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[LuvOrlando]

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[lemondog]

I said yes, but it depends.

First, they would have to be VERY good friends. I can count on one hand the number of friends whose kids I would take in.

Second, they would have to somehow contribute monetarily. It would not be easy for us to take on 2 or 3 more kids to feed, clothe, etc.

Third, they would have to be actively seeking a new place to live or arrangements where the kids could return to them. Not exactly a time limit, but I would make it clear this was not an indefinite situation.

 

[bearynice]

I would take the kids in a heartbeat, but I have to wonder about parents who can't come up with SOME other arrangement that lets them stay with their kids.

 

[Handbag Lady]

Yes, without questions or stipulations.

 

[Erin1700]

I would take my nephew in a heartbeat, but probably not other children. We just could not afford it and do not have the space.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Yes, of course. Sleeping arrangements would not be ideal for them, because we have no extra bedrooms, but depending on the age and gender, they could sleep with our kids.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

I voted no, but only because I have a house full already. I would take the kids in if things were different here, or if it would only be for a short amount of time. Now if it were a family member, I would do what ever it took to help.

 

[Bluestars]

Yes, but...

They would have to be either relatives or very close friends. I would not take in friends of friends or anything like that.

Also, I wouldn't tolerate teenagers bringing drugs into my house. If someone had a substance abuse problem, I would really have to think about if it could work.

The last thing is that it would have to be for a certain amount of time. I would not want someone's kids to live with me until they were 18.

 

[mickeyboat]

I would under the right circumstances for the right people.

Years ago my grandmother had three small children when she was placed in a sanitarium for TB. My uncles went to one friend's house and my mother to another. It was tough for all involved, but wonderful once the family was able to be reunited again.

 

[TaraPA]

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Yes, without questions or stipulations.

Can I have your address? I'll send mine right over!

Seriously - what a good heart you have!

 

[Cool-Beans]

Yup. I took one in for a short period many years ago...I still have her. She's mine now. Be aware that this may happen.

I took another one in when he was two, but I intended on keeping him.

After DD, DH put his foot down. No more kids. Can't save everyone. Blah, blah, blah. Said I took in kids like some people take in cats. Have to respect that - he gets a say, too. Plus, we're old and have 2 in college and 2 in high school.

I'll wait until these four are on their feet before taking in any more kids.

I did take in a cat, though.

Poor DH.

 

[C.Ann]

Yes - I would.. But there would have to be stipulations or it could turn into a real nightmare.. DD & her DH did this for a friend and her little 3 yr. old DD in 2007.. It ended very, very badly - and a 20+ year friendship is now over because of it..

DD's DH has said never again - unless it's a close family member.. He was very, very hurt by how this thing turned out.. As long as he has known this woman, that old saying is true - "You never really know someone until you live with them.." - or in this case, they live with you!

 

[freckles and boo]

Under extreme circumstances, but first I would try to accommodate the entire family. Children need their parents.

 

[Handbag Lady]

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Can I have your address? I'll send mine right over!

Seriously - what a good heart you have!

A saint, no.

Of course, they'd have to play by my rules as far as children go. Homework done each night, clean their own living spaces (with help), and I'd expect them to be a part of my family which means go to DL once every two months or so and they must have sights on college. And jokes at dinner are mandatory.

I saw the other poster about drug use from teens. Not in my house. I'd ban the drugs but not the kids.

I've been dying to have kids, can you tell?

 

[JodyLynC]

Absolutely! What a terrifying time it would be for the children. I would make sure that if nothing else, they have a place to come home to. We don't have extra beds, but we would work it out.

 

[Mkrop]

Some over 55 places will accomodate children in extreme circumstances, they should double check that, there would be a timeline as well, it could not be a premanent siutation as far as I know.

 

[Cool-Beans]

Under extreme circumstances, but first I would try to accommodate the entire family. Children need their parents.

Depends on the parent. Parents who tie the 1yo's door closed at night so that they can stay up drinking and drugging and sleep all day, then when they finally roll out of bed start screaming at the kid for crying or wanting to eat...

Parents who scream at the kid every time they bother to acknowledge the kid exists...

Parents who hit a 1yo hard enough to leave bruises...

Parents who are just plain nuts on top of their drug/alcohol problems and berate the child, saying insane/cruel/untrue things and threaten them with bizarre bodily harm - torture-type stuff...

I'm not sure kids need those parents.

In fact, I think kids are better off without them.

God knows there are enough kids out there who need loving homes. Someone has to flippin take them in. Well, I guess they don't. Homes for troubled kids are filled with kids people don't want to help. It's so sad.

I don't know what the people in the OP's post are like. But there is always the chance that the OP will end up keeping these kids. A few weeks turns into a few years and turns into For Good. I had no idea what DD had lived through when I first agreed to keep her for a while. Food for thought before taking them in just for a bit.

 

[TaraPA]

I've been dying to have kids, can you tell?

I'll offer again....I have 2 boys that I can put on a plane to CA tonight...



I just started a new thread on the Community Board after reading this regarding some guardianship issies with a family member. It has absolutely nothing to do with this thread or these circumstances, but if anyone has any experience with guardianship please take a look at my thread & feel free to comment or give me advice.

 

[freckles and boo]

Depends on the parent. Parents who tie the 1yo's door closed at night so that they can stay up drinking and drugging and sleep all day, then when they finally roll out of bed start screaming at the kid for crying or wanting to eat...

Parents who scream at the kid every time they bother to acknowledge the kid exists...

Parents who hit a 1yo hard enough to leave bruises...

Parents who are just plain nuts on top of their drug/alcohol problems and berate the child, saying insane/cruel/untrue things and threaten them with bizarre bodily harm - torture-type stuff...

I'm not sure kids need those parents.

In fact, I think kids are better off without them.

God knows there are enough kids out there who need loving homes. Someone has to flippin take them in. Well, I guess they don't. Homes for troubled kids are filled with kids people don't want to help. It's so sad.

I don't know what the people in the OP's post are like. But there is always the chance that the OP will end up keeping these kids. A few weeks turns into a few years and turns into For Good. I had no idea what DD had lived through when I first agreed to keep her for a while. Food for thought before taking them in just for a bit.

I totally agree with you. And I admire you for stepping up. But if there is no abuse and they are asking the OP to take the kids purely for economic reasons then I would probably try to keep the family together.

 

[Cool-Beans]

I totally agree with you. And I admire you for stepping up. But if there is no abuse and they are asking the OP to take the kids purely for economic reasons then I would probably try to keep the family together.

When they asked if DD could stay with me, I could have offered to let them stay, too. But I knew there was something off about them. Didn't want them in my house.

I didn't know at the time what a raving lunatic that mother of hers was, but I knew there was something up with those people that I didn't want to be involved in.

I felt badly for DD, though. So, in she came. And in she stayed.

Keeping a normal family together is admirable. But I can (having lived it) TOTALLY understand why a person would be willing to take in a kid and not the parents. And why a person would keep a child as long as the child needed keeping.