4 year old doesn't want to go...

[maxiesmom]

I have come to the conclusion that people are high strung and literal on these boards. LOL...

People should be literal on these boards! Trips to WDW costs thousands of dollars, if people want advice they need to be clear when they ask questions, so that they don't end up angry over wasted money. Being non-literal can cause huge problems and set people up for disappointment.

Example: Someone posts asking how the long the lines are in March. Person A replies: They are great, I walked on everything! Person B replies: I had short waits for all rides, less than 15 minutes! If the person asking the question only saw what Person A stated, they may end up angry that they waited in lines 15 minutes long and feel they wasted their money and had a not so great trip.

It benefits everyone if people are literal and clear when posting.

 

[Pookles]

Yes, but there's also a happy medium. OP, my 4 year old son did the same thing. When we first started talking about it in June or July he was totally against it. He also really had no idea what Disney is or means. Just because we talked about it a ton didn't mean he got it. Seriously, the first time I mentioned it he cried. He also has a flare for the dramatic so that wasn't really unusual.

But we've watched videos of the rides, we've been making it a point whenever we watch a Disney or Pixar movie to point out that we might see them at WDW. Talking about the glow sticks he gets, since he loves them, let him pick some out for the trip. I've been trying to show him some characters, I think I'll actually see if I can find character interactions online and show him that just to prepare him. It's going to be hit or miss there, he may freak when he sees them.

I just asked him if we will have fun at Disney when we go. He said "Yes! We get to see the scrapyard!" He's really into trains. I'm just hoping they're running.

Good luck, I'm sure it will be awesome.

Haha! He just started singing Casey Jr's rolling down the track...

 

[shm_helene]

My daughter was afraid of the airplane at 4/5 so she didn't want to go to Disney. I have a video of our first reveal as she sighed loudly and I swear rolled her eyes when we told her about the plane (we told her it was just a plane ride). We did do all the ride videos as well, she loved it when she was there and asks we every week when we are going back. She had been two years earlier but didn't really remember. To continue my random trains of thought here, she had also recently been to philly on a trip and to the beach and thought that sounded more fun than Disney!

Good luck!!

 

[Shanti]

Dd is getting lots of therapy and working hard both at home, with her therpists at school and with her therapist outside of school to manage her anxiety. She's made huge strides. Anxiety is still a part of her life and she's still a homebody, but I'm happy to report, she's managing a lot better.

Edited to add: dd's diagnosis is new, but we've had our suspicions over the years. Some things we give on and some things we don't. For instance, Big Sister is in marching band and we got to the football games. Little dd hates football games and doesn't want to go, but that's not an option. We bring things along with us to help her tolerate the game, but she goes.

Sounds like you're doing great with her!

 

[Allison]

I have come to the conclusion that people are high strung and literal on these boards. LOL...


You are concerned I'm sure why he wouldn't want to go. Which I would be as well. I mean, he's 4! haha and laughing and joking about his "mental illness" is not making fun or making light of the illness. Goooooooooooood GOLLIE people! I assure you that those are the same people that the Facebook posts that say "Good Morning America. How can I offend you today?" are about.. lol..... I bet those are the ones that get offended over every little thing. I have family members who have mental illnesses and I didn't see you say anything wrong.

I'm sorry but you can't "assure" anything. You don't know people and personal attacks are not allowed.

 

[Shonte Durrett]

People should be literal on these boards! Trips to WDW costs thousands of dollars, if people want advice they need to be clear when they ask questions, so that they don't end up angry over wasted money. Being non-literal can cause huge problems and set people up for disappointment.

Example: Someone posts asking how the long the lines are in March. Person A replies: They are great, I walked on everything! Person B replies: I had short waits for all rides, less than 15 minutes! If the person asking the question only saw what Person A stated, they may end up angry that they waited in lines 15 minutes long and feel they wasted their money and had a not so great trip.

It benefits everyone if people are literal and clear when posting.

True... I get that. I guess it's since I am a very sarcastic person. I don't know why... I joke and kid around 24/7. It's hard for someone like me to post on the boards and everyone take me serious when I wasn't. lol.... Something I sooooo need to work on or just not type! I just notice when someone is kidding and it upsets me for them when they get "belittled" because others didn't understand her/his joke.

It's like one of my kids when she gets nervous, she rambles & laughs at serious stuff happening and people think she's disrespectful or mental because her reaction is different...It's her tick. Others don't understand it because they personally don't do it. They are quick to judge on something they don't understand because it's not normal for them. It's just her way to keep from bawling or getting depressed n' sad. It took me a while to understand it. At first I would scold her but I soon realized what she was doing.

I'm sorry but you can't "assure" anything. You don't know people and personal attacks are not allowed.

I have no real comment....^^^ Cause I have no clue as to who I personally attacked. I do know I was attacked a lot yesterday by others and when I reply, I'm the bad gal....??? Where did that come from? lol

I am sorry if you were "OFFENDED". I didn't intend to personally call anyone out. Didn't realize I did. I was trying to make a person feel better for others jabbing at her like she was a bad mom for what they thought was letting a 4 yr old call the shots and making a joke of mental illness. I'm not one to judge how a mother raises her kid. She didn't have many taking up for her and chose to do it.

 

[hopeful4fl]

Different perspective. I think he has a loving aunt, who sugars him up and he loves that. Disney may still be an unknown to the young un and he needs the trip to get hooked.
As for giving in to his demand to stay with the aunt. I think (my opinion only and not to direct how to parent your child) it sets a bad precedent.

 

[Ladygoldenhair]

What is going on with this kid!? He keeps saying he doesn't want to go and he wants to stay at his aunt's house. Does he have a mental illness I don't know about? Seriously though....what should I do? My sister I'm sure wouldn't mind keeping him for the week but I don't want him missing out on our vacation. I also don't want him at the last minute wanting to go while we're walking out the door. I don't get it!

I had one at about 5 really didn't want to go. We went, and it was miserable. She was afraid of the characters, so we avoided them. She didn't want us on the rides that looked scary, freaky, had the Presidents, pirates, ghost, and no dark rides. So it was the train around the park, It's a small world, Minnie and Mickey's houses, She hated Pooh's ride but tried it.

Miserable trip! We waited until she was 7 and it was fine again. She just had herself all worked up that things were scary and not pleasant to view and no talking her out of it at that age. I would rethink this trip and attempt next year. It's just something about a phase some kids go through.

He could be anxious about traveling away from his home, the big unknowns are just too much to process. It is a phase I hope and not a hint of some anxiety issues.