14 DD getting ripped apart from ex-friend(long)

[MUFFYCAT]

I'm posting this here, because I thought being that you all are the same age you might help.
My 14 DD ex-friend is saying alot of bad things about her on myspace.com.
Granted some of it is true, but the girl is really getting down low.
My DD has lied about her surfing and what high school she is going to.
She has always told lies to impress people but then gets caught later.
I have also caught this girl in some lies, but not as big as Valerie's.
This girls has on her myspace homepage a "I own Valerie letter"
In that she calls her a lesbian(no signs yet), liar and that she stinks all the time. Many of the kids from schhol have commented some good, some bad.

I know what she did was wrong, but should she confront this girl, especially on myspace.com or not say anything? This girl is not part of the "cool group " but did tell some of them.

Thanks for all your help.

 

[TheHiddenMickey]

Eeek!

Tough situation. I would confront her and apologize for what I said then tell her that those comments really hurt me and ask her to please remove them.

I hope all works out.

 

[tinkerbelle22]

OMG, pixie dust for your DD. Sadly, this happens. I get the minor end of it at my school. Have her tell this girl that she's sorry for stretching the truth, and to stop these evil comments! DD should remind the girl what she's doing, and that it's cruel and hurtful.

 

[Cass]

I think I would call the girls parents and ask them to have her remove the comments and I would tell my daughter not to go to that site anymore.

 

[ann-e-mator]

I agree with Cass... I think that's really the only way it might stop. Good luck. I know what she feels like... In 3rd grade my best friend started telling everyone I was the Devils child because I have a ring of hazel around the center of my eyes, and the rest of my eye is blue. lol. Not as traumatic, but still hurtful.

 

[i_luv_potc]

I think I would call the girls parents and ask them to have her remove the comments and I would tell my daughter not to go to that site anymore.

i agree... tell the parents. if you go in person to tell the parents bring your DD with you. if the girl is with her parents the girl might denie (sp) what she's been doing so bring your daughter as a back up. or if the girl still denies what she's been doing show the parents the website. (but that's only if the girl pretends that she didn't do it)

you should still tell the parents strait out

good luck

 

[MUFFYCAT]

Thanks all for your ideas. It surprises me that you all think i should go to the parents. Wouldn't that start more trouble in which the girl would tell everyone that my DD told us instead of us finding it ourselves? and then accuse her of being a is snitch and cry baby?

thanks again.

 

[goofyandplutoluver]

with MUFFYCAT totally agree. do you know the exact website of her myspace. because is would be like http:/myspace/blah/usernames i think that is how it goes. well anyway try and get the exact website of all of this and print it out and mail it to her parents, in the mail. or something like that.

kinda the same as calling but if you mail u would give them what the problem is and they will see it for themselves and that way if the girl doesn't delet it her parents will!

 

[DisneyLover11491]

man toughy you could
1. tell alot of lies about her or
2. confronter and tell her to remove them
3. ive never been to my space but if there a moderator maybe she should tell them

 

[Tink3rb3ll]

I think I would call the girls parents and ask them to have her remove the comments and I would tell my daughter not to go to that site anymore.

I agree 1000%

 

[Florida_luvr924]

I think I would call the girls parents and ask them to have her remove the comments and I would tell my daughter not to go to that site anymore.

Definetly! That stinks so bad... I can't believe someone would do that! They must have some big insecurities or a very troubled home life.

 

[Daisymae26]

if you confront the girl, she could say she didn't do it, or erase it or something....
maybe the girl's parents don't know, so you would be doing them a favor by telling them...
or, find out if there's a moderator that can be a "go between" in the situation
Hope this helps!