A Change in Direction

[Uncle Remus]

Lifestyle.

What is the gay lifestyle?

Can we have a gay lifestyle section too?

 

[PeterPan09]

You're kidding right?

I've always thought of you as one of the people whose posts I look foward to reading!

You're definitely a part of this community. And to me, at least, and important one!

As are many of the rest of you. Heck, MOST of the rest of you. I've made friends here. Friends I wouldn't have if we'd stuck to the topics around planning trips to Disney.

As for concerns about newbies not being able to find their way around our silliness, I don't see it. We're always very welcoming and helpful to new posters. We offer them help and encourage them to get involved. We answer their questions, and most imporantly we CARE. We want to help them have the best experience possible, here on the boards AND on their vacation.

My perspective is that many, many more people have come forward after reading our silly ramblings and said something like "I've been lurking here for a while, and you all seem like a friendly welcoming group, so I've decided to start posting." That makes me smile. EVERY single time it happens.

I think about kenman who was terrified of being gay and was close to killing himself. He asked us for our help because we were off topic, talking about a TV movie. If we'd limited our conversation to a smaller number of topics, he'd never have reached out for our help. That's a scary thought to me.

And once people have FOUND us, then they can ask questions about planning a Disney trip and benefit from our experience. If we've all drifted off to other parts of the iternet because we can't have our fun here, then they don't benefit from our being here so they can ask.

I think our forum works well as it is. It's not broken, it doesn't need fixing.

As a newbie, I completely agree. Please don't change anything. This is a safe place, where I felt completely comfortable telling my story. I knew, just by reading those silly posts that this was a warm and welcoming community. I've gotten so much help from posters here already, and so many laughs!! I saw how you guys reached out to Kenman, and I knew you would all be there for me. I honestly feel like I have friends here, even though I'm new.

 

[zeitzeuge]

*sigh*

 

[DVCajun]

I personally get a kick out of the silliness, even tho I don't typically contribute to it. It seems like the original topic is still in there somewhere, even if there are 2 or 3 pages of silliness in between relevant posts.

I've been around a while too, and I'm kinda over the new emphasis on RULES and changing things that aren't broke.

*sigh* indeed.

 

[zeitzeuge]

Eh, my *sigh* was more in regards to having what words someone uses or how someone phrases something being picked apart all the time. No wonder the community forums were in an uproar all the time.

I hate feeling like you have to walk on eggshells before you post something on here sometimes.

And yes, a *sigh* about rules too.

 

[dis75ney]

I was not going to weigh in on this ...
but being a visual and conceptual person
(That's what I do for a living)
this seems to sum up my fellings on this topic...

New Coke is evil... *shudders at memory of New Coke*

I am a longtime lurker on the GLBT boards, and I have to agree with the majority here. I love this board and all the posters on it. No matter what, whenever I come onto this board, I get a smile on my face. It can be for a number of reasons...a couple winning their fight for their precious foster daughter, someone else getting a part in one of my favorite musicals EVER, a couple celebrating the happiest day of their lives, or just downright frivolity. No matter how bad my day is going, I can pop onto this board and get a smile back on my face in a matter of minutes.

If it's necessary, create a sub-forum regarding GLBT and WDW planning. I have seen threads on this board asking for help in planning a GLBT-friendly trip or for help in planning a Gay Days DIS meet. But if the entire board goes in the direction of trip planning, it loses what is unique and special about it...

Le sigh, indeed...

 

[bubie2.5]

I think that a change will only make this board less friendly. Right now, this place REALLY is a community, even for those of us on the outside. Sometimes we all need a little silliness, and on the days that we don't, we just have to scroll pass it.

 

[donald...really]

I have no problem with the silliness, and I have no problem with people posting and discussing non disney things here, but the constant thread hijacking does bother me. I can see where the OP is coming from on that front. So many times I have seen a thread topic that interested me and was excited to see that it was multi pages long, only to find out that after the first three posts the thread had been hijacked and there is nothing in there based on the original topic. Sometimes I have tried to get the thread back on track by posting my thoughts to the original topic, only to have my post ignored and the hijacking continue. I have turned into pretty much of a lurker.

 

[PghLybrt]

Ok I know that I am the irrational one in the “family”, after all I am a Scorpio. Anyway, I, as you all know, think these new rules are ridiculous. I really try to live my life as out and open as I can but then here I have to be quiet about My girlfriend getting verbally attacked about Gay days by some of her teammates because THAT’S POLITICAL AND RELIGIOUS! I think it is a shame that the DIS now wants to shove us back into a virtual closet so we shut up about these things. It is a message board, and if someone could not handle people being nasty they could simply not open a thread or block the person. Now the entire DIS is nothing but silliness. Seriously, I do not care that there are no yellow peeps at target.

 

[zeitzeuge]

Seriously, I do not care that there are no yellow peeps at target.

WHAT!!!??? Now THAT'S an abomination........

I love me some peeps.

Back to the topic at hand.
Tip your bartenders.
I'm here all week.

 

[OrlandoMike]

Seriously, I do not care that there are no yellow peeps at target.

 

[Uncle Remus]

Ok I know that I am the irrational one in the “family”, after all I am a Scorpio. Anyway, I, as you all know, think these new rules are ridiculous. I really try to live my life as out and open as I can but then here I have to be quiet about My girlfriend getting verbally attacked about Gay days by some of her teammates because THAT’S POLITICAL AND RELIGIOUS! I think it is a shame that the DIS now wants to shove us back into a virtual closet so we shut up about these things. It is a message board, and if someone could not handle people being nasty they could simply not open a thread or block the person. Now the entire DIS is nothing but silliness. Seriously, I do not care that there are no yellow peeps at target.

Or your lifestyle?



And on another note:

Words are really important, after all, we get accused of flaunting our "lifestyle" when we go to Disney.

Too bad we all don't think alike, we wouldn't need a message board.

 

[zeitzeuge]

And people wonder why some want to just lurk........

 

[PghLybrt]

WHAT!!!??? Now THAT'S an abomination........

I love me some peeps.

Back to the topic at hand.
Tip your bartenders.
I'm here all week.

It was on the CB a few days ago.


The only thing I like about peeps is putting them in the microwave.

 

[PghLybrt]

Or your lifestyle?



And on another note:

Words are really important, after all, we get accused of flaunting our "lifestyle" when we go to Disney.

Too bad we all don't think alike, we wouldn't need a message board.

I am sorry? meaning?

 

[Tony-NJ]

I think I said what the OP said a few days ago. Maybe newbies / lurkers would feel more comfy if this board was under the just for fun forums or something. It's under the trip planning forums however most posts are not about trip planning.

I personally like the forum as is, just maybe put it somewhere else or create a sub board which was suggested above.

I have been at the DIS since there were only 2 or 3 forums and have taken many breaks over the years. I enjoy this board but maybe it should not be labled as a planning board only?

As for the new rules - who cares here on this forum - like Mike said, we never get into those heated debates here.

 

[Uncle Remus]

Ok I know that I am the irrational one in the “family”, after all I am a Scorpio. Anyway, I, as you all know, think these new rules are ridiculous. I really try to live my life as out and open as I can but then here I have to be quiet about My girlfriend getting verbally attacked about Gay days by some of her teammates because THAT’S POLITICAL AND RELIGIOUS! I think it is a shame that the DIS now wants to shove us back into a virtual closet so we shut up about these things. It is a message board, and if someone could not handle people being nasty they could simply not open a thread or block the person. Now the entire DIS is nothing but silliness. Seriously, I do not care that there are no yellow peeps at target.

Or your lifestyle?



And on another note:

Words are really important, after all, we get accused of flaunting our "lifestyle" when we go to Disney.

Too bad we all don't think alike, we wouldn't need a message board.

I am sorry? meaning?

I agree with you, living your life:

I really try to live my life as out and open as I can but then here I have to be quiet about My girlfriend getting verbally attacked about Gay days by some of her teammates because THAT’S POLITICAL AND RELIGIOUS! I think it is a shame that the DIS now wants to shove us back into a virtual closet so we shut up about these things.

I just take it to the point that I'm tired of being told I have to be gay a certain way or I'm flaunting my lifestyle.

What the heck is my "lifetsyle", anyone know?

 

[PeterPan09]

Ok I know that I am the irrational one in the “family”, after all I am a Scorpio. Anyway, I, as you all know, think these new rules are ridiculous. I really try to live my life as out and open as I can but then here I have to be quiet about My girlfriend getting verbally attacked about Gay days by some of her teammates because THAT’S POLITICAL AND RELIGIOUS! I think it is a shame that the DIS now wants to shove us back into a virtual closet so we shut up about these things. It is a message board, and if someone could not handle people being nasty they could simply not open a thread or block the person. Now the entire DIS is nothing but silliness. Seriously, I do not care that there are no yellow peeps at target.

If talking about gay days is political and religious, then how come the CB has a Bible and a Prayer thread?

I guess I don't really understand the "new" DIS.

 

[PghLybrt]

If talking about gay days is political and religious, then how come the CB has a Bible and a Prayer thread?

I guess I don't really understand the "new" DIS.

And that is where i have issue.

 

[OrlandoMike]

If talking about gay days is political and religious, then how come the CB has a Bible and a Prayer thread?

I guess I don't really understand the "new" DIS.

Please feel free to discuss Gay Days ad nauseam over here.

As long as it doesn't turn into a debate about wether or not you believe gay days are good or evil.....and I'm assuming we are all on the same page about this event.