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[C.Ann]

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[crz4mm2]

C Ann.... They can't have the memories of your trip
I feel for ya. I really do. I have the same relatives I think
I don't know what to say, except I am sorry.
Your DGD will understand. If not this year, some year.

Happy B-day to your DGD. Get her another trip to WDW That'll teach em!

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

Too bad they feel they have to 'one up' you - it's not a competition.

You might want to thank her for getting all the goodies for your gdg because now you can use that money to do something special on your trip.

 

[disneymom3]

Well, I tell ya what I would do--I would give DD the gifts that you guys bought for her BEFORE the ILs get there. Then when she opens theirs, she has to say, "Oh thank you." and then they get returned to the store. That is a crappy move.

And btw this is coming from someone whose child got his one and only thing he asked Santa for 6 days before Christmas last year from his grandma. Guess who is now refusing to celebrate Christmas with the family before the actual day of Christmas. Uhhh, yeah--that would be me.

 

[paigevz]

Fight back in the same underhanded way..............have DD tell MIL that she'll have to drop off the gifts early while DD is sleeping as they will be much too busy taking DD out to choose her own gifts on a shopping spree.

If you REALLY want to get her, then change the FROMs on the gifts to reflect who WOULD HAVE got her that, and leave only one small thing from MIL!

 

[CEDmom]

Is your DSIL going to allow his parents to give her all that? Honestly I would let anyone give that much to my DD. That's a crazy amount of stuff. What'll they do for Christmas?

No matter what they buy it won't get them the relationship you have with your DGD. It's the time you spend and the memories you create that matter.

 

[ckret01]

Oh Man!!!! That is lousy. After something like this there is no way I would even let them come on vacation with me after pulling a stunt like that.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

 

[Tazicket]

Good grief. I still don't understand why some people think that they are entitled to be invited on every vacation everyone they know takes- then pitch fits when they aren't invited. OP, how did you guys find out about what she did? I agree with the poster who advised you to give DGD the stuff you planned for early, then return everything from MIL in exchange for something else DGD wants.

Hang tough. After this display, do you still want to invite this person on your trip? Yah. Didn't think so.

 

[C.Ann]

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[VirtuallyMe]

I feel for you... been there done that- with my mom and my mil...

You can think of it this way- my mom is one who always wants to be the one to get everything for the kids- and be the first one to give them things etc etc- and my 18 and 14 yo's now think of her as the stuff person- they call my mil for the times they want to talk about something and my mom when they want stuff... works for them

My mil used to try to outdo my mom and it was really annoying- trying to get my kids anything they wanted for their birthdays or Christmas- and finally I told her to quit trying to keep up with my mom that she was a pro- and offer the kids more of her time- those sorts of memories last much longer than the toys, games, videos etc.

Depending on how old your grandchild is- she won't care who gave what to her or even know lol... at this age- and if it keeps going like I said eventually the kids will think of that grandmother as the one to go to for material things- but will come to you when they need someone to care...

 

[karebear1]

It's time for your son in law to step up and speak up! Your DD's MIL is way out of line. I agree with CEDmom! Too much for one kid!! He should tell her she can choose 2 things to give her and to return the rest. If the diea is to keep everything the MIL wants to give her then I say do it and then I like Maryjo's idea about thanking her for helping to make your trip so much more special - make sure you take pics of the special events so she (MIL) can enjoy them too! ;-)

 

[C.Ann]

Is your DSIL going to allow his parents to give her all that? Honestly I would let anyone give that much to my DD. That's a crazy amount of stuff. What'll they do for Christmas?

No matter what they buy it won't get them the relationship you have with your DGD. It's the time you spend and the memories you create that matter.

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You don't even want to know what Christmas looks like.. She's an only grandchild (and son-in-law is an only child) so just let your imagination run wild..

 

[kejoda]

I don't have words C.Ann. She is unbelievable.

 

[Tazicket]

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You don't even want to know what Christmas looks like.. She's an only grandchild (and son-in-law is an only child) so just let your imagination run wild..

 

[C.Ann]

I don't have words C.Ann. She is unbelievable.

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[Tazicket]

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Well - DGD chose to have her birthday party up here at the lake with me rather than one of the "structured" party places that her other Grandmother was going so graciously going to pay for (and believe me, the "other" Grandma is NOT happy about that), so I think I still have "top billing".. Not that it really matters, but I think it speaks volumes about what her priorities are in terms of relationships..

DGD is anxious to get back up here this weekend because we're supposed to make ghosts to hang in the trees for Halloween and make another scarecrow to put in a chair next to my door..

Oh - and she wants me to make her birthday cake.. Doesn't want anything to do with a "store bought" one...

I will not stoop to that woman's level and engage in a "buying" war.. Ain't gonna happen...

Good for you. Way to show tact and grace in a difficult situation.

 

[4nana]

Oh C.Ann dear, bless your hearts, I feel so bad for you and family . Honestly, I have never known anyone to stoop soooo loooooow !! Hope you teach your little DGD unfortunately money cannot buy love! Maybe DSIL needs to stand his ground, nip their behavior in the bud and lay the law down! How do you cope with this....sounds like MIL needs a new one ripped.

 

[kejoda]

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Well - DGD chose to have her birthday party up here at the lake with me rather than one of the "structured" party places that her other Grandmother was going so graciously going to pay for (and believe me, the "other" Grandma is NOT happy about that), so I think I still have "top billing".. Not that it really matters, but I think it speaks volumes about what her priorities are in terms of relationships..

DGD is anxious to get back up here this weekend because we're supposed to make ghosts to hang in the trees for Halloween and make another scarecrow to put in a chair next to my door..

Oh - and she wants me to make her birthday cake.. Doesn't want anything to do with a "store bought" one... \
I will not stoop to that woman's level and engage in a "buying" war.. Ain't gonna happen...

thats says it all C.Ann Her other Grandma may buy out the store but you give your heart. Can't think anything would be better than that.

 

[goofinoff]

Ahhhh...so there's "evil" lurking everywhere - huh?

Let's see... I just purchased an AP - and I'm going to be in Florida for 3 months after Christmas.. Maybe DGD would like airline tickets and park passes for her and her mom to fly on down for a second trip...

Nope..not gonna do it.. I won't stoop to her level.. Guess we're just going to have to find that "one thing" that DGD still wants and MIL isn't aware of..

What I find more annoying than anything else is that we practically have to put duct tape over our mouths so she doesn't sabatoge anything and everything we have planned.. That's just wrong..

If I were you I would get her everything Disney! Get her stuff for the trip. Get her so excited about the trip that the other stuff won't be that big of a deal. I would really hype Disney. Make it a Disney themed party!

 

[4nana]

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Well - DGD chose to have her birthday party up here at the lake with me rather than one of the "structured" party places that her other Grandmother was going so graciously going to pay for (and believe me, the "other" Grandma is NOT happy about that), so I think I still have "top billing".. Not that it really matters, but I think it speaks volumes about what her priorities are in terms of relationships..

DGD is anxious to get back up here this weekend because we're supposed to make ghosts to hang in the trees for Halloween and make another scarecrow to put in a chair next to my door..

Oh - and she wants me to make her birthday cake.. Doesn't want anything to do with a "store bought" one...

I will not stoop to that woman's level and engage in a "buying" war.. Ain't gonna happen...

Your update brought much joy to my heart ! Your little DGD is indeed very perceptive! Sounds like a wonderful BD celebration Gma with one special little girl!!