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[edk35]

Called dh and asked if he could check the grocery store by his work for the Welch's sparkling white grape juice for my son to have tonight at midnight. I didn't find it earlier today when I was out. He came home with it....along with Glade Candle car air freshners that you hang up in your car. We never use these. LOL Styrofoam cups and barbecue chips. LOL Those were an individual size bag he munched on ...on his way home. He just can't get what is on the list but I love him just the same. LOLLLLL

 

[TheSchragFamily]

My husband is a grown man and frequently does the grocery shopping all by himself with minimal guidance from me. He will usually text or call to see if there is anything I'd like to add to the running list we keep in the kitchen, but that's about it. If I don't care for a brand he purchased, I let him know and he avoids it the next time. If he sees something on sale or something that looks better than a kind we've used before, he gets it and we try it. It's not a huge deal. He is responsible and knows our budget and generally does a fantastic job. If your husband has no idea of your budget, that's a problem. If you didn't provide some sort of instruction on price limits/brands, that's a problem. If you are controlling for no reason, that's a problem, too. The only thing I would not be happy about is the different cat food, but our cat is on a prescription diet which can only be purchased at the vet's office...which he takes care of since it's near his office.

 

[sk!mom]

My DH is not stupid as everyone seems to assume. He knows what kind of juice we drink, what size and brand of cat food we use, and what we needed the supplies for. He just didn't pay attention to the prices.

Go back and reread op. you made your DH sound stupid and incompetent in your original post. I only responded because I felt sorry for the poor guy getting beat up on for not some how reading your mind and getting exactly what you wanted.

 

[Planogirl]

My DH only shops occasionally but when he does I usually don't tell him what to buy. He can decide for himself with the only exception being when I ask him to bring a particular something and then I spell it out.

 

[edk35]

OP .... I learned a long time ago I cannot vent about anything on the Dis. Some love to tear it in to shreds and turn it into a much bigger problem than it is.

TRUE



Yep some love to the pot.

 

[scbelleatheart]

Grocery shopping gives me a chance to escape my children.

I'm happy to go alone!

A big Yes to this! I never took my kids grocery shopping.
That said, DH shops better than I do sometimes! We both have favorites we will only buy, just like the recipes passed along to us that specify a brand to use. I guess after a few years you just know what the other would prefer.

 

[bumbershoot]

He knows what kind of juice we drink, what size and brand of cat food we use, and what we needed the supplies for. He just didn't pay attention to the prices.

But didn't you say he bought the wrong cat food? And maybe the juice (can't recall right now)? I mean...what happened, if he knew all this, including the budget?

TRUE



Yep some love to the pot.

Alternatively, some of us feel one of two ways:

1. If you are going to be so strict about the money that goes out and the foods that come in, you MUST arm the proxy-shopper with a detailed list.

or

2. If the proxy shopper knows the brands, sizes, budget, and REASONS for the shopping trip, and comes home with wrong items, wrong sizes, and far too expensive items, maybe *something* is going on.

When DH and I were engaged, we had weird things happening that ultimately did show a problem in our relationship. For some other couple it might not have been a big deal; for us, it was. If I knew 100% that DH knew all of the things the OP says her husband knows, but he came home with completely wrong items, it would be a sign of problems for us. Maybe we were having problems again...maybe he wasn't listening (which is a problem for me that might be bigger for me than it is for others...just my thing, I like to be *heard*)...maybe he's distracted from junk at work and it's weighing on his mind and keeping his ears closed or his mind shut. All I know is that if something like that happened in my household, it would, indeed, mean something.

It has nothing to do with stirring any pot, but rather expressing our opinions.

 

[Marionnette]

Go back and reread op. you made your DH sound stupid and incompetent in your original post. I only responded because I felt sorry for the poor guy getting beat up on for not some how reading your mind and getting exactly what you wanted.

Agreed! And it's probably why the OP went back and edited out the thread title.

But at least the OP won't have only Ramen noodles and PB to eat for the next week or so. She will also have apple and cherry pies.

 

[sk!mom]

Agreed! And it's probably why the OP went back and edited out the thread title.

But at least the OP won't have only Ramen noodles and PB to eat for the next week or so. She will also have apple and cherry pies.

 

[Allison]

Agreed! And it's probably why the OP went back and edited out the thread title.

Which by doing that she draws even more attention to the thread.

 

[andysomma1]

 

[Lilo&Stitch]

OP isn't it funny how you come on here just to share and maybe have someone to sympathize with you and wham !! All the I'm better than you DIS'Rs come out and tear you down bit by bit ! Honestly I don't know what's wrong with people that they can't just let you vent a bit well I get what your saying and I sympathize with you !! You know your husband and you know he should have been more careful with budgeting the groceries and I completely sympathize with you !!! Happy New Year to you and don't let the "I'm perfect" DIS 'Rs get you down, obviously it makes them feel better to cut you down

 

[North of Mouse]

OP isn't it funny how you come on here just to share and maybe have someone to sympathize with you and wham !! All the I'm better than you DIS'Rs come out and tear you down bit by bit ! Honestly I don't know what's wrong with people that they can't just let you vent a bit well I get what your saying and I sympathize with you !! You know your husband and you know he should have been more careful with budgeting the groceries and I completely sympathize with you !!! Happy New Year to you and don't let the "I'm perfect" DIS 'Rs get you down, obviously it makes them feel better to cut you down

 

[disney4us2002]

OP isn't it funny how you come on here just to share and maybe have someone to sympathize with you and wham !! All the I'm better than you DIS'Rs come out and tear you down bit by bit ! Honestly I don't know what's wrong with people that they can't just let you vent a bit well I get what your saying and I sympathize with you !! You know your husband and you know he should have been more careful with budgeting the groceries and I completely sympathize with you !!! Happy New Year to you and don't let the "I'm perfect" DIS 'Rs get you down, obviously it makes them feel better to cut you down

Insane how so many are quick to tell you that you have budget and marital issues over one stupid trip to the market. Wow!

Happy New Year!

 

[LilyWDW]

I live near where the OP does... and the amount the husband spent seems about right for this area. So, not too sure what the whole issue is. If the OP doesn't want to trust the husband to do the shopping, then they shouldn't. Period. Instead of beating up on the poor guy on the internet...

 

[cinderwannabe]

OP isn't it funny how you come on here just to share and maybe have someone to sympathize with you and wham !! All the I'm better than you DIS'Rs come out and tear you down bit by bit ! Honestly I don't know what's wrong with people that they can't just let you vent a bit well I get what your saying and I sympathize with you !! You know your husband and you know he should have been more careful with budgeting the groceries and I completely sympathize with you !!! Happy New Year to you and don't let the "I'm perfect" DIS 'Rs get you down, obviously it makes them feel better to cut you down

 

[Nina1]

OP isn't it funny how you come on here just to share and maybe have someone to sympathize with you and wham !! All the I'm better than you DIS'Rs come out and tear you down bit by bit ! Honestly I don't know what's wrong with people that they can't just let you vent a bit well I get what your saying and I sympathize with you !! You know your husband and you know he should have been more careful with budgeting the groceries and I completely sympathize with you !!! Happy New Year to you and don't let the "I'm perfect" DIS 'Rs get you down, obviously it makes them feel better to cut you down

This is so true. The meanness on these boards never ceases to amaze me. I thought this was a board to share ideas and a love of Disney? I enjoy reading the constructive ideas/suggestions, but it always seems to come down to meanness. It is so tiring. I have cut down on my Dis time because of this. I guess these people never had a mama who told them if they don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all. OP, I understand what you were trying to say and I suspect most of the people who made nasty comments did, too. Don't take it personally. Actually, who cares, really, what a stranger thinks? Look at it this way...some people only are happy when they think they are being mean to someone else. So, you made a lot of sad little people happy with your post. Happy new year!!!