16 and Pregnant

[Mrs. Chamberlain]

That's what the quotes are for. I know it's a very hard decision, it's not easy. But it's relatively easier then carrying a child for 9 months, being in labor for hours upon hours, giving birth, and then taking care of a child for the rest of your life starting at 16.

Well, how would you know, seeing as though you don't have a child? Abortions do seem like a very hard decision, and I have to agree, it doesn't make it the "easy way out" of it.

 

[Cinderelli16]

That's what the quotes are for. I know it's a very hard decision, it's not easy. But it's relatively easier then carrying a child for 9 months, being in labor for hours upon hours, giving birth, and then taking care of a child for the rest of your life starting at 16.

ITA.

 

[Sparx]

That's what the quotes are for. I know it's a very hard decision, it's not easy. But it's relatively easier then carrying a child for 9 months, being in labor for hours upon hours, giving birth, and then taking care of a child for the rest of your life starting at 16.

i definitely think the easy way out of a teen pregnancy is leaving the responsibility up to your parents. many pregnant teens end up doing that, and many grandparents have raised their grandchildren. i consider that to be the "easy" way out. and the people who do that are the ones i absolutely lose respect for.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

Well, how would you know, seeing as though you don't have a child? Abortions do seem like a very hard decision, and I have to agree, it doesn't make it the "easy way out" of it.

Because I have friends that have had kids at very young ages, and it was VERY hard for them to raise a child as a teenager.

I realize abortions are very hard to do, but in the long run they are "easier" because you don't have a child to take care of.

Yeah, they will probably feel guilty for most of their life, and it will take an emotional toll on the girl and boy, but some people are able to just forget about it. Again, I have friends who have gotten abortions. They were able to move on, and their lives are much simpler now than if they went through with the pregnancy and took care of the child.

That's the only reason why I'm saying it's the "easier" way out. Because if they are able to move on and try their best to forget about the abortion, then their lives are much simpler and they can still be normal teenagers.

 

[Mrs. Chamberlain]

i definitely think the easy way out of a teen pregnancy is leaving the responsibility up to your parents. many pregnant teens end up doing that, and many grandparents have raised their grandchildren. i consider that to be the "easy" way out. and the people who do that are the ones i absolutely lose respect for.

My little brother's best friend's grandma has custody of both him and his sister. Both moms are out of the picture and the dad is in and out of jail. I feel so bad for the kids. One is 13 and the other is 3.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

i definitely think the easy way out of a teen pregnancy is leaving the responsibility up to your parents. many pregnant teens end up doing that, and many grandparents have raised their grandchildren. i consider that to be the "easy" way out. and the people who do that are the ones i absolutely lose respect for.

I agree. The teen shouldn't pass off all the responsibility to their parents or grandparents.

Though, some parents and grandparents would rather do that than have their daughter/son give it up to strangers for adoption. In that case, I see nothing wrong with it.

But if the teen just gives up and the parents have no choice but to care for the baby, that's totally wrong. If the teen thinks she is responsible enough for sex, she should be responsible enough to be the primary source of care for the child.

 

[Mrs. Chamberlain]

Because I have friends that have had kids at very young ages, and it was VERY hard for them to raise a child as a teenager.

I realize abortions are very hard to do, but in the long run they are "easier" because you don't have a child to take care of.

Yeah, they will probably feel guilty for most of their life, and it will take an emotional toll on the girl and boy, but some people are able to just forget about it. Again, I have friends who have gotten abortions. They were able to move on, and their lives are much simpler now than if they went through with the pregnancy and took care of the child.

That's the only reason why I'm saying it's the "easier" way out. Because if they are able to move on and try their best to forget about the abortion, then their lives are much simpler and they can still be normal teenagers.

A lot of the time, women who get abortions are unable to take care of the children for one reason or the other. If the women is unable to take care of the kid, I honestly think it's better if they have an abortion then put a kid through the drama of foster care. A lot of kids in foster care end up getting in a lot of trouble because they don't have a strong role model to look up to.

 

[Sparx]

i think adoption to a family is the best option. but abandonment to an orphanage is worse than abortion (in my opinion.) i only consider giving up for adoption to be very good when there is a waiting person/couple to take the child.

 

[Sparx]

A lot of the time, women who get abortions are unable to take care of the children for one reason or the other. If the women is unable to take care of the kid, I honestly think it's better if they have an abortion then put a kid through the drama of foster care. A lot of kids in foster care end up getting in a lot of trouble because they don't have a strong role model to look up to.

i would rather a child not be born than to be born into a family that doesn't love it. pro-lifers will say that the child deserves to experience life, but i disagree. children shouldn't be forced into a living hell. and i think that if abortions were cheaper, easier to get, and more readily available there would be many many many fewer cases of abused and hurt children.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

A lot of the time, women who get abortions are unable to take care of the children for one reason or the other. If the women is unable to take care of the kid, I honestly think it's better if they have an abortion then put a kid through the drama of foster care. A lot of kids in foster care end up getting in a lot of trouble because they don't have a strong role model to look up to.

I'm 100% pro-choice. I know there are reasons that women choose to end a pregnancy, and I fully support that. I even understand why teens choose to get abortions, because I know I would never have been able to provide a good life for a child at 16.

I have a lot more respect for the girls who choose to keep the baby and raise it themselves, because that takes a lot of guts and determination.

i think adoption to a family is the best option. but abandonment to an orphanage is worse than abortion (in my opinion.) i only consider giving up for adoption to be very good when there is a waiting person/couple to take the child.

ITA. My BF was put into foster care in Guatemala, and he told me horror stories that made me sob hysterically. I will never, EVER put a child into an orphanage or foster care. Like you said, the only way I would ever consider adoption would be if I had a family waiting, and I thoroughly interviewed them to make sure they would provide a good life for the baby.

i would rather a child not be born than to be born into a family that doesn't love it. pro-lifers will say that the child deserves to experience life, but i disagree. children shouldn't be forced into a living hell. and i think that if abortions were cheaper, easier to get, and more readily available there would be many many many fewer cases of abused and hurt children.

Again, ITA.

 

[imabrat]

I think abortion is really a relative term. I know girls at my high school who use abortion has birth control. They have sex, unexpectedly get pregnant, and then get an abortion. They do this over and over and over again. For these girls, yes it absolutely is the easiest way out.
I think what Julie was trying to say is that it's the easiest way out physically, not mentally. For teenage girls, their appearance is everything - some would rather suffer a menta breakdown from an abortion than get "fat" because of a baby.

i would rather a child not be born than to be born into a family that doesn't love it. pro-lifers will say that the child deserves to experience life, but i disagree. children shouldn't be forced into a living hell.

 

[JulielovesDisney]

I think abortion is really a relative term. I know girls at my high school who use abortion has birth control. They have sex, unexpectedly get pregnant, and then get an abortion. They do this over and over and over again. For these girls, yes it absolutely is the easiest way out.
I think what Julie was trying to say is that it's the easiest way out physically, not mentally. For teenage girls, their appearance is everything - some would rather suffer a menta breakdown from an abortion than get "fat" because of a baby.

That's EXACTLY what I was trying to say. Mentally, it's just as hard, if not harder, as going through with the pregnancy.

Physically, finacially, etc, it's easier.

 

[Sparx]

That's EXACTLY what I was trying to say. Mentally, it's just as hard, if not harder, as going through with the pregnancy.

Physically, finacially, etc, it's easier.

i agree with you, but i do have to say that sometimes some very awful physical ramifications result from abortion. many women become infertile after having one, due to birth control supplements being placed directly into the ******l canal during the abortion. i don't know if this is currently still practiced, but if it is, it has horrible physical results.it can end ovulation permanently. it happened to many many women for a long time.
(these are the less reputable abortion clinics preforming this operation)

 

[BabyPiglet]

I agree with Julie, adortion might be easier physically, but it definitely isn't mentally.

IF I got pregnant, I don't feel like I'd be strong enough to get an abortion or even put the baby up for adoption. I can't imagine being pregnant though, even at 17.

 

[♥Ariel♥]

i most definitely do not consider abortion the easy way out. its hard, it hurts, and its emotionally scarring (not to mention its freaking expensive. they can be more than 1000.00) abortion is a very hard choice to make, and i don't think such a big decision should be called the easy way out.

abortions make you a killer

 

[Sparx]

abortions make you a killer

either way you're going to hell for having premarital sex in the first place, right?

 

[Mrs. Chamberlain]

abortions make you a killer

And condemning someone for getting an abortion is judging. And only God is supposed to do that, correct?

 

[JulielovesDisney]

I agree with Julie, adortion might be easier physically, but it definitely isn't mentally.

IF I got pregnant, I don't feel like I'd be strong enough to get an abortion or even put the baby up for adoption. I can't imagine being pregnant though, even at 17.

I would definitely keep the baby. At this point, I think I would be able to take care of a baby, even though I would have to do A LOT of growing up in a very short span of time. But I could never get an abortion (unless it's for medical reasons) or give the baby up for adoption.

 

[Sparx]

I would definitely keep the baby. At this point, I think I would be able to take care of a baby, even though I would have to do A LOT of growing up in a very short span of time. But I could never get an abortion (unless it's for medical reasons) or give the baby up for adoption.

i don't feel i woudl be able to support a child at this point in time, not emotionally, but financially.

 

[goofyandplutoluver]

i bet this thread is gonna turn into a religion debate. lalala.

My favorite episode was when that guy went to walmart to buy an engagement ring then asked the woman working about the exchange policy.