Thanks for the good thoughts regarding Nathan. I just dont know what is wrong with that kid. I know I am not a super great parent but it is just killing me that he is having so many problems and I dont know how to fix them and I cant figure out how I have caused them either.
Wednesday Nathan had a great day at school except for a minor incident when he was pretending to be a shark.
I really was not expecting problems yesterday (especially after a great day the day before) but when we went to pick him up we got a big surprise. Apparently yesterday morning during outside play Nathan and two other boys pushed down a classmate and proceeded to kick him. When the teachers yelled at them to stop the other boys did but not Nathan who thought it was funny and kept kicking.
The teachers dont know exactly what they were playing but the kid being kicked was actually laughing about it. His teacher just seemed horrified by the behavior.
He had to sit out the remainder of outside play and they had a long talk. His teacher told him that she had to write a report about this and that she would have to tell us. He told her that he did not care. She asked him if he would be in trouble at home and be punished and he told her that he would be he didnt care.
He then spent the rest of the day not listening, destroying the art work of other kids in the class, etc.. He was just out of control. All they could do was send him to time-out which is a joke to him and he spends the time laughing hysterically and trying to get the other kids to laugh too.
After hearing all of this at school I was just devastated and I cried pretty much the whole way home. I was so mad, angry, sad, upset, shocked
you name it.. and I just could not (can not) process it all. When we got home Nathan had a very quick dinner, a bath (basically just DH washing him off in the tub no playing) and then he went straight to bed. I was so upset that I couldnt even begin to figure out how to punish him for this.
I feel like somewhere we must have gone really wrong and I just dont know where. Nathan can be so sweet but then he can be so out of control. I dont know what is causing these issues and I am concerned that he seems to not care for any consequence. He is always punished at home for bad behavior at school. We take away TV, video games, board games, power rangers, early bedtime, etc
over the last few months and while he certainly acts like he cares at the time maybe he really doesnt. We have also tried rewards for good behavior but after 1-2 days (if we are lucky) he doesnt care about that either even if the reward is one on one time with us playing a game, etc.. He also doesnt seem to care about rewards at school either.
A friend of mine thinks we should clean out his room of toys and leave nothing and then make him behave at school in order to get things slowly back over the next month or so. She thinks it will take a big shocking punishment to get his attention and maybe she is right. I know he needs to be punished for his behavior because it is not acceptable but I really wish I could get to the root cause of why he is doing all this. I just cannot figure it out and I feel so bad for not being able to. I am really worried about him and I feel so hopeless and powerless. This is possibly one of the worst feelings I have ever had.
Fun stuff!!
It's hard to be a parent.....
Each child is so different, even with the exact same parenting the results are different. Just keep on keeping on, be consistent and keep showing him that you love him. Things do work out.
Be sure to show us the pics.
Expecially the way the older ones would treat the younger ones. I have tried very hard since to not yell as much. 
