Aliceacc
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- Jul 2, 2007
I'm starting to think we're just being trolled.
That's probably the least troubling scenario.
I'm starting to think we're just being trolled.
That is exactly what i think.I'm starting to think we're just being trolled.
How many have you have read that my sister did not live there permanently? When did I say that she visited more than me in the last two years? I said she goes where ever she wants because she had no responsibilities except her husband and 2 dogs.
Topsy Travelers is assuming I had another screen name, which is untrue. I know both involved in the other scenario. Talk about wrong information, I am not going to a counselor for a court action. I have been seeing them because of the medication issue. This is what happens when someone assumes something.
I have read everything and YES hospice took my dad off all meds. I have spoken with their friend who is helping them and with the woman who cleans the house. She is a friend to my mom and takes her to caregiver classes every Tuesday.
I have been asking my sibs to get her checked. I was asking them before this incident and they never answered me. I am basically having to back her decision because my brother told me too. I know that she might not be thinking clear. This is why I have asked my sibs look into this.
My psychiatrist also felt the olanzaprine was a bad med.
I have backed off and have apologized to my mother. I will not apologize to my sibs. When I have been wrong, I have always apologized. When they are wrong, I don't get the same courtesy ever.
Let's just ask give it a rest. I say I would like her in a home but she won't go. I get called out for backing her, even though I am not the one who made the decision and was told to abide by it.
I get what everyone is saying. I want the best care for my parents. But with my brother making the calls, they will never be in a facility, PERIOD.
End of story!
Yes, I fear I may have confused you with another poster. I blame that mix up on the fact that you and that "other" poster both live in Florida and were involved in a falling out with a friend over Facebook photos and a civic group fundraiser that dragged on for more than a year and ended with court involvement, both have California-residing fathers with Alzheimer's, both have husbands who suffer from chronic headaches as a result of nerve damage caused by lipoma-removal surgery, you both have daughters who work at Home Depot, both help raise your granddaughters, and you both have contentious relationships with your siblings. Oh, and you both go by the name Mari. And even though you're not that "other" poster, you just so happen to know her IN REAL LIFE. But you're totally not the same person.How many have you have read that my sister did not live there permanently? When did I say that she visited more than me in the last two years? I said she goes where ever she wants because she had no responsibilities except her husband and 2 dogs.
Topsy Travelers is assuming I had another screen name, which is untrue. I know both involved in the other scenario. Talk about wrong information, I am not going to a counselor for a court action. I have been seeing them because of the medication issue. This is what happens when someone assumes something.
I have read everything and YES hospice took my dad off all meds. I have spoken with their friend who is helping them and with the woman who cleans the house. She is a friend to my mom and takes her to caregiver classes every Tuesday.
I have been asking my sibs to get her checked. I was asking them before this incident and they never answered me. I am basically having to back her decision because my brother told me too. I know that she might not be thinking clear. This is why I have asked my sibs look into this.
My psychiatrist also felt the olanzaprine was a bad med.
I have backed off and have apologized to my mother. I will not apologize to my sibs. When I have been wrong, I have always apologized. When they are wrong, I don't get the same courtesy ever.
Let's just ask give it a rest. I say I would like her in a home but she won't go. I get called out for backing her, even though I am not the one who made the decision and was told to abide by it.
I get what everyone is saying. I want the best care for my parents. But with my brother making the calls, they will never be in a facility, PERIOD.
End of story!
Some things are contradictory, but I'm not only reading what the OP has said, but also thinking from a practical standpoint. Flying her sister from NC to CA every month or two for at least the past 3 years would cost Mom & Dad site a bit of money. If they have that kind of money, they should be afford more consistent care. Her sister may have been there more often that she, but logically only her brother is in a position to be there on a consistent basis. Unless of course her parents are wealthier than most & we just haven't been told.well--to be fair, early on OP said her sister had taken the mother up on many more offers of paid affairto visit---so the initial version of events made it sound to many of us as if the sister visits every month or two whereas OP has only visited once or twice a year.
probably true--but then it still vaires.Some things are contradictory, but I'm not only reading what the OP has said, but also thinking from a practical standpoint. Flying her sister from NC to CA every month or two for at least the past 3 years would cost Mom & Dad site a bit of money. If they have that kind of money, they should be afford more consistent care. Her sister may have been there more often that she, but logically only her brother is in a position to be there on a consistent basis. Unless of course her parents are wealthier than most & we just haven't been told.
Some things are contradictory, but I'm not only reading what the OP has said, but also thinking from a practical standpoint. Flying her sister from NC to CA every month or two for at least the past 3 years would cost Mom & Dad site a bit of money. If they have that kind of money, they should be afford more consistent care. Her sister may have been there more often that she, but logically only her brother is in a position to be there on a consistent basis. Unless of course her parents are wealthier than most & we just haven't been told.
I agree it appears, from what we've been told, they're not being properly cared for. The brother is the only one that even lives close enough to check on them in person frequently. It sounds like they need a lot more care that just being checked on & taken to the doctor though. IMHO, if in fact the parents do have the money to fly someone from NC to CA every month or two, that money would be better spent on more consistent care.I'm pretty sure she said her brother is training for an 'ironman' event and only comes by once a week or so.
So really no one is managing their care on a consistent basis.
Which is why I said they should be placed some where they can get the care they need.
I agree it appears, from what we've been told, they're not being properly cared for. The brother is the only one that even lives close enough to check on them in person frequently. It sounds like they need a lot more care that just being checked on & taken to the doctor though. IMHO, if in fact the parents do have the money to fly someone from NC to CA every month or two, that money would be better spent on more consistent care.