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[figment fan21]

Perfect! thats all you can do! Thats what DF keeps saying to me... just send out the invite... if they come they come... if they dont forget 'em!

 

[Boardwalk_bride]

I totally know what you mean about the reunion thing! Since almost everyone coming to my event lives in different cities now, they are more excited to see each other and "party" than about specific wedding stuff.....which leaves me in the "pity party" with you! It sucks that people make us feel like that, even though they may not necessarily see it that way! Invite whoever you want to come, and whoever shows up to the dinner will be the people who want to be there!

 

[MainStMandy]

Perfect! thats all you can do! Thats what DF keeps saying to me... just send out the invite... if they come they come... if they dont forget 'em!

I totally know what you mean about the reunion thing! Since almost everyone coming to my event lives in different cities now, they are more excited to see each other and "party" than about specific wedding stuff.....which leaves me in the "pity party" with you! It sucks that people make us feel like that, even though they may not necessarily see it that way! Invite whoever you want to come, and whoever shows up to the dinner will be the people who want to be there!

I know you girls are right...I'm just gonna have to get over this. I guess Dawn was right that I am overreacting...feelings still hurt, but overreacting

You girls rock

 

[Chilly]

So I just mentioned this to my mom and she was also very suprised about them not attending dinner. We are still going to plan something and I guess I will leave it up to his parents if they want to attend or not

I think that is the best solution, go ahead with it and invite them and then leave it up to them what they want to do. Given that we are all on this board its taken that we love weddings and not just our own, but a lot of other people simply aren't interested.

 

[GoonieBride]

its okay to have a pity party every now and then. why you may ask, because it means your thinking of yourself for once instead of everyone else.

 

[DisneyBrideToni]

I think I was the opposite. After the tea party I wanted everyone to leave so I could relax by myself.

 

[pezaddict231]

I think the best thing is to just invite her and see what happens. She may really have not realized you planned to go to dinner before the DP.

 

[MainStMandy]

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[figment fan21]

Those came out awesome!!!!! I love them! the hidden mickey fireworks is adorable!

 

[MainStMandy]

Those came out awesome!!!!! I love them! the hidden mickey fireworks is adorable!

Thanks!! Lauren and I were pretty proud of ourselves I can't wait to do the wedding invites!

 

[Boardwalk_bride]

Those look soooooo great!! Excellent job ladies!!!! (Maybe you can cross the border and help me make my invitations )

 

[DisneyDmbNut]

The regret line is very cute!

Good luck with the red hair..I did mine before my surgery in March because I felt the need for a change..it is hard to maintain. It washes out much faster and I use a Redken shampoo that deposits color. Everyone says it looks so much better, but I kinda wish I had stuck to a low maintenance color!

 

[shippedtosea]

They look great! I'm a big fan of doing it yourself

 

[MainStMandy]

Those look soooooo great!! Excellent job ladies!!!! (Maybe you can cross the border and help me make my invitations )

Thanks!! I keep trying to get Lauren to sell invitations with me (They wouldn't be crooked, lol!)

The regret line is very cute!

Good luck with the red hair..I did mine before my surgery in March because I felt the need for a change..it is hard to maintain. It washes out much faster and I use a Redken shampoo that deposits color. Everyone says it looks so much better, but I kinda wish I had stuck to a low maintenance color!

Betsy I love the red! Mine is more of a reddish brown and I don't mind if it fades as we get closer to the wedding, but I know how you feel!

They look great! I'm a big fan of doing it yourself

Thanks! They turned out pretty good.

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

Love the invites...soo cute!

 

[Lindsay22]

Mandy.
My MIL didn't attend my rehearsal. That's right. The rehearsal. DHs grandmother, grandfather, aunt, uncle (best man), brother (groomsman), sister (bridesmaid) and two cousins (ring bearers) were all a half hour late.

I have found that for most couples, the groom's family isn't nearly as involved with wedding planning as the brides family is. My in laws didn't care about my dress, the BM dresses and I had to threaten them before they would go get measured for their tuxes.

In the end, it doesn't matter. This day isn't about them. It's about you and Eric. I'll always remember that MIL didn't come to our rehearsal, but did it make our day any less special? No.

You need to make your peace with this now. Make your peace with the fact that they just aren't going to get excited about the wedding. Believe me.

Also, another little story for you: DHs family wasn't into wedding planning. They are also not into planning for baby. It's the first grandchild. The first great grandchild. They said congratulations, and that was pretty much it. (In fact, they have said that the only time they plan to see the baby is when we bring it to NJ- we're in FL) I'm sure that when it's time for a baby shower, they won't be into that either. I'm REALLY glad that I made my peace with their lack of interest during the wedding, because I'm sure that if I didn't I would be having a really hard time right now. I know your FMIL wants you to have kids soon, well so did mine. And she's not as excited as people think she should be

Sorry this was long.

 

[MainStMandy]

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[DisneyDmbNut]

I think that is the problem with destination weddings in general. People are bound to use it as a vacation too. It is just natural..especially if you are in Disney. I wouldn't take it personal. I would actually be happy to NOT feel the need to entertain everyone all the time.

 

[Boardwalk_bride]

Thanks for sharing that Lindsay and congratulations! I'm trying very hard not to take it personal. I know his mom is excited to see her family and I don't want to detract from that. And I'm worried more about Eric than I am about my own feelings...I hate that his parents aren't interested. His best man isn't either and he told me how much that hurts his feelings. We do have to remember when it comes down to it, it's about us and I need to stop stressing about other people. Thanks again!!!

I think this is why we all like these boards so much...so we can b**** about other people! Honestly, I take EVERYTHING personally, so I totally understand. Two of my BM's seem to have zero interest, which totally sucks, since I am spending money for them to be there! It does hurt that people show a totally lack of interest for what will be the most important day of your life. But like you said, you have to remember this day is for the 2 of you. And chances are, when people see everything you have planned that day, they will prob be pretty excited (on the wedding day).

I agree with Lindsay, make peace with it now! The first four months of our engagement DF and I suffered through this...now we just gave up on everyone, and started doing everything for ourselves! It feels good!! (Well, I still get upset sometimes, but you get it)

 

[Boardwalk_bride]

I would actually be happy to NOT feel the need to entertain everyone all the time.

That's a GREAT way to look at it!!!