2026 Destash: Time to Purge the Urge of Keeping Clutter

Does anyone have a great organization solution for their home desks? I can't seem to find a great system to organize all the mail/paperwork that needs attention, but just not immediate attention.
 
They were handed down from her grandmother. Her grandmother used to display them every Christmas. I'd be divorced if I tried to sell/give away even a single one. Same thing with other heirlooms that were handed down to us by grandparents and parents. That's just stuff you can't get rid of.

For example, I have a framed US flag that flew over the US Capitol that was presented to my grandfather. It's in a box right now because we don't have anywhere to display it. But we're never getting rid of it, just like we're never getting rid of the framed piece with all of his service medals.
It might be reasonable to have your wife pick half a dozen or so favorites, then sell the rest. Especially if you're trying to pare down, build a nest egg, etc. I bet there's a market for them (TBH, I haven't looked).

On a sort-of similar note, when my MIL died in 2017, DH inherited thousands of shares of a particular stock. His dad worked for the company for decades, so the shares have sentimental value to DH, beyond their face value. The problem we have is, the company is doing okay, but not great, we'd be better off diversifying (more), and selling at least some of the shares. In fact, if DH's parents came back from the dead, they'd (figuratively) smack him upside the head for being sentimental about an investment. I asked DH the question--how many shares do you need to feel sentimental about? Does it have to be 10,000? Could it be 1,000? 100? We aren't hurting for cash, but using that money to, say, pay for college for our kids would be very much in keeping with his parents' philosophy and life goals.
 
Does anyone have a great organization solution for their home desks? I can't seem to find a great system to organize all the mail/paperwork that needs attention, but just not immediate attention.

I used something like this- I liked it b/c I could roll it wherever I needed to. I used stickers to label the drawers for quick reference. I liked the drawer method so much that when we renovated our primary bedroom closet (it's big enough I have a desk in it-we call it 'the clo-fice' :teeth: ') I had California closets put in a small niche of shelves spaced to fit the drawers. the colors also helped me-red meant immediate attention, pink sooner vs. later and so on. I have individual ones labeled with each family member's name with stuff like health insurance paperwork (school stuff for the kids when they were of that age) for quick access.

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It might be reasonable to have your wife pick half a dozen or so favorites, then sell the rest. Especially if you're trying to pare down, build a nest egg, etc. I bet there's a market for them (TBH, I haven't looked).

On a sort-of similar note, when my MIL died in 2017, DH inherited thousands of shares of a particular stock. His dad worked for the company for decades, so the shares have sentimental value to DH, beyond their face value. The problem we have is, the company is doing okay, but not great, we'd be better off diversifying (more), and selling at least some of the shares. In fact, if DH's parents came back from the dead, they'd (figuratively) smack him upside the head for being sentimental about an investment. I asked DH the question--how many shares do you need to feel sentimental about? Does it have to be 10,000? Could it be 1,000? 100? We aren't hurting for cash, but using that money to, say, pay for college for our kids would be very much in keeping with his parents' philosophy and life goals.

I would'nt want my kids holding on to stuff that I was a collector of when they could financially benefit from them like ridding themselves of debt (or funding an education).

have you caught the new HGTV show-'junk or jackpot'? it was so cool in the first episode when a guy who was an ardent Disney (and pinball machine) collector but had more than he could ever display (and needed the cash and space) witnessed the joy in the eyes of those who purchased some items he had decided to part with. those items meant so much to him but he knew they would mean so much to the people who bought them as well so it was like re-homing them. the update at the end showed he continued to sell off the items he knew he did'nt have the space for. if I collected something like ornaments I would like to think someone was using them.
 

I would'nt want my kids holding on to stuff that I was a collector of when they could financially benefit from them like ridding themselves of debt (or funding an education).

have you caught the new HGTV show-'junk or jackpot'? it was so cool in the first episode when a guy who was an ardent Disney (and pinball machine) collector but had more than he could ever display (and needed the cash and space) witnessed the joy in the eyes of those who purchased some items he had decided to part with. those items meant so much to him but he knew they would mean so much to the people who bought them as well so it was like re-homing them. the update at the end showed he continued to sell off the items he knew he did'nt have the space for. if I collected something like ornaments I would like to think someone was using them.
Very true about the first statement. But I think there's more benefit, in DW's eyes, by hanging it at home in a box than having money. Money can't buy happiness, but having those in a box is happiness. Also, it's like the blanket on the bed. Having those is a security, and it's keeping her grandmother's spirit alive in DW's life. I don't see her getting rid of anything like that. We have something in every room that she had in her house, from furniture to dishes/utensils, to Christmas stuff, etc.

Also, I had never heard of that show. I just Googled it, and we can get it on Discovery+. I might check it out. I love those types of shows (like American Pickers, Toy Hunter, stuff like that).
 
I am brutal with purging. DH not so much. I tried to get my hands on the majority of my parent's stuff and much of that went to the dump and goodwill. He boxed and bagged stuff I didn't grab and now I am going through it in our basement (it has only been there for a week). The labor to get this to our house and into the basement and now dragged back up and disposed of is ridiculous. He just doesn't get it. There are two more rather small, half empty closets to go and though he said he was going to get their mail after work, I'm afraid that stuff will come home too. It needs to be #1 trash, #2 donation, #3 keep (only the VERY SPECIAL or valuable stuff) and #4 give away to family and friends. We did not sell one item. I used this strategy in 2023 when we sold.

We built new in 2023 and doubled our square footage. We bought nearly everything at restore and living in NH and adjacent towns in ME resulted in us getting valuable antiques and vintage furniture for in some cases 95% less than in an antique store (I am a decorator and artist and former antique dealer) and blended in with our great antique pieces from our former house. The house is magazine worthy (some rooms have been featured online through our architect) but mainly construction costs rather than furnishing costs went into the house. Everything has a purpose or design element. Large cupboards are for linens and seasonal items. Rooms are about 50% empty making the house look even larger and showcasing the valuable stuff. I do treasure each unique piece we uncovered and have a story for all of them, however selling the house curated and furnished will unload nearly all the furniture and many seasonal antique items. It is a strategy this house called for (likely will be a seasonal second home) and should we not make a move before we bite the dust, only the personal stuff will need to be cleaned out. If we do sell, only the personal stuff will need to be cleaned out. In any event, planned disposal with the sale of the house is already in place down to the yard equipment.

Whatever your strategy, figure it out now. I know so many people that said they will "clean out" all their stuff and then died. Their kids paid the price cleaning out packed houses and barns. It is the worst thing you can do to your kids. Don't do it.

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My MIL has 3 floors packed to the gills, one reason my husband and I do not visit her. He has talked to her over the years and she won’t get rid of anything and just continues to buy more stuff. She told me not long ago that she enjoys all her things and she is leaving it for her 2 sons to deal with. I am beyond frustrated with this whole situation. MIL is in her late 80s and believe or not she just spent 50,000 on a new kitchen in a hoarded house. I’m definitely not doing this to my children, I’m always purging.
 
Very true about the first statement. But I think there's more benefit, in DW's eyes, by hanging it at home in a box than having money. Money can't buy happiness, but having those in a box is happiness. Also, it's like the blanket on the bed. Having those is a security, and it's keeping her grandmother's spirit alive in DW's life. I don't see her getting rid of anything like that. We have something in every room that she had in her house, from furniture to dishes/utensils, to Christmas stuff, etc.

Also, I had never heard of that show. I just Googled it, and we can get it on Discovery+. I might check it out. I love those types of shows (like American Pickers, Toy Hunter, stuff like that).
Your wife may need professional help for letting go, if she feels she must hold on to so many of her grandmother's things. A few items, of course--we have furniture made by DH's grandfather--one piece will go to each of our children when they move out (we'll pay to have them re-covered). I have a glass fish paperweight that was my father's--I treasure it. I have a lace tablecloth that my grandmother made--priceless and irreplaceable. But--that's it. A box of unused ornaments in the attic isn't giving "security"--it's hoarding.
 
Very true about the first statement. But I think there's more benefit, in DW's eyes, by hanging it at home in a box than having money. Money can't buy happiness, but having those in a box is happiness. Also, it's like the blanket on the bed. Having those is a security, and it's keeping her grandmother's spirit alive in DW's life. I don't see her getting rid of anything like that. We have something in every room that she had in her house, from furniture to dishes/utensils, to Christmas stuff, etc.

I get it-i have odds and ends of primarily kitchen stuff that dates back over 60 years b/c my parents got some cast irons of my grandmother's which I grabbed when my mom passed along with certain bowls I have strong memories of mom using all my childhood.
I am brutal with purging. DH not so much. I tried to get my hands on the majority of my parent's stuff and much of that went to the dump and goodwill. He boxed and bagged stuff I didn't grab and now I am going through it in our basement (it has only been there for a week). The labor to get this to our house and into the basement and now dragged back up and disposed of is ridiculous. He just doesn't get it. There are two more rather small, half empty closets to go and though he said he was going to get their mail after work, I'm afraid that stuff will come home too. It needs to be #1 trash, #2 donation, #3 keep (only the VERY SPECIAL or valuable stuff) and #4 give away to family and friends. We did not sell one item. I used this strategy in 2023 when we sold.

My MIL has 3 floors packed to the gills, one reason my husband and I do not visit her. He has talked to her over the years and she won’t get rid of anything and just continues to buy more stuff. She told me not long ago that she enjoys all her things and she is leaving it for her 2 sons to deal with. I am beyond frustrated with this whole situation. MIL is in her late 80s and believe or not she just spent 50,000 on a new kitchen in a hoarded house. I’m definitely not doing this to my children, I’m always purging.

a friend has a dad who he says is a hoarder and dreads the day he and his siblings will have to deal with clearing the family home. he is SO offended by the situation and concerned that there may be some kind of potential for he himself to start down this path that when he built his VERY LARGE home he purposely did not build any but the bare minimum areas for storage and even those purposely have minimal and open shelving so he can see exactly how much he has accumulated and purge as needed.
 
We worked on decluttering our garage last weekend due to new toys DH bought. Unfortunately, much just went to the storage unit, but I did get rid of a lot of trash, which made me happy. I find enjoyment in purging small goals at a time. There's been a box of randomness at the top of our stairs for a year because it wasn't mine (mom's) and someone else needed to tackle it. I finally had enough and began to sort through it only to have my DD announce that it was trash. She was just too lazy to take it out. :headache:
 
Very surprised. This morning DW started going through her closet and pulling out shirts. She pulled out about 30 and said if I haven't worn these in 3 years, Im not going to wear them. I said I thought you wouldn't get rid of them cause I thought you were a hoarder. She said I am not a hoarder. And proceeded to put the 30 shirts into a box for me to take to the dumpster.

Also, I started going through a Disney collectibles box we've had in the closet for a year or two. I found a few things I want to try and sell, even if for $5-$10 bucks (according to eBay sold listings). Just don't know where to sell them. I'm guessing eBay is the only option.
 
I can’t wait to declutter my closet. I’m redoing my bedroom closet sometime soon. Once the Xmas gifts are out of my office closet My plan is to pull everything out of the bedroom closet and move it to the office while declutterring.
I did my closet in 2025 and it is the best room so far that I have decluttered....I can walk in and know that the items in the closet are something that I will actually wear.
 
I’m going for 500 items this year. Last year I got rid of about 2000 items and completed a major remodel on the house. This year I want to get rid of anything we don’t need in the basement, clean out the two guest bedrooms and a serious cleaning out of my clothes. I have a lot of business clothes in have not worn since Covid and it doesn’t seem like we are going back to that style of office clothes.
 
I don't have a specific number goal, as honestly trying to count items as I purge sounds stressful to me lol. My goal is to do a deep dive purge/organization on every room/closet/storage space in our room. It'll roughly be 2 spaces per month. Will use this space to list my weekly to do lists/goals once I get the first one going. Happy purging, everyone!
 
I'm with Ariel1025--if hard numbers work for some people, that's great, but I'm better off focusing on specific spaces (like my craft room or closet) or items (like books or clothes). Right now, I'm looking at my shelves of cookbooks--I love them, but there are some I haven't opened in years. I can definitely donate a few...dozen, and still keep the ones I actually use. And Pinterest.
 
I decided to already change my plan... 3 days in LOL! Keeping an item total is annoying to me. Instead, I'm going to aim to do a 15 minute declutter session, 3x a month. My house is not currently very cluttered so if I truly stick to that by the end of the year it'll be back fully in action. We decluttered to minimalist levels in 2021 when we moved- it was wild- so now in 2026 it's just some extra stuff that has crept back in. I know it won't be too hard to get it back in check. I might even do 1 session of garbage (just go room to room and throw out stuff that has accumulated that we don't need but is truly trash) and 2 sessions for donations a month.
 
I'm hoping to purge my entire closet by the end of the year. I just started my GLP1 journey and I'm feeling really hopeful. I told DH today I'm not buying another piece of clothing until it's 2 sizes down, I have plenty in my current size and a size down to last until I can hopefully go shopping! At that time, I plan on building a very intentional capsule type wardrobe, no buying something just because it's on sale, etc. Wish me luck!

ETA: We have a "free table" at work where anyone can bring anything (not clothing) in. It's great, I love taking stuff in and seeing it gone by the end of the day.
 
Ok. I sat down and worked on a plan for the year. For January my goal is our garage. It's only one area but it's a BIG one. Easily the biggest of the tasks ahead of me. I broke it down into bit sized chunks and will check-in here weekly to hold myself accountable.

  1. Chest freezer
  2. Upright freezer
  3. "Landing" on east end of garage
  4. Lawn tools corner
  5. Large cleaning supplies corner
  6. Large holiday decor corner
  7. Luggage area
  8. Area between upright freezer and shelving units
  9. Walkway between shelving units and treadmill
  10. Top of desk
  11. Under desk
  12. Desk drawer 1
  13. Desk drawer 2
  14. Desk cabinet 1
  15. Desk cabinet 2
  16. Shelving unit 1 - shelf 1 (random sports equipment)
  17. Shelving unit 1 - shelf 2 (random cleaning supplies)
  18. Shelving unit 1 - shelf 3 (storage totes x3)
  19. Shelving until 1 - shelf 4 (storage totes x3)
  20. Shelving unti 1 - shelf 5 (storage totes x3)
  21. Shelving unit 2 - shelf 1 (random holiday decor)
  22. Shelving unit 2 - shelf 2 (storage totes x3)
  23. Shelving unit 2 - shelf 3 (storage totes x3)
  24. Shelving unit 2 - shelf 4 (storage totes x3)
  25. Shelving unit 2 - shelf 5 (random outdoor/grill/smoker supplies)
  26. Shelving unit 3 - shelf 1 (storage totes x5)
  27. Shelving unit 3 - shelf 2 (storage totes x3)
  28. Shelving unit 3 - shelf 3 (storage totes x3)
  29. Shelving unit 3 - shelf 4 (storage totes x3)
  30. Shelving unit 3 - shelf 5 (storage totes x3)
  31. Shelving unit 4 - shelf 1 (storage totes x3)
  32. Shelving unit 4 - shelf 2 (random who knows what stuff thrown everywhere)
  33. Shelving unit 4 - shelf 3 (storage totes x3)
  34. Shelving unit 4 - shelf 4 (storage totes x3)
  35. Shelving unit 4 - shelf 5 (storage totes x3)
  36. Recycle pile
  37. Storage boxes/bags x ~100 🫣
  38. Van trunk
  39. Van back row
  40. Van middle row
  41. Van front, passenger side
  42. Van front, driver's side
In theory, I'll knock out 6-7 boxes/shelves/corners a day to reach my goal by the end of the month. But we'll see how it really pans out. I know, for sure, I want to start with the freezers so that I can get a solid meal plan going as well. From there, I'd like to knock out everything that's blocking me from using my treadmill. Again, we'll see what actually happens when I get started on Monday. Have a great week, everyone!
 


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