It would really depend on who the wedding was for in relation to me. If someone close, I'd go. If not, I'd probably say no just because of the date.

I consider a major holiday to be Christmas eve, Christmas, New Year's Eve, New Year's Day, Memorial Day, 4th of July, Labor Day, or Thanksgiving, or my anniversary.

I have actually been to 3 weddings on 4th of July. Thinking back I have to admit it's kind of frustrating to have a wedding on a holiday. Usually there is so much else already going on.

 

[Angelhalo]

Not a chance

 

[Bunchkin]

I wouldn't go on Christmas Day. Some other day right around that day, sure.

 

[merrily]

I'd go.
My grandparents were married on Christmas day. He was leaving to go overseas in WWII.

 

[pigletgirl]

Me and DH got married on Christmas Eve and it was wonderful. The decor of Christmas was so pretty and there are so many things you could do with a winter Christmas theme. Like instead of flowers the flower girls threw snowflakes. Carried Christmas Angels and so on and so on... We only invited family and everyone of them showed up. We were going to get together anyway so it made it more fun to have both familes together and celebrate our marriage and get to know each other. It was all my Aunts idea. I have a Great Great Grandmother who got married on Christmas Eve and it was on their 100 year anniversary of when they got married. I thought it was nice.

We also will be married for 10 years this Christmas Eve. And it is so nice to have your anniversary all decorated and to sit in front of the tree and have a glass of wine and celebrate.

That sounds really lovely. I think a winter wonderland/christmas theme would be so fun to do!

 

[Jordans_Mommie]

My Dad got married on Christmas morning at 6:00 A.M. it was beautiful and followed immediately by a wonderful breakfast. They had over 300 guests, I was shocked. I think they were too as it was standing room only.

If it was anyone else, I would've sent a gift.