12/09/06 Cruise Continued ~ Pirating Bananas DIS Geekorama Part 2 Part 3

[lbgraves]

DH's parents are about 2 hours away and mine are 7 hours away and I really try hard to not have my Mom and my MIL in the same room. The first time they met was at our college graduation, the second time was the wedding rehearsal just 12 days later. The next time (and last time) was DS's 3rd birthday party 8 years later.

My MIL is and she drives my family (especially my Mom) nuts! My MIL will continually say negative things about me to my own Mom. I thought at the wedding my Mom might just try to hurt her and my Mom is not at all the physical type.

OY! I can sympathize! My mother talked trash to future MIL about DH.

 

[becka]

We give him a seperate gift with party paper. We do a birthday cake after dinner. BK we would celebrate it in July. I surprised him with a weekend in Wburg the first year...like Christmas in July...just to make it special.

My DH's birthday is 12/20 and his parents used to give him a "birthday" present wrapped in Christmas paper. What was even worse was that my MIL would get two of every gift so there was never any fighting between DH and his brother who was 5 years younger than him. At Christmas his brother always got whatever DH had gotten for his birthday.

I have always tried very hard to separate his birthday from Christmas because of that. I still feel sorry for him.

 

[Bella2000]

WOW! That makes me glad that family doesn't do birthdays or anniversaries. What do you keep getting people?

Tell me your secret how did you manage that one? We tried to do Secret Santas and my SIL went postal about her "kids" missing out - uhm they are in their mid-late 20s. So we still give multiple presents and receive..one.

 

[kimerinc]

I know this is odd, but I ADORED my MIL, she was the most wonderful, kind, loving, caretaking kind of person you will ever meet. I miss her a lot!

Kim

 

[lbgraves]

See that! Further confirmation that you rock!!

Well...I tried anyway. He had no idea where we were going...just told him what to pack & picked him up. We went to dinner next to waterfalls and he had no idea until the waitress came out with a birthday candle in his desert. We went on a short tour that day & did the candlelight tour that evening after dinner. The next morning I just about passed out when I got up & we had to leave because I caught a bad bug. He took care of me when I was sick though. I think that weekend opened my eyes and appreciate him for the first time.

 

[lbgraves]

Tell me your secret how did you manage that one? We tried to do Secret Santas and my SIL went postal about her "kids" missing out - uhm they are in their mid-late 20s. So we still give multiple presents and receive..one.

Well...we don't receive so we don't send...pretty simple. That's even happened with a couple for Christmas. Makes it easier on me.

 

[brack]

Will more 40-50 yr olds please step forward

Me 54yo and DW 52yo but very young acting

 

[klineyqueen]

My DH's birthday is 12/13 and when he was a child everyone wrapped his stuff in Christmas paper!!!! NOT I!!!! I always make it birthday stuff! The poor guy...3 times his Birthday was the night I gave my nighttime school concert. December is CRAZY for a music teacher. I usually have anywhere from 5 - 9 concerts to do in a matter of 2 weeks! His bday falls right in the middle of my 2 busiest weeks of the year!

 

[lbgraves]

I know this is odd, but I ADORED my MIL, she was the most wonderful, kind, loving, caretaking kind of person you will ever meet. I miss her a lot!

Kim

MIL's cancer has brought us closer...something I doubt would have happened otherwise. Becoming her advocate & shoulder to cry on when she needs to really makes me wish that she wasn't so ill.

 

[becka]

I know this is odd, but I ADORED my MIL, she was the most wonderful, kind, loving, caretaking kind of person you will ever meet. I miss her a lot!

Kim

I wish I had a MIL I could get along with but it was not to be. I have managed to deal with her over the years but we are never really going to get along although in the past year or so she has made a few comments that made me think she does not consider me entirely evil. I think she is starting to see that some of my "crazy" ideas about child rearing are not so bad.

She said that she liked how I played with the kids and how I could be silly with them because she never felt like she knew how to play with her boys so she never did. I think she has also decided that maybe taking the kids to the zoo, museums, etc.. might not have been a bad thing. DS and now DD has a great time and they seem to learn from it. She still thinks it is terrible that we travel with the kids but I think she has learned she is not going to be able to stop us.

 

[brack]

Speaking of that... Is the plan still for everyone to bring one of those keychain drives so we can all get pictures?

I'll have one.

 

[Bella2000]

My DH's birthday is 12/20 and his parents used to give him a "birthday" present wrapped in Christmas paper. What was even worse was that my MIL would get two of every gift so there was never any fighting between DH and his brother who was 5 years younger than him. At Christmas his brother always got whatever DH had gotten for his birthday.

I have always tried very hard to separate his birthday from Christmas because of that. I still feel sorry for him.

Good for you Becka. That is such a pet peeve of mine. It's not even about the present - it's the suggestion that your day is not as special in the eyes as others.

 

[klineyqueen]

I met DH while we were both working at Target... he was 19 and I was 20. I had the biggest crush on him but didn't think I had a chance with him. He found out my birthday was coming up and had balloons delivered to me while I was working. One week later we started dating and 9 months later we were married. We just knew we were meant for each other, we were already discussing marriage on our 2nd date!

That is sweet!!! When Jason and I finally started to date we knew we were going to get married right away!

 

[becka]

My DH's birthday is 12/13 and when he was a child everyone wrapped his stuff in Christmas paper!!!!

Why do people do that - especially to kids? I have heard that so many times from others born around Christmas as well. My DH hated Christmas because of stuff like that but over the years I have taught him to enjoy it some especially since we had kids.

 

[lbgraves]

Brandi, I found out DH's bday the first night we met. LOL! He guessed my age and was wrong. He asked for my DL right on the dance floor because he didn't believe me. When he said that his bday was in December I said "you aren't a Christmas baby are you?" OOPS!

It has actually played a part in discussing the real meaning of Christmas with the kids. Daddy's birthday is that day so they can identify with it being Jesus' birthday too.

 

[klineyqueen]

My DS is two years older than you. I feel ..... no I am old.

You are only as old as you feel!!!!!

 

[brack]

Brack, are people going to peek at us? Can I put a sign that says DH has claustrophobia and we know Lisa, no peeking...

Kim

Just remember to close the curtains and bolt the door; you'll be alright. Although the warning sign will help.

 

[becka]

I just happened to notice that we are over 1,000 posts ahead of the 8/19 cruisers. Wasn't it just a few days ago that we were 1,000 posts behind them?

 

[tynkerbell]

My MIL and I didn't really mesh well at first. I think she was convinced that our marriage wouldn't work because we married so young and so quickly, but now that I've been in the family over 13 years I think she's realized she's stuck with me and she's a little easier to tolerate.

 

[lbgraves]

DS's Bday is 11/14 so we did things a little differently for a few years. Bday gifts then Christmas a month later. We split things up & the Easter bunny brought gifts in the basket & a couple out. It was so hard to do age appropriate things for the entire year in the span of 5 weeks. We don't do that as much anymore. Holidays have been scaled down for us. There was never alot spent with 75% off clearance but the stuff was taking over!