castleview
I'm on my 103rd attempt to grown
- Joined
- Mar 4, 2004
- Messages
- 5,509
Oh, what a great morning. 
Everything was going quite well - we know oldest daughter who is in third grade is not a morning person, so we keep things going as smoothly as possible by making sure backpacks and clothes are taken care of the night before school. Well, today everything was fine until she couldn't find her denim jacket. She has a brand new late fall jacket but she didn't want to wear it because she was wearing a hooded sweat jacket and hates wearing hoods with that...whatever. So she's running around the house panicking and making everyone else (me, DD7, DS3) miserable because she didn't put it away in the first place. 
She was told to look in the closet, in her room and in the car...which she supposedly did.
This has been a recurring theme with her lately. Over the weekend, she couldn't find her shin guards for her soccer game (left them in the car) and did the exact same thing because it was "everyone else's fault. It was so bad that we punished her by having her sit out the first half of the game (DH is coach). Well, we thought she learned her lesson.
Now she's yelling that she won't wear any jacket and I'm calmly telling her "Fine, but if you get cold I can't help you...and if the lunch ladies don't let you outside for recess because they think you'll be too cold - you've made your choice." She starts crying "you don't understand" and runs into another tantrum. Finally I say time to go the bus stop which is at the end of our long driveway. She starts screaming again while my youngest daughter and son calmly walk down. Before we head out of the garage, I notice there's a denim jacket in the car. I'm tempted to not give it to her, but I do and remind her that she made everyone else miserable because she didn't put it away. She should apologize to her brother and sister. We get the screamed "SORRY". Then I lose it, grab her by the arm and tell her to knock it off...and some other things I'm not thrilled about. She was calmer and we talked a little more by the time the bus came, but I hate to see any kid start off the school day by getting on the bus so upset and sensitive.
She is normally a great kid and student. The teachers tell me she is so sweet and they have to tell her to raise her voice because she is so softspoken.
I guess I should be happy she saves her rage for home. 
Sorry I had to vent. This is the kid I am most unsure at dealing with because she and I are alike in MANY ways. I'm always questioning if I could have handled things better with her. I'm thinking of posting a poll of whether I'm a bad mother, good mother or typical mother. Good thing I don't know how to do that since I'm afraid of the answers.
Anyway, Happy Monday everyone!!!
Everything was going quite well - we know oldest daughter who is in third grade is not a morning person, so we keep things going as smoothly as possible by making sure backpacks and clothes are taken care of the night before school. Well, today everything was fine until she couldn't find her denim jacket. She has a brand new late fall jacket but she didn't want to wear it because she was wearing a hooded sweat jacket and hates wearing hoods with that...whatever. So she's running around the house panicking and making everyone else (me, DD7, DS3) miserable because she didn't put it away in the first place. She was told to look in the closet, in her room and in the car...which she supposedly did. This has been a recurring theme with her lately. Over the weekend, she couldn't find her shin guards for her soccer game (left them in the car) and did the exact same thing because it was "everyone else's fault. It was so bad that we punished her by having her sit out the first half of the game (DH is coach). Well, we thought she learned her lesson.
Now she's yelling that she won't wear any jacket and I'm calmly telling her "Fine, but if you get cold I can't help you...and if the lunch ladies don't let you outside for recess because they think you'll be too cold - you've made your choice." She starts crying "you don't understand" and runs into another tantrum. Finally I say time to go the bus stop which is at the end of our long driveway. She starts screaming again while my youngest daughter and son calmly walk down. Before we head out of the garage, I notice there's a denim jacket in the car.
I'm tempted to not give it to her, but I do and remind her that she made everyone else miserable because she didn't put it away. She should apologize to her brother and sister. We get the screamed "SORRY". Then I lose it, grab her by the arm and tell her to knock it off...and some other things I'm not thrilled about. She was calmer and we talked a little more by the time the bus came, but I hate to see any kid start off the school day by getting on the bus so upset and sensitive. She is normally a great kid and student. The teachers tell me she is so sweet and they have to tell her to raise her voice because she is so softspoken.
I guess I should be happy she saves her rage for home. Sorry I had to vent. This is the kid I am most unsure at dealing with because she and I are alike in MANY ways. I'm always questioning if I could have handled things better with her. I'm thinking of posting a poll of whether I'm a bad mother, good mother or typical mother. Good thing I don't know how to do that since I'm afraid of the answers.
Anyway, Happy Monday everyone!!!
to help you get through this.
I guess it could be - although she's very active, has no fat on her and has a mom who didn't start her period until 14. 
