9 Days out and second guessing every plan I've made

[Mermaid02]

Our trip is in 9 days and now I'm second guessing it all.... resort choice (WLV) which days I've chosen to go to each park- every fast pass I've made and ALL of my ADRs.... ESPECIALLY the ADRs. Does anyone else do this? As Elsa would say, I'm trying to "Let it go" but I have never been so anxious about a trip before. Perhaps because my boyfriend has only been once YEARS ago and I'm hoping he'll love it as much as I do. I hope he's not disappointed. Can anyone relate?

 

[verleniahall]

BREATHE. - I think that you are correct - you are hoping that your bf has a great time and you are putting alot of pressure on yourself and your decisions.

On the other hand - we were changing ADR's ON our trip, and I was doing the same as you - second guessing EVERYTHING - just breathe and relax - you will have a great time

 

[DisneyWishes14]

It sounds like you have put a lot of thought into the trip and, remember, you can always change things (FP+, ADR's) when you are down there if he or you want to switch things up! As verleniahall said, try to breathe and try to enjoy. It's lovely that you want your BF to enjoy your trip, but, try to keep in mind, you can't control someone's thoughts. If he isn't enjoying particular things, switch it up! And remember, it's your trip, too! I think if you are relaxed and excited, the feeling may be contagious!

 

[Tomh]

No trip will EVER be perfect! Things go wrong, weather doesn't cooperate, rides break down when you expect to be on them, stuff happens.

Two trips ago, we drove from NY to Florida, left NY at 2:00 am, broke down in Maryland at 7:00 am. By the time they fixed the car, it was nearly noon the NEXT day when we got going. As a result, we missed our overnight stay in Georgia, and a lunch at Dixie Crossroads. Our overnight stay at Caribe Royale didn't start until 2:00 am. Next up, I got a case of gout that left me miserable for nearly a week. We got absolutely drenched waiting to get into the villains party at DHS, car broke down again on one of our non park days, causing us to miss going to Old Town for the car show there, and dinner at DTD. Then, DW, DS and I all got sick pretty much for 48 hours each. We still managed to enjoy our selves, and have fun.

So then, my advice: RELAX!!!! Stop nitpicking your plans, accept the fact that things can, and will go wrong. When they DO, don't get upset about it, just work around it, and have FUN!

 

[LSUfan4444]

Our trip is in 9 days and now I'm second guessing it all.... resort choice (WLV) which days I've chosen to go to each park- every fast pass I've made and ALL of my ADRs.... ESPECIALLY the ADRs. Does anyone else do this? As Elsa would say, I'm trying to "Let it go" but I have never been so anxious about a trip before. Perhaps because my boyfriend has only been once YEARS ago and I'm hoping he'll love it as much as I do. I hope he's not disappointed. Can anyone relate?

If you think you're stressed now, just wait until Disney changes something. I am all for planning but not everything will go and be perfect. Expect some change and plan for variability. Hours will change, someone will get sick, your flight may be delayed, an attraction will not be open, you may miss a FP+ window, etc etc etc...SOMETHING WILL HAPPEN!

Do not let success be determined by what happens to you but rather by how you react to it. Leave some flexibility. The most successful people in just about any area are the ones who have goals and a detailed plan on how to get there BUT can scrap their plans at a moments notice and still be successful.

 

[balletomane]

I second guess everything. But, then I remember that I initially thought it out very well *before* I made any reservations and it should all be fine. I read these boards and see that others don't like this ride or that restaurant and have my "second guesses". You know what? Oranges and apples are perfect fruits, but not 100% of the people are going to like them. If your BF doesn't appreciate all the hard work and care you have put into your trip, and is unhappy, it's time to look for a new BF, IMO.

 

[Mermaid02]

Thanks everyone! Tom and I have been together for over a year but now it's a long distance relationship and just being together will be magical enough! You guys are right... no matter what happens it's going to be a GREAT trip!

 

[Mermaid02]

He's really the most laid back, go with the flow man I have ever met. Every morning is "great" I've never met anyone with such a positive attitude (opposites attract I guess...LOL) ... He'll love it all I'm sure!

 

[Jadyreen1282]

There's medicine for this I think. It's called Glenlivet.

 

[ForeverAlice]

I can definitely relate! I do the same thing all the way up to the night before the ADR or FP trying to decide to keep it, or choose something else and cancel! You will have a blast and I am sure you have a amazing trip planned!

 

[Matty_Disfan]

I'm a year out and desperately altering my schedule on a daily basis.

 

[poppinspenguins]

I don't want to sound like I am giving relationship advice...so please don't take it that way

If he is a laid back guy he might enjoy a more low key visit? Not Uber planned.

I am not an Uber planner. We usually only do 2 table service a visit. I picked fast passes the last trip...but didn't get around to it til a week or 2 after I could start making them.

I.am a very organized ocd person in real life...but it's nice to have a break from that.
Maybe take at least one day and just "go with the flow"...wake up and say where do you wanna go today? What do you wanna eat ?(there is some great quick serve out there) have some spontaneity. Something sadly missing at wdw.

I would hate someone first trip to be over planned and thus not enjoyable. Disney can be super overwhelming to adults as much as kids. We have gone with friends and I found myself fretting the whole time.hoping they were enjoying it. That is not a fun feeling. So maybe give him some of the planning parts so he has a say in what he wants to do.

Just my 2 cents. I am very different from most on the boards. I like the rides...but I like the experience of the parks just as much. Just wandering around. Finding fun picture spots, watching the entertainment in epcot (if anything is left haha), be a silly kid on the teacups and ham it up on dumbo

Most of all enjoy your trip

 

[loves to dive]

I don't want to sound like I am giving relationship advice...so please don't take it that way

If he is a laid back guy he might enjoy a more low key visit? Not Uber planned.

I am not an Uber planner. We usually only do 2 table service a visit. I picked fast passes the last trip...but didn't get around to it til a week or 2 after I could start making them.

I.am a very organized ocd person in real life...but it's nice to have a break from that.
Maybe take at least one day and just "go with the flow"...wake up and say where do you wanna go today? What do you wanna eat ?(there is some great quick serve out there) have some spontaneity. Something sadly missing at wdw.

I would hate someone first trip to be over planned and thus not enjoyable. Disney can be super overwhelming to adults as much as kids. We have gone with friends and I found myself fretting the whole time.hoping they were enjoying it. That is not a fun feeling. So maybe give him some of the planning parts so he has a say in what he wants to do.

Just my 2 cents. I am very different from most on the boards. I like the rides...but I like the experience of the parks just as much. Just wandering around. Finding fun picture spots, watching the entertainment in epcot (if anything is left haha), be a silly kid on the teacups and ham it up on dumbo

Most of all enjoy your trip

I agree with this, I don't make ADRs or FP until about a week out if then. Usually it's the night before or the day of. We are real laid back and seat the pants kind of people. Best laid plans and all so our solution is just not to make a whole lot of them. Our last trip was our best by far and it was real relaxed and sort of what do you want to do today sort of trip.

 

[GillianP1301]

I am constantly tweaking and second guessing my plans right up until I arrive, so I can totally relate. I would say that I usually do a major revamp of my plan at least 2 or 3 times from the 180 day mark until departure, usually driven by Disney making a change in something (hours or closures, etc...). But, if it's not a change like that out of necessity, I do try my very best to resist moving stuff around too much. I also remind myself that it's perfectly okay to change a plan on the fly once I'm there and all that planning only helps to be able to more easily shuffle stuff around.

I think it really just comes down to be excited about the trip, imagining how it's going to play out, etc... I would definitely recommend just leaving your plans as they are at this point, I'm sure you have put a ton of thought into them and it will all pay off in a wonderful vacation.

 

[MommaBerd]

Several years ago DH and I decided to do an adult-only trip for a four day weekend. We had been before with all the kids, but this was our first time staying on property and sort of "splurging." Now, I knew my DH really likes Disney, but I was so intent on making it "perfect". I had super-high expectations for the rooms (should have been more realistic). When we didn't get one of my requests (king bed), had issues with getting into our rooms and charging privileges, etc. it pushed me over the edge and I was SO stressed out. It was a good and memorable trip, but I wish I had not put so much pressure on myself! DH is laid-back and eternally optimistic and he just rolled with it. But because I had done all the planning and had this vision as to how things were *supposed* to be, I was stressed when things went wrong or not according to plan.

SO, I will echo PPs and say RELAX enjoy being with your BF in such a happy place. If things don't go as planned, just roll with it and try to find the humor in it.

 

[gwek]

Don't sweat it. Any trip to Disney is magical!

In "normal" life, my wife is more of a planner than I am (although we both fall very much on that side of the line) but when we're on vacation, she relaxes more and is pretty laid back (we joke that, for Disney at least, everything up to packing is my responsibility, then she takes over briefly, then, once the last bag is shut, I'm "on" again, until we have to pack to come home).

With that in mind, my advice to you is this: whatever plans you've made are good, and will be lots of fun. What MIGHT be problematic is if you stress too much during the trip, especially if he's very laid back. Roll with it. Trust that you've planned properly. Enjoy the plan AND the detours. And don't get too stressed when the plan doesn't work perfectly. Because it won't. There's always going to be one meal you're late for, or one narrowly missed FastPass, or one event that's just too long a walk at the end of the day, or one day where the bus is 15 minutes late getting you to the park.

Speaking as someone who has planned out almost every detail of three consecutive trips for my family (my wife and daughter on all three, plus my parents on one and my cousin and his wife on another), most days, just being in the Magic Kingdom with your loved one(s) is enough.

 

[Vylette Rose]

Just trying to be another calming voice- You will be fine! You are going to WDW with your love, nothing else matters!!

 

[Quellman]

If you shuttle your boyfriend around he will miss the experience, which in turn creates the love of Disney. Your plans are fine. You know how to call an audible, but also let your traveling partner make some choices.

 

[Nancyg56]

Thanks everyone! Tom and I have been together for over a year but now it's a long distance relationship and just being together will be magical enough! You guys are right... no matter what happens it's going to be a GREAT trip!

Stop worrying. The trip will be fine, and all he will remember is spending the vacation with you in your happy place. You know that this is not the trip you are worrying about, so just remember that the first priority is being together, and after that it's all a bonus.

Have fun, enjoy your time together, and the rest will fall into place.

 

[wrighteous]

I was just like you when planning my trip with my boyfriend last September. I hadn't been to WDW in about 10 years, and he hadn't been since he was a child. Thinking this may be our one and only time there together, I too planned endlessly, wanting to make sure we could fit everything in. Fastpasses were changed endlessly leading up to our trip, ADRs were cancelled last minute, etc. Plus, we were both sick the first few days!

But like yours, my boyfriend is laid back and enjoys just being in the moment. He was just happy to be there. Honestly, his favorite thing was riding Space Mountain. Seriously, he could have just done that and said it was a great trip lol! But it was our best trip ever, and we had such a great time, that we are going back this September! This one will be much more relaxed lol.

I say don't overplan too much, be flexible, and just remember where you are and take it all in! You're going to have a great time! ENJOY!