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[Wishing on a star]

Seriously, If my inlaws decided to invite themselves on my trip, I would make a big change to my ressies, and not tell them!!!


Live GUILT FREE!!!!


Do whatever it takes to enjoy this special time with your DD and DGD without any interference.

PS: knowledge is power. I would never have let my inlaws know this far in advance.

I am wondering if your son-in-law actually had ulterior motives for opening his mouth. If I am remembering right, your son-in-law seems to have a very hard time establishing boundaries with his parents. I would have been VERY specific when I made the plans that this was to be an exclusive trip, and that MUMM was the word.

The cost for the kennel would have been worth it! Or, perhaps there is somebody else who could have been asked to care for the pets. I would not have excluded MIL from the trip and then asked her for the favor.

 

[C.Ann]

Maybe it's just me, but if they were "gifting" a trip to my DD, her DH and my DGD, I certainly would not feel as though I should be invited as well..

 

[Disney Doll]

You are absolutely not a rat, especially since the MIL expects everyone to cater to her schedule and so forth.

It would be one thing if those folks who got up early and got going could do so and them MIL & FIL could catch up when they got themselves together, but for her to expect everyone to wait around while she schleps around all morning getting ready????...I don't think so!

You have no need to invite everyone all the time on thses trips. Go and have a good time.

 

[PixiePop]

You should go and have a great time and not worry about it!!

 

[Wishing on a star]

Yep... live and learn!!!

Really, you should go and gave a WONDERFUL time!!!!

If MIL starts to talk about making plans, you should talk to your DD, and have her tell hubby to handle it with his mother ASAP, as this trip is just for you and them.

I envy you having such a wonderful trip planned!!!
But, I won't try to tag along!

 

[LVSWL]

C.Ann,
This trip is a gift from you to them. You have no reason to feal guilty. Please do not let that spoil your excitment. As you said, they do special things with your daughter and her family and you are not included and that is fine. This is not a "tit for tat" thing. This is something that you wanted to do for them and for you and you are not obligated to include them even if you had the most wonderful time in the world last time you were there with them. By the way, lines wont be long, you are going to have a blast!That is a perfect time to go. Oh, did you ever make the custard?

 

[horseshowmom]

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No - I don't think there were any ulterior motives on my son-in-law's part.. His parents are the logical choice to take care of the pets as they live within 5 minutes of the house and my DD and her DH do the same for them when they're out of town.. (Actually they just came back from a short vacation last week and my son-in-law took care of their pets while they were gone..)

C. Ann please note that they didn't invite you to go on their vacation , so you are hereby released of any responsibility for including them on yours! The previous analogy of the TV was excellent.

I know what you mean though. It's easy to feel guilty (when you have no reason to do so). IF they should wind up going, just smile and go do your own thing.

When we have people accompany us, I always make it plain (as tactfully as possible! ) that we're going to do what we want to do (and that we expect them to do what they want to do - sometimes that may be together, sometimes it may be separately). Vacation costs too much (and the time is too valuable) to spend a lot of time figuring out "what everybody wants to do".

Best wishes, and I hope you have a great trip!

 

[zalansky]

Please do not invite them! You are certainly not a rat nor are you obligated in any way to invite them. This is a gift from you and I am sure you will make many treasured memories with your DD & family.